People assume I would like to have larger breasts

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Why do people (three good friends have mentioned this) who have large breasts think that I must want large breasts.
I have no issue with my 34A boobs and neither does my DP. If I had bigger boobs I would be overweight. These friends have large breasts but are also overweight.
One asked, don't you ever consider chicken fillets? Umm no.
I have no issues with my body although others seem to see the imperfections. It infuriates me that everyone assumes you must have some issues, what are we teaching our DDs if this is the case? AIBU?

I've gone from a 34a to a 34ff due to a boob job. I put on some weight(size 6-12 over few years) took my implants out went to a 34D and now due to pregnancy I'm a 34F. I wish I had SMALL boobs again

Society is never happy is it? They are either too big or too small, in the same way that women are either too fat or too thin. Mine were tiny and after bf 2 kids were non existent. I had implants and I love them, they look completely natural because they are not 'big', just proportionate to my frame - I have an athletic build so big would look weird. I suppose I wish I had been confident enough not to care, but I don't have any regrets.

I loved my small boobs, so nice not to have to wear a bra and I think they looked better in clothes, but they have ballooned after having dd and now I feel I look a bit pornographic if I don't wear a bra

I have never had this kind of conversation and would think it incredibly odd (and rude) if someone started it.

You need to dump these no-lifes and find some people without polyfilla between the ears.

I'm an a cup, and am perfectly happy with them. In my teens it was something I was very self concious about, my sister's made comments I was less of a woman/had the body of a boy (I'm also very slim, a size 4-6 at the time, now a 6-8 in my mid twenties), and even my dad used to make jokes about me needing a sign saying "front" and "back". Although I didn't mind them being small, I felt like no man would ever find me attractive and wanted a boob job.

Shortly after I met Dh, who loved and accepted me just the way I was. I'm not a against boob jobs or anything, but know if I had one it would have been for others not myself.

Plus there are lots of benefits of having small boobs - such as clothing options and going bra free sometimes! I'm so glad I didn't have surgery and love my body just the way it is.

I am short and normal weight but have stupidly large boobs for my size - I hate them as I can't wear the tops I like and have a gaping cleavage (and when you're 5ft everyone is looking down!) To top it all off I have no hips and am a size 6ish below - the end result is I look like a Russian shot putter circa 1970.

YANBU, I would query foodtime's assertion that it is a 'fact' that big boobs are more attractive- really, where did you get these facts from- Loaded magazine! You do realise that by peddling this crap you're feeding the idea that it is ok to objectify women! Maybe it's because I live in a metropolitan area that I really don't hear this. My DH works with quite a lot of men in a creative industry, the idea of big boobs being a key identifier of what constitutes 'attractive' is not on the radar of any of them looking for a long term girlfriend, maybe because it is incredibly superficial and simply not true! Equally, the assumption that smaller boobed women need big boobed women to be self deprecating so as to boost the self esteem of smaller booked women, is both abused and incredibly egotistical!

Absurd not 'abused'.

Op didn't say big boobs equal being fat, she said her "friends" with big boobs were fat.

It sound to me like you need to weed toxic people out of your life op, and hang out with people who at not so rude, or judgemental, make so many assumptions, or don't mind their Own business.

I am amazed at some of the comments people have had to put up with on this thread. No one has ever remarked on or made assumptions about my breasts, apart from compliments ( nothing off color since I was young!,). Maybe because my breasts are medium sized...... No one could tell if I wanted to up size or down size.

Hmmm...So, what is the MN intervention? I think I missed it.

Whatever it is, I still have small boobs but I think they are in proportion. I think all boobs are lovely.

I love my boobs. I used to have small boobs. I hated it. Clothes didn't look good, couldn't wear certain dresses or tops.
Then suddenly out of nowhere my boobs came! Took me a few years to actually be measured propely though.
My boobs are not the problem when i run and if i don't want to wear a bra, i don't.

Quite like being small of boob. At least one part of me is thin.

I have small boobs and love them. I can wear tops without bras if I so please and I've never had boob pain from not doing so that my sister and friends complain about. My friends have never remarked on mine, commenting on other peoples bodies is sheer rude.

Ps, I'm also a huge NIN fan

but the fact of the matter is in our Society big boobs are considered more attractive

Now who is body shaming!!!!! Bloody rude.

Being 17 and having breasts which are considered large, I crave every day to have smaller breasts. Oh for less harassment from men.

I agree. I had big boobs for sever years while breast feeding. It gave me a better shape and I was more traditionally proportioned but I'm more than happy to be small again and hate, hate, hate padded bras.

Large Cup size doesn't necessarily mean large breasts though. I thought I was a 34A. Turns out I'm a 28D. Which are the same cup size - just different back sizes. A 34A is the same volume of boobage as a 32B as a 30C as a 28D.

So saying D cup is large and A is small is meaningless as it depends on the back size! A 34D bust are much larger breasts than a 28D.

Most women wear the wrong bra size because shops like M&S fit everyone with a much too large back size. I am still small of boob even though I'm a D cup. I'm the same size boobs as when I went into the shop an A cup - I'm just wearing the right size bra!

Bravissimo and Rigby and Peller have been the best places I've got fitted.

I am a 34B, I cannot think of a single disadvantage at all. Actually, I can, irritating people that infer you are (a) less of a woman or (b) not as attractive which is bullshit.

I love my boobs. They are a perky b-c. So not mega small yet have had women with bigger boobs comment on them negatively. I would never do similar! And I'm sure it goes both ways. I wish women would give each other a break. It's bad enough having asshole men to deal with.

I used to want bigger boobs but I bloody love mine now.

I am an A cup, maybe a B cup if I measure the MN way. They are perky, perfect shape and not uncomfortable.

I love that I can go braless.

Maybe it's because I live in a metropolitan area that I really don't hear this. My DH works with quite a lot of men in a creative industry, the idea of big boobs being a key identifier of what constitutes 'attractive' is not on the radar of any of them looking for a long term girlfriend

No, only tradesman in the provinces are attracted to big breasts, not educated, city dwelling men working in the creative industries!

Honestly, how the heck would you know what your husband's colleagues found sexually attractive?

I cannot tell you how much I envy smaller cup sized women.

My first ever experience of sexual harassment was aged 14 in my school uniform from a well dressed man about the age of my father at the time, in his suit, clearly going to work, who tapped me on the shoulder and told me I'd "tempt many boys" with my breasts.