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Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.

767 replies

Light69 · 16/05/2017 06:41

I am not sure if my dh was being unreasonable for shouting at him this morning so here it goes. Not 100% sure if it is my neighbours eldest son or there daughters boy friend. He sleeps there most nights but doesn't appear to have house keys, I know this because he sits in his car at the bottom of my drive waiting to be let in. So he went through a stage of what ever side of the drive I parked in he would park directly behind me across the bottom of the drive blocking me in. This made it difficult to get off the drive as I was blocked in and had to kind of edge backwards and forwards to move the car to the otherside of the drive to reserve off it safely. We have a dropped kerb that runs the whole width of the drive but this didn't seem to bother him. I started reversing on to make it easier to pull off and out of the blue he stopped doing it. He has now moved on walking through our front garden to get to and from this car. So he comes out of their house steps over a small wall and walks right over my front door step and behind my car. He will push my kitchen windows in if they are open wide so he can fit behind the car easier then trotts off down the drive. On occasion if we have been leaving at the same time he has bumped into my dc or I have had to step back to stop him walking into me, I have asked him to stop but he doesn't. So this morning when dh was leaving for work he did it again and dh lost his temper and shouted at him and swore a bit, was dh in the wrong for this and how would you deal with the situation?

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IloveBanff · 18/05/2017 11:20

OP, do your neighbours know what he called you?

LadyTennantofTardis · 18/05/2017 11:29

Just to say, if once your dad is no longer there, he starts up again, this can reasonably now be described as harassment, with aggressive bumping, verbal abuse, and going into your property for no reason and you could report to police.

confuugled1 · 18/05/2017 12:33

Anyone else have visions of Sgt Major Dad appearing from behind the hedge while trimming it while waving a chain saw (switched on!) around? And twat boy doing a very big double gulp when he sees the chain saw...

(I know, it might have been clippers or shears or toenail scissiors he was using to trim the hedge but that was the image that sprang to mind!)

kali110 · 18/05/2017 12:48

I love your dad Grin

HappyFlappy · 18/05/2017 12:52

Hairy

We ALL need that tee-shirt!

Grin
MarklahMarklah · 18/05/2017 13:25

Light I need to borrow your Dad to deal with entitled school parking mums (the ones that park right up against the zebra crossing, blocking a view of who is on it because either 'I was running late' or because 'I am only going to be a minute').

Cockadoodle · 18/05/2017 13:34

Oooooh its getting nearly home time.....

magicstar1 · 18/05/2017 13:56

I love the sound of your dad...sounds a lot like mine Grin

Have you seen The Snapper with Colm Meaney? This thread makes me think of this bit:

Rafflesway · 18/05/2017 14:09

I know I'm showing my age here but whenever I think of OP's dad, I have this image of the late but great and very sexy Edward Woodward as the Equalizer!

Useless at posting photos on my iPad but here is a link for all you younger beings: i2.digiguide.com/p/0902/6706-EdwardWoodward-12356444670.jpg

He used to use the same tone of voice/similar phrases to Hero Dad!

Not long until 1430 hrs now Smile

Cuppaoftea · 18/05/2017 14:30

Op you need to be careful this doesn't escalate and you don't end up with a counter claim of harassment from your neighbours. When he's with his girlfriend on their drive your Dad ought to leave them in peace.

SenseiWoo · 18/05/2017 14:35

Sad that Trespass Boy would rather set up an antagonism with OP, before he'd even met her properly, than just be normal and nice. Bet he's a dreadful boyfriend, road rager and more.

AlwaysBeBatman · 18/05/2017 14:38

OP I bloody love your dad, he's a proper Hero Dad!

Peanut14 · 18/05/2017 15:45

That made me giggle magicstar. Great movie.

OP you're Dad is fab Smile

CoraPirbright · 18/05/2017 15:58

What's happening OP? Has the twat come home yet? Is your dad on stand-by?!

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 18/05/2017 16:31

Hee hee, loving this thread!

Is your Dad available for hire? I've got a lazy builder he might be able to help me get into shape to get my flipping house renovations finished... Grin

Seriously though, hope all goes well with the rest of your pregnancy. Flowers

Light69 · 18/05/2017 16:44

Twat boy has not returned yet dad is ready and waiting for when he does show his face.

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Hairydontcare · 18/05/2017 16:45

Brilliant! I winder what gets into people to behave like that!

BillyButtfuck · 18/05/2017 19:16

Still waiting Grin

qazxc · 18/05/2017 21:49

shamelessly placemarking.

thatorchidmoment · 19/05/2017 08:14

I can't believe I only found this thread last night! OP, I salute your father. What a legend. Awaiting next instalment of ArmyDad versus Twatboy utterly agog.

catsaresomucheasier2 · 19/05/2017 09:21

YANBU at all!! Everything about this winds me up to the maxxxxx. What a disrespectful inconsiderate ride little twat he it Angry I threaten him with trespassing!! How date he close your windows?!???? Your husband was right to lose his temper, enough is enough. Talk to neighbours.

OVienna · 19/05/2017 10:15

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TheMaddHugger · 19/05/2017 12:15

Please

Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.
Deejoda · 19/05/2017 13:07

Cuppa calling out a greeting is hardly harrassment is it? Hope no updates means all is settled for now OP. Good luck with the baby x

Cuppaoftea · 19/05/2017 16:20

dee Sarcastic greetings designed to intimidate are tit for tat and unreasonable when he's with his girlfriend on her parents property and not trespassing. His girlfriend hasn't done anything wrong and could feel intimidated or be on the receiving end of her boyfriend's reaction to feeling humiliated.

My concern would be that it will also only antagonise this man in to acting more aggressively towards the Op when her Dad isn't there.

As I said in an earlier post I'd already be contacting the police to log everything and ask for advice. Her Dad has done what he can but I suspect this isn't the end of it and antagonism isn't going to solve anything.

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