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Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 06:41

I am not sure if my dh was being unreasonable for shouting at him this morning so here it goes. Not 100% sure if it is my neighbours eldest son or there daughters boy friend. He sleeps there most nights but doesn't appear to have house keys, I know this because he sits in his car at the bottom of my drive waiting to be let in. So he went through a stage of what ever side of the drive I parked in he would park directly behind me across the bottom of the drive blocking me in. This made it difficult to get off the drive as I was blocked in and had to kind of edge backwards and forwards to move the car to the otherside of the drive to reserve off it safely. We have a dropped kerb that runs the whole width of the drive but this didn't seem to bother him. I started reversing on to make it easier to pull off and out of the blue he stopped doing it. He has now moved on walking through our front garden to get to and from this car. So he comes out of their house steps over a small wall and walks right over my front door step and behind my car. He will push my kitchen windows in if they are open wide so he can fit behind the car easier then trotts off down the drive. On occasion if we have been leaving at the same time he has bumped into my dc or I have had to step back to stop him walking into me, I have asked him to stop but he doesn't. So this morning when dh was leaving for work he did it again and dh lost his temper and shouted at him and swore a bit, was dh in the wrong for this and how would you deal with the situation?

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FrancisCrawford · 19/05/2017 17:29

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Cuppaoftea · 19/05/2017 17:50

Op said herself her Dad couldn't help himself and his intention was sarcasm. As is clapping and cheering him as he walks up the road.

My previous posts in the thread show I've been very concerned for the Op's safety and I'm glad her Dad was there while her DH was away but jeering this man when he's not on their property is unreasonable and if continued I would imagine will upset the family next door who are the permanent neighbours.

If any greeting was to be made I'd have said a friendly hello to the daughter of the family or just left them alone on her own drive.

FrancisCrawford · 19/05/2017 18:20

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Cuppaoftea · 19/05/2017 18:51

Francis I'm not inventing anything. The Op started the thread asking if her DH was unreasonable to shout when his hot coffee was knocked down him, he wasn't. Her Dad did the right thing challenging the man when he was trespassing and making him apologise for the petty bitch comment. Also going round to the neighbours once (time to get the authorities involved when they weren't receptive).

But taking the piss/calling out sarcastically/verbally making presence felt to intimidate when he isn't trespassing and when he's with his gf isn't helping and won't exactly encourage the parents to step in in future or the bf to leave Op alone. If the Op needs to call the police to have a word with the family it's just giving them fuel to make counter claims.

Waltermittythesequel · 19/05/2017 18:58

Saying that her dad called "good morning" isn't much fuel for a counter-claim, in fairness.

FrancisCrawford · 19/05/2017 19:18

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ptumbi · 19/05/2017 20:10

You know what? Let twonk go to the Police if he feels 'harassed' by Army Dad's 'sarcasm'.

I think we could hear the laughter from here.

Cuppaoftea · 19/05/2017 20:33

I would imagine the Police would advise the Op to contact them if this man continues to trespass and intimidate her, not have relatives get involved in further goading of or confrontations with the neighbours on their property.

Genius46 · 19/05/2017 20:42

Try a higher fence. Report the twat to the police for trespass with malicious or negligent damage to your DH clothes, and send him a bill for cleaning or new clothes. Also, report him for blocking someone's access and illegal parking.

Good policing.

FrancisCrawford · 19/05/2017 21:14

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Willow2017 · 19/05/2017 22:33

Genius
Why should op go to the expense of buying a fence to keep that idiot off her driveway? There is a wall that should be enough.

TheMaddHugger · 20/05/2017 05:31

And the Award goes to............... Cuppaoftea

and everyone arguing with Him/Her. You wont conving Cuppaoftea otherwise and you know it.

Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.
TheMaddHugger · 20/05/2017 06:31

Won't be Convincing ^^

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 20/05/2017 13:59

These threads are always hilarious until someone turns it into a personal argument.

dottybooboo22 · 20/05/2017 20:56

so OP, has he been through your garden since is what we want to know????? 🤔

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Light69 · 21/05/2017 13:49

Hi everyone so sorry for not updating last few days, I had a heavy bleed and had to spend a couple nights in hospital but am home now. My 4g signal was well non existent in hospital. Dad has been at my house with the kids why I was in hospital, dh is now home also which is nice. Dad is refusing to update me on twat boy said I need to rest and stress is not good for the baby, I told him I need to know to update you lot! He said he will tell me in due course when he thinks I have recovered enough as mind and babies well being is the most important thing. This means twat boy has done something or dad would of just said he had behaved so I promise as soon as I know you lot will.

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kali110 · 21/05/2017 13:53

Are you ok op

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Light69 · 21/05/2017 13:55

I NEED to know, never thought I would be typing that on my own thread. Mum just asked if dad has told me, I said told me what? Her reply was oh nothing love try and get some rest. I can't rest not knowing I need to know, I will have to corn dh alone and get the gossip.

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Light69 · 21/05/2017 13:57

kali110 I am ok thank you bleeding has settled and baby is moving lots.

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Waltermittythesequel · 21/05/2017 13:58

Your dad shouldn't be so controlling about information to do you with your house!

Hope all is ok. Flowers

kali110 · 21/05/2017 14:00

He probably doesn't want to upset you op. Must be very hard for him seeing you in hospital and doesnt want to add to your stress.
Glad to hear you are doing better Flowers

TheweewitchRoz · 21/05/2017 14:12

Hope you're ok Op. I have to say though, I absolutely hate it when people refuse to tell me something as they don't want to add to my stress - in those situations, my imagination adds more to my stress than the actual events Angry.

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Light69 · 21/05/2017 14:21

I totally agree TheweewitchRoz. Dad isn't be controlling at all just following the doctors orders of no unnecessary stress, think mum was just checking that dad had listened to her and not mentioned it, whatever it maybe. If I can't get it out of dh I will work on my youngest dd she will do anything for a chocolate biscuit.

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picklemepopcorn · 21/05/2017 14:31

Bless you! I'm sure nothing has happened that your fab dad can't handle. You'll be home safe and sound to and can watch the excitement from the comfort of your own sofa.

BrewCake

hollyisalovelyname · 21/05/2017 14:37

Take care of yourself and baby OP

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