To never invite this annoying little brat round again

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Dds friend (9) is round for dinner... know she is a fussy fucker but her mum did tell me she eats anything. Cue today Shepard pie , after picking all the peas out of the damn thing she proceeds to sit at the table making super loud ewww, and yuck noises, while moaning she doesn't like it. There are 5 other kids sat round the table ffs.

She had also completely ignored anything my dd has wanted to do and just buggered off with the other kids, keeps just picking my newborn up without asking, moaning to play on my iPad and get the rabbits out when it's pissing down. I could go on I actually had to leave the room while dinner was happening!
Never known anything like it!

[Dancergirl]

I haven't berated her I've just told the truth

OP, I'd check your thread title before posting again. You called her an 'annoying little brat'.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

You are using very loaded language.

Am I? Because apparently it's fine to call me a bully and nasty.

She is not yet double digits in age and only half way to adulthood. She is 9, and most likely prepubescent. In the context of this conversation, where adults are talking about her in this way - not just op - it needs to be remembered that she is still a young child at primary school. Some adults think children should act like adults when they are no where near adulthood.

Anyway, I'm not interested in arguing this anymore. Op admitted that she should have told the mother on Tuesday. On Wednesday, she asked what was wrong with her for not telling the mother about the dead pet incident. I believe she would like to say something even though she has decided not to, which is her choice. And it's a choice I don't agree with but it is hers to make.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Dancergirl- that is the truth though..in my eyes at least.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

You are correct on this count as looking back, you were talking about my behaviour and no me as a person. However my objection to op calling the child ie the person and not her behaviour a brat was discounted as hyperbole. It isn't possible to argue this point both ways.

[kali110]

I think at 9 the child should be well aware that these behaviours aren't right.
I agree the op should say something, but i can understand why she doesn't want to!
Who would want to hear that their kid had been a nightmare at a playdate?

[Mummyoflittledragon]

I summarised your objection to the word berated for ease of writing rather than to misrepresent your objection. Whatever the words used, my objection remains the same and I wouldn't have objected had the op spoken about brattish behaviour. Anyway this is turning into right fighting and I'll agree to disagree.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

As I said I will agree to disagree.

[Bunnyfuller]

And this is what's wrong - instead of focusing on the child's appalling behaviour posters fight about the language. No doubt the parents have that mindset too, and one by one she won't be invited anywhere. Then it'll be poor little ...... When did it become ok for kids to be rude to adults?

[KarlosKKrinkelbeim]

I very much doubt that someone who thinks it's ok to describe a kid the way the op has is rearing angels herself, candidly
Not v nice at all

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

No my kids aren't angels..but they have manners and respect for other people's homes.

[Plumbuddle]

But why rely on any old 9YO to have manners and respect your baby/young son re hamster, when you do not know that 9YO? Better to have a level of adult supervision in the entire home that prevents this happening. I really can't see why the issue is the 9YO and not safety measures in your home. As a parent of SEN children one just is constantly aware for the need for supervision and management, I don't get it that it's ok to leave any unknown 9YO wandering around influencing smaller children without that. The red flags were there from the outset.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Where have I said they were in supervised other than in the garden, which is safe and secure, and partner was in the kitchen. I was in the room when she kept picking baby up, baby was in her bouncy chair. I was upstairs when she started throwing cars down the stairs,
I was obviously on the room when she was making vile noises. But like I said I can't follow a child round the house. What bollocks.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

And obviously I expected/relied on her having manners and behaving, she is 9 ffs. And as for bringing my dc with sn into it one wasn't even here and the other was here for ten minutes before going out..ten minutes in which he got shouted at and slapped by this little weirdo.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

I'm loving it? Fuck off.

[Willow2017]

The child is her daughters friend not some kid she plucked off the street!

Who the hell follows 9yr olds around the house? I have enough to do in the house without a new baby, I expect 9yr olds to play properly and not throw toys downstairs etc Plus after being told the first time to leave the baby alone she kept trying to do it even when op was in the room so the supervision arugment breaks down there.

OP had activities set up for them but the child wouldnt do them. 9 year olds should be able to play in the garden without an adult hovering over them surely?

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Oh ffs, she did that stuff before I could stop her. Why the fuck would I be watching her constantly even if I am in the same room? I've admitted I didn't know how to handle the situation as I've never been in that situation with someone else kid!

[kali110]

Op, stop engaging