Aibu to expect dp to either stop collecting or move it??

[Queenofthestress]

First post so bear with me please,
Dp is 20 and aspergers I'm 22 living in a moderate 3 bed terrace.
We have two dc, one 3 & one 4 months who both live with me. Dp is finally getting a place after sofa surfing for 7 months so all his stuff is currently at mine (long story regarding why it's not at his mum's)

His fascination is collecting video games and consoles (n64, ps2 etc) he collects the promotional items too ie cardboard cut outs. His stuff is everywhere I turn, currently he's got two shelving units full but he wants to get full collections for example there's 300 n64 games and he wants them all.

Aibu to say either put them in his place or don't collect anymore even though he's paranoid about being broken into?

He's had 4 break ins with stuff being stolen in 3 years, which is how he ended up back at his mum's house.

Thank you, he's coming round tonight so I'm gonna tell him he needs to shift it, but for now it's time to put the eldest back to bed for the second time lol little monster keeps banging on his bedroom window at the neighbours haha

OP I think you sound like a very sensible, kind, independent person and a fantastic mother and partner. Ignore those who are being unkind on this thread.

I completely empathise but I think you need to continue being firm but kind. Make it clear you want him but he cannot keep his collection at your house, that is what his place is for. I don't think you should do anything drastic or deceiving like staging a break in as some PP's have said but help him with things like extra security measures. Basically, carry on as you are! You sound like you're doing a great job and you're certainly not being mean. Make sure you continue to communicate with your family and friends and particularly your DP's mum so they can help support you all as a family.

But well done, sounds like you're doing great

Hope the chat goes well, Queen. You sound very grounded. Well done.

You sound fantastic queen. Self motivated, working extremely hard, determined to make something of yourself and your kids. Ignore other comments, I think they must have deeply miserable lives.