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To never invite this annoying little brat round again

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LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 16/05/2017 17:31

Dds friend (9) is round for dinner... know she is a fussy fucker but her mum did tell me she eats anything. Cue today Shepard pie , after picking all the peas out of the damn thing she proceeds to sit at the table making super loud ewww, and yuck noises, while moaning she doesn't like it. There are 5 other kids sat round the table ffs.

She had also completely ignored anything my dd has wanted to do and just buggered off with the other kids, keeps just picking my newborn up without asking, moaning to play on my iPad and get the rabbits out when it's pissing down. I could go on I actually had to leave the room while dinner was happening!
Never known anything like it!

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expatinscotland · 16/05/2017 18:05

Always felt rather sorry for Leah. First of all she was betrothed to Esau, who was a murderer and could be a nasty piece of work so she begged God for a change. Then she managed to be married to Jacob, but he did not love her as much as he loved Rachel, her sister, despite her having all those babies.

BeyondThePage · 16/05/2017 18:05

not unreasonable, never invite again, don't need to say anything. In fact if you say nothing at all, people tend to get the message - the unwritten rule for "playdates" is - "oh they were lovely" anything less means "OMG , I'm never having them here again it was Hell"

We had a few that we avoided due to sheer rudeness and inability to focus on anything other than TV or computer games.

expatinscotland · 16/05/2017 18:05

Sorry, wrong thread Grin.

Witchend · 16/05/2017 18:06

Sometimes they behave totally different at someone else's house. You might find your dd is similarly behaved at hers.

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 16/05/2017 18:06

Yes TBH I think my kids are just as mortified! I have had her round before but dd also had another friend round at the same time, so I didn't notice how bad she actually was.

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GiraffesAndButterflies · 16/05/2017 18:07

What on earth thread is that from expat?! Grin

WaitrosePigeon · 16/05/2017 18:08

I think she needs to be collected early.

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 16/05/2017 18:09

Witchend I can 100 percent say my dd isn't the same round her house she has selective mutism and doesn't talk around any one else's house and is amazingly well behaved!

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WankersHacksandThieves · 16/05/2017 18:09

This is why my son would only decide to accept a play date after he'd asked what they were having for dinner :o

He is borderline aspergers and extremely fussy - the parents were always fine with ait and found it funny - even the one who said they were having tuna fish curry, saw his face and said "i'll take that as a no then?" he always got invited back but the parents started asking me beforehand what he liked to save embarrassment.

I'm a soft touch so I would always cook whatever my boys friends liked for dinner - it was never anything too extravagant. Usually plain pasta etc.

Trifleorbust · 16/05/2017 18:09

Aren't you worried the mum is going to see this post and see you calling her child a brat and a fucker?

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 16/05/2017 18:10

No not worried.

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morningtoncrescent62 · 16/05/2017 18:11

Jacob is highly overrated IMO.

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 16/05/2017 18:12

Partner has just told her to put her shoes on..she said why?Grin

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ItsNachoCheese · 16/05/2017 18:13

This gives me the fear for when my ds is of playdate age... Grin i would be raging if a child was like that in my home

ItsNachoCheese · 16/05/2017 18:13

Is it hometime by any chance? lolathedarkdestroyer

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DailyMailReadersAreThick · 16/05/2017 18:15

WankersHacksandThieves

Your son sounds hilarious and clearly has good taste. I think I'd have to invent an excuse if invited for tuna curry Shock

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 16/05/2017 18:15

X post with SnowBalls

Another one with good taste!

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 16/05/2017 18:18

Shoes on and ready to get in the car thank fuck.

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WankersHacksandThieves · 16/05/2017 18:19

Yeah, the tuna fish curry is a no from me too. If I remember correctly I think the play date went ahead at my house as her DS wanted to escape too. We probably had something more appealing :o

I'm all for healthy eating but life is just too short for tuna fish curry.

He's 17 now and he doesn't really talk to "strangers" or people he knows anymore :( He can still be funny when he puts his mind to it. Slightly less fussy now too.

Deemail · 16/05/2017 18:20

The thing is your own dd behaves differently around other people's houses by not speaking so can you not see that it's possible this child is also behaving differently that she would at home?

Some kids are hard work on play dates, nothing is ever good enough. I personally wouldn't tell the parent but would not have had the child over again for a long long time.

strikhedonia · 16/05/2017 18:21

OP you should feel so happy that charming princess is not a niece and you never have to see her again in your home.

Tuna curry? Envy

Spybot · 16/05/2017 18:21

OP, did you actually reprimand the kid about her manners? I think I would have said something along the lines of , " Its OK for you to leave the food if you don't like it but it is very rude to go eww and complain loudly. Please remember that you are a guest in our home." Some kids really don't know how to behave as they've never been shown and respond really well to a bit of guidance.

drinkingtea · 16/05/2017 18:22

Have you set her straight on how to behave and she's still playing up like this?

I always treat playdate children as I would my own, but we've had one nightmare one like the one you describe. Only one mind, in probably 10 years of children coming over.

Most behave well and the few that don't respond well to being told very clearly what the rules are, with that one exception. I wonder if he has got sn but if so it'd have been nice to have been given a heads up - his mum didn't even drop him off,he arrived on foot on his own.

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