To never invite this annoying little brat round again

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Dds friend (9) is round for dinner... know she is a fussy fucker but her mum did tell me she eats anything. Cue today Shepard pie , after picking all the peas out of the damn thing she proceeds to sit at the table making super loud ewww, and yuck noises, while moaning she doesn't like it. There are 5 other kids sat round the table ffs.

She had also completely ignored anything my dd has wanted to do and just buggered off with the other kids, keeps just picking my newborn up without asking, moaning to play on my iPad and get the rabbits out when it's pissing down. I could go on I actually had to leave the room while dinner was happening!
Never known anything like it!

I'm immature? No just shocked by such vile behaviour I've hosted enough play dates and party's etc and have never witness this shit ever before.. yes I left the room..as she was making me feel sick TBH. You are out of order for calling me immature just because I didn't have a go at someone else's child.

I've left the room before instead of blowing my top at extremely badly behaved rude visiting children. Sometimes you just have to.

Love the fact that so far op, you're immature, awful person and should be embarrassed for wanting to take this girl home who hasn't really done much bad behaviour
If i'd done half of what this girl did my dad wouldn't have let me leave the house for a week!
That behaviour is appalling, she is old enough to know better!
I can understand you not wanting to tell the mom, but i think you may have to or you may end up having to dodge her!

The choices your oh made for not telling her to stop will have reinforced her behaviour and given her the indication she could get away with it or that it was ok.

As an adult, you really ought to tell the mother. I get that it's embarrassing and probably frightening - I know I'd be frightened of her reaction whether it be anger or her turning into a blubbering mess. The mother needs to know and by not telling her, you are doing this little girl a massive disservice.

Don't try to offload this child's bad behaviour onto her with a guilt trip.That comes very close to bullying

Oh, come ON Bullying FFS.

The mum said the kid will eat anything including the dish she served up. The kid was rude. A simple, I am sorry I don't like this. Would have sufficed. If the kid has SN, the mother would have told her. She didn't. There is no excuse for simple bad behaviour. She is nine. She knows how to behave. She broke house rules despite being reminded more than once. No more play dates with this madam.

OP I used this thread as an example of what not to do to my 5yo yesterday.

She was saying YUK to what DH was eating and we told her how it wasn't polite
Then I used this as an example of what not to do...

And honestly, last Summer DD was 4yo and we went on a playdate, she didn't like dinner, (spag bol but cooked differently to what we do at home) but asked for extra cheese, ate the cheese and a bit of the spaghetti and then when we got home asked me for some toast as she hadn't liked the food so hadn't eaten much.

We praised her for that behaviour and yeseterday reminded her that is the way to behave!

Haha! Op doesn't seem well equipped to deal with play dates! Wtf??

I'd never invite them back ever either. Seriously can't stand rude children and I'm super intolerant of fussy eaters.

Op has said the mother is nice and approachable enough. She is choosing not to approach the mother. Were the mother nasty or disrespectful, I wouldn't have said it. I am struggling to understand how what I've said is nasty or bullying. I'm talking about the adult thing to do, not about guilt tripping her.

I wouldn't invite her back either. She sounds awful.

I'd be beyond mortified if my child behaved like that. The mother is clearly not doing her child any favours by letting her get away with this at home.

Sorry OP but you do sound immature and like you've had quite an extreme reaction to a child's poor behaviour.
Are you seriously saying it's beyond the wit of you to ask the child to get down from the table and wait in the sitting room while you finish your meal? I just can't actually believe you got so angry you had to walk out! Passive aggressive, stroppy and not able to guide a child! So much drama and no attempt to manage the situation. Just endure it and then seek validation for you passive behaviour. you sound weak and ineffective and I don't think you should host play dates if you can communicate with children or their parents because it will make you feel awkward!

Ps and there is a world of difference between "having a go" at a child and calmly explaining about unwanted behaviour!

Like I said that was basically the last straw..I had just spent 5 minutes picking the bastard peas out of it I'd just had enough of the whole thing by this point. And like I said before I was just shocked by the rudeness if I hadn't left the room I probably would have chucked the dinner in her face.

And yes I suppose I could have told her off, that's me being stupid thinking she would go back to her mum calling me the wicked witch of the west.

You are entitled to your interpretation Francis and I am entitled to mine. The parent is failing the child and op has not taken the opportunity to gently tell her that her child's behaviour regarding the dead animal concerned her. Perhaps the parent is aware of some of the child's behaviour and it is unlikely to be aware of the child's curiosity with a dead animal. For this reason alone, I believe the responsible thing to do is tell the parent.. Instead she has chosen to berate a young child on an open forum. I do not agree with this choice and as this is a forum, I can state this clearly.

That comes across as rather po faced. Telling the parent will go down like a lead balloon and what purpose served? "Open Internet forum" it's all anonymous!

I thought that's were forums were for though to talk anonymously and honestly... I haven't berated her I've just told the truth.

*Today 10:24 DixieNormas

And why on earth did a child saying yuck make you feel so sick you had to leave the room? I think you are being a bit ridiculous now*
If someone had spent their time burping and spitting their food back onto the plate i'd feel rather sick too