To never invite this annoying little brat round again

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Dds friend (9) is round for dinner... know she is a fussy fucker but her mum did tell me she eats anything. Cue today Shepard pie , after picking all the peas out of the damn thing she proceeds to sit at the table making super loud ewww, and yuck noises, while moaning she doesn't like it. There are 5 other kids sat round the table ffs.

She had also completely ignored anything my dd has wanted to do and just buggered off with the other kids, keeps just picking my newborn up without asking, moaning to play on my iPad and get the rabbits out when it's pissing down. I could go on I actually had to leave the room while dinner was happening!
Never known anything like it!

Most kids behave better at other people's houses, so the fact that it doesn't occur to her that she needs to put on a bit of a show for other people suggests that her parents maybe don't expect much from her at home. I certainly wouldn't bother to have her round again because it suggests you're prepared to tolerate the behaviour, which you're not.

If someone mentions the mere possibility of SN as they recognise behaviours from their own kids who the fuck do you lot think you are to shut them down in a shitty way?

As usual, straight to a really aggressive, unpleasant tone.
My comment about 'there it is was in relation to another thread on AIBU, this one.

But it's good, you got to yell at someone again.

Play dates like this increase my respect for teachers tenfold

So those who think the OP is a judgemental arse, how would you have dealt with this guest?

And at what age is decent behaviour expected? Clearly some people think 9 years old is way too young to expect polite behaviour. What if the child had been 13? Or 15? Or is it acceptable to make "yuck noises" when you're 37? Because if no one ever tells someone that that is not ok, they're surely going to be carrying on merrily with various anti-social behaviours.

No, I didn't, just happened to read both these threads within a day of each other. But do continue slinging off at me and calling me sad, if it makes you feel morally superior.

Looks like it.

I once was waiting in a car park for DH. The people from the car parked next to me arrived back, and their little girl opened her car door so hard and so far that it actually jolted my car. I opened my door and yes, sure enough there's a ding in my car. I looked at the little girl, she looked at me, and I said, "Please be more careful in the future." No shouting or raised voices.

A few seconds later her parents signalled to me to wind my window down and proceeded to have a go at me for making their daughter cry, saying that "10 is too young to know how to apologise". I was so gobsmacked at their condoling of their daughter's clumsiness/ thoughtlessness that I barely said a word back. The fact that I didn't raise my voice to her and that they got off lightly by me not asking them to pay for the damage didn't seem to enter their heads.

Suspect that these are the kind of parents who raise children like the OP's visitor. Of course every child will misbehave or be a bit thoughtless at times, but it's parents who won't hear a word against them or teach them to take responsibility and/or apologise for their actions who are to blame.

Vixen suggests if kids are SEN, parents should warn other parents. In the ideal world that happens. But quite a proportion of parents though do not realise their child could get a diagnosis, for various reasons -- so one can't rely on that. I've had that with quite a few of my sons' friends. NB my sons are special needs so I am very alert to it.

I usually stopped asking difficult children round if they harmed or upset my kids and yes I did not complain to the parents, I don't think it goes down a bundle and if I gave up on a kid I did not feel the need to explain -- unless the parent is a friend. However the dangerous behaviour with the baby and the little child was the real problem, not food or rudeness. The moral to me is never leave a baby unsupervised by adults around any age of child whom you do not know. Too much is at stake. This girl could have dropped it or worse. Just never trust in that situation. Sad to say but any unknown kid might do something unpredictable.

For me the issue was explaining the child to my own children later and taking care to ensure that they themselves learned from the experience.

She's a spoilt brat. Wouldn't have her in our house.

StrangeLookingParasite

I have said not once but twice that my dd won't eat any kind of potato on this thread. And you write about how kids should just eat everything and who doesn't like a roast potato. Then you pick up on someone, who you think shouted.

I think it would be really useful if people in this world sat back and took in what other people are saying and took it at face value. A recent study concluded that parents don't cause fussy eaters and that forcing them to eat foods they find abhorrent is bad. Yet you and itsjustaphase come on here to tell us we should just make our kids what is put in front of them. Just because neither of you have experience of an issue, it doesn't mean the issue is not legitimate.

And you write about how kids should just eat everything

Actually never said this. At all.

And children/people who won't eat any kind of potato I would say are a tiny minority.

You've decided to attribute comments to me that I in fact never said.
But can see you're eager to argue about it.

I'm not interesting in arguing. However you did say something about, who doesn't like roast dinners - lamb and potatoes. To me this is the same thing as stating children should eat everything where young children are concerned. Other people on this thread has said they know of children, who won't eat potato of any description. Lamb is also a very grown up food. Perhaps I picked on you unfairly on this point. You're picking great swathes of people's posts and picking them to bits, which I think is unfair. Hence my upset.

To me this is the same as stating children should eat everything
But only to you, littledragon, only to you...

However you did say something about, who doesn't like roast dinners - lamb and potatoes. To me this is the same thing as stating children should eat everything where young children are concerned.

Interesting conclusion.

You're picking great swathes of people's posts and picking them to bits, which I think is unfair.

I don't think I am. Perhaps you're thinking of someone else.

Most of you are women, most of you are mothers and evidently, most of you are horrible.

Poor kid. You'd think she'd eaten the hamster and buried the newborn the way you're going on.

OP, you're so right. Never invite this girl around again. For her sake though. You are intolerant and completely out of order to talk about a kid the way you have; badly behaved or not.

I'm not intolerant no way! I have 3 children with sn myself so I can tolerate a lot! This behaviour was outrageous and shocking compared to anything my dc have ever done. I have never felt the need to vent about a child like this before and I stand by it.

Anyway what's so bad about having a poorly behaved child round to play? -

a) It's only a few hours then you can hand them back
and
b) You can be thankful it's not YOUR child behaving like this

I think it's almost worse to have a very well behaved child round, makes yours look bad

Poor kid. You'd think she'd eaten the hamster and buried the newborn the way you're going on.

Did you read the same thread as the rest of us? She asked them to dig up their dead pet so she could 'play' with it (I have no idea, and I'm not going to try to think of what she was planning to do).
Poor kid nothing.

Well, only you were there, Lola, so only you know just how bad it was. You're description of events, for me, does not give justice to the reaction. But equally, your description of her, the adjectives used on this thread (not just you mind); have been in really bad taste imo.

She's fucking 9. And yeah, I believe you when you say her behaviour was out of control. But the reaction on this thread has been horrible reading.

I stand by that.

Yes, Strange, she's obviously a sociopath. Fuck sake, get a grip. That could have been any number of things; her idea of a joke, shock factor even just simple curiosity.

I need to get a grip??