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Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.

767 replies

Light69 · 16/05/2017 06:41

I am not sure if my dh was being unreasonable for shouting at him this morning so here it goes. Not 100% sure if it is my neighbours eldest son or there daughters boy friend. He sleeps there most nights but doesn't appear to have house keys, I know this because he sits in his car at the bottom of my drive waiting to be let in. So he went through a stage of what ever side of the drive I parked in he would park directly behind me across the bottom of the drive blocking me in. This made it difficult to get off the drive as I was blocked in and had to kind of edge backwards and forwards to move the car to the otherside of the drive to reserve off it safely. We have a dropped kerb that runs the whole width of the drive but this didn't seem to bother him. I started reversing on to make it easier to pull off and out of the blue he stopped doing it. He has now moved on walking through our front garden to get to and from this car. So he comes out of their house steps over a small wall and walks right over my front door step and behind my car. He will push my kitchen windows in if they are open wide so he can fit behind the car easier then trotts off down the drive. On occasion if we have been leaving at the same time he has bumped into my dc or I have had to step back to stop him walking into me, I have asked him to stop but he doesn't. So this morning when dh was leaving for work he did it again and dh lost his temper and shouted at him and swore a bit, was dh in the wrong for this and how would you deal with the situation?

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RunRabbitRunRabbit · 17/05/2017 21:17

You should ask your dad for lessons in assertiveness. Doormats get bullied.

AwkwardSquad · 17/05/2017 21:18

Mental health issue? Utter bollocks.

Spadequeen · 17/05/2017 21:19

LOVE YOUR DAD!!!!!

Think a hosepipe would have worked well too but I think your dad's better!

TheweewitchRoz · 17/05/2017 21:27

I think your dad is brill but I'm also extremely angry on your behalf that the trespasser has treated you the way he has & that it took your dad to get it stopped. He's a misogynistic fucker! I wouldn't be surprised if he goes back to his old ways when your dad is not there. Definitely agree with you using a hosepipe on him. Angry

Siwdmae · 17/05/2017 21:31

Your dad's a legend! Loving the diagnoses of MH issues regarding the young man. From what he's said about the OP being a 'petty bitch', I'd say he's just a twat, frankly.

Willow2017 · 17/05/2017 21:37

He used to block her car in her driveway by parking behind it and was asked to stop. So now he is doing something else to wind her up. I hope her ndn daughter has the sense to dump him before he starts treating her the same.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 17/05/2017 21:37

Get a plastic cat litter box.
Fill with water.
Place on your side of wall just where he likes to hop over on his way out.

Wet feet!

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 17/05/2017 21:48

Or one of those garden sprinklers that you can turn on intermittently.

manicmij · 17/05/2017 22:04

It's trespass. How lazy can someone be. To block your dropped kerb is an offence. Speak to him and explain there is a footpath to wherever he is going and he should use that instead of encroaching on your property. Or speak with whoever he is visiting about his appalling habit and in consideration.

manicmij · 17/05/2017 22:08

Been thinking - contact the police as you feel you are being harassed with his coming so close to your windows and doorway. Also concerned about safety of your child.

Tapandgo · 17/05/2017 23:07

Bloke is a moron, dad is a hero - simples

Willow2017 · 17/05/2017 23:07

manicmij

Did you read the ops posts?

He stopped blocking the car in, now he is crossing her drive instead.
They have told him repeatedly yet he is still doing it, ndn are aware and told him not to do it again, he is still doing it!

OPs dad is dealing with him very well so far Smile

Hairydontcare · 17/05/2017 23:30

Op you need this:

Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.
docpeppa · 17/05/2017 23:50

Op your Dad sounds amazing, I don't think I've laughed so much at a thread in ages.

Sorry for the annoying situation to begin with, but what a hero your dad is for putting twatboy in his place 😂😂

Army Dad is my new favourite super hero 😎

Coastalcommand · 18/05/2017 00:05

Three cheers for your dad!

SwimmingInTheDeepBlueSea · 18/05/2017 00:45

I was going to say you needed some lovely thorny bushes alongside that wall but it seems army dad has it all under control

Faith7777 · 18/05/2017 01:09

Well done for restraint. Hurrah to your dad and DH for stepping up. I would have snapped ages ago and slapped him into the middle of next week!!

MuffinMaiden · 18/05/2017 01:21

Another fan of army dad here! Can't see why weirdboy doesn't just park in front of ndn house! He will definitely start again when your dad isn't around though, twats like him want to do something even more when you tell them not to.

Megansmumsie · 18/05/2017 03:40

Your Dad is a ledge!!!

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Light69 · 18/05/2017 06:39

Dad is loving all this attention you lot are giving him. Twat boy and girlfriend went out late afternoon yesterday and didn't return last night, dad was a bit gutted he wouldn't get the opportunity to torment the twat this morning. I think Twat boy is feeling intimidated by dad's authority and sarcasm as this is the first time in a good few weeks he hasn't stayed next door over night during the week. Him and the girlfriend left next door using the proper exit and Twat boy had his head down all the way to the car. Dad just happened to be out planting in the big pots when they left and couldn't help himself but say afternoon young man. Twat boy got into his car and left very quickly, fingers crossed he has learnt his lesson and found his match in my dad. We shall see what this afternoon brings.

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scootinFun · 18/05/2017 08:17

And what, pray tell, was your dad planting?

Fragglez · 18/05/2017 08:26

leighb23 when I was being checked for a low lying placenta the sonographer talked about "the way out"!

SeamusMacDubh · 18/05/2017 08:29

Shamelessly placemarking for future updates Grin

WhatHo · 18/05/2017 11:06

I do love all the people on this thread trying to find a 'reason' for Twat boy's behaviour. Since when did SN or deafness mean you have no understanding of boundaries and have to cut across someone's garden???! Kind of insulting to people with SN or are deaf.

Bravo Dad. I hope it's all sorted though secretly I hope nor as I want to read about another confrontation by your Dad

noenemee · 18/05/2017 11:10

What did it for me is that when challenged the lad said that he didn't see the problem. That demonstrates a wilful disregard for other people's rights or property. On top of that he was very rude about you OP