To wear no bra (nipple issues)

[MrsFloppy]

So many of my nice summer tops and dresses just can't be worn with a bra.

Unfortunately since having ds and breastfeeding for 3.5 years my nipples are like sodding bullets.

Last year I tried using those silicone stick on things but had a couple of very embarrassing incidents where they fell out of my dress in public.

Dh says 'fuck it, who cares if people can see your nipples?' and I don't give two shits if I notice another woman's but I do feel uncomfortable when the odd person gives me filthy looks.

Do I need to buy a whole new wardrobe, not give a fuck or has anyone else got any tricks they use?

It's a bit ironic really seeing as 3.5 years of breastfeeding means they've been out a hell of a lot, not sure why I'm all Prussian about the nips!

Morpe armpit hair isn't really sexualized though is it! I mean you don't get page 3 girls tweaking their armpit hair and painting it pink do you! 😂

No, but it's another example about something natural that women are shamed for.

Jim I'm not fussed on armpit hair, if you like it, grow it, if you don't then shave it. I shave mine when I can be bothered. I'd rather be hair free than hairy but I'm quite lazy. I'm just against the nipple thing due to what's going on with the over sexualization of women in the media lately, showing your nipples through tops isn't a body shaming thing, I just don't want to be like bloody Kim K and her crew and think it's cool to expose every last inch of yourself to every passer by. It's not for me.

Fuck it. Nipples are nipples. We all have them. Nothing to be embarrassed about and if someone else doesn't like it that's their problem not yours, it's not like you're walking round shirtless!! Wear what you want and fuck the rest

Well exactly xx, mine are concealed, someone else's are roaming free, if you don't like their point of view then don't ask them for it. Simple! If I wear an outfit I know my friends won't like, I don't ask their opinion!

I think protuberant, braless nips scream: "Look at me! I'm earthy and carefree and a belting shag. Look! I'm ready to be ridden as we speak. I'm an animal!" and that is why men love 'em and women hate 'em.

Sorted

I rarely wear a bra. I am an A cup- possibly B if I measure the MN way.

I wear them when I am wearing a low cut top and need a bit of a lift so the top fits properly or anything that might be a bit see-through.

I think the small chested without bra look is very sexy, but if I'm working etc I wear a thin vest underneath tops.

I also think that look is sexy u2. When I think of someone bra less I think of quite a classy high end fashion look of a slender woman with a small bust wearing impeccably tailored clothes. When I studied fashion 20 years ago that was the anti wonder bra look of the very 'obvious' padded pushed out boobs.

The things is that having your nipples visible has been hijacked by the 'cooee look at my nips' crew, just as visible hairy pits are still rather niche. But the only way to normalize these actually normal appearances is for everyone who wants to, to go for it. After a few years it will become normal to see peoples nipples and pit hair, and it will no longer be a 'statement' of any kind.

Mind you people still talk about people showing off by BFing....so maybe it will take more than a few years!

See, I don't think the comments about small breasted braless women looking sexy help, really. OP is big breasted. OP doesn't want to look sexy. She just wants to go out without a bra, without adverse attention.

with the best will in the world, pickle that will NEVER happen. Breasts are a big part of a woman's sexual allure, whether we want them to be or not, they just are. Men like looking at them. They are aroused (or at least their attention is caught) by erect nipples. That doesn't make them knuckle dragging rapists, it makes them human beings. WE ARE STILL HUMAN BEINGS! No matter how far we evolve, we will still have certain visceral reactions to certain things and no amount of intellectual argument will change that basic truth.

I would no sooner go to work or to the shops with permanently erect/visible nipples showing through my clothes and my breasts swaying loose and free than I would go wearing a transparent skirt and no knickers.

If your aim is to look sexy and you have very pert breasts and are in an environment where looking sexy is okay, (nightclub for example) then fine - do your thing. But don't act all surprised if you are fairly well endowed and people's eyes pop out of their heads if you do it in Sainsbury's at 11am on a Tuesday.

The comments are in response to the general discussions about brainlessness, thought I did think about that pickle when i posted. I think the word sexy' is perhaps the wrong one. I only think it's 'sexy' in the way that body confidence is sexy. Not in the look at my tits way. Which i don't think is actually sexy at all.

I think that kind of thinking is faulty.

Right now having a million quid in cash to spend makes you rich. Would we all be rich if we all had a million quid in cash? Nope.

So people would not be bugging out and getting aroused all the time, if many women had visible nipples, any more than people get all aroused every time they see lipstick, or tight trousers.

It is all a matter of what is normal.

If 20% of women could be persuaded to do the shopping topless, breasts would soon stop being the hyper stimulating sight they currently are.

I buy the blingy detachable bra staps, they look really pretty, the only
time it looks nice having your ba strap showing. Lots of nice jewelled ones on ebay, have a look OP

I think you need to do something. I don't want to see another woman's Nipples, thanks.

Agree with Oblomov way uptbread. Don't want to see it or them flapping about either.

Just as an aside my husband and pretty much the rest of his all boys class failed their French listening exam when their French teacher turned up for it wearing a white silk blouse and no bra.

I think she probably was getting them back for being little shits throughout the year!

I associate going bra-less with radical feminists who don't care what men think. The type of woman who doesn't remove any body hair and never wears makeup. Most of the women I know who never wear bras are lesbians, plus a couple who are sexual and are virgins.

I think braless nips scream: "I'm ready to be ridden as we speak.
That's one of the most sickening things I've ever read on MN. "Ridden"? You actually refer to other human beings as objects to be "ridden"?? It takes my breath away that a woman would have such contempt for other women, and post such sexually demeaning and frankly rapey comments about women. No wonder we live in a rape culture.

It's nothing to do with "enticing men" what a sad and pathetic thing to think. And no "women" do not "hate women who don't wear bras." Only a handful of jealous misogynists do.

Some women really despise other women.

Oh and my 80 year old mum has never worn a bra in her life (radical feminist). I'd love you to tell her that she's just doing it to be "sexy" and that she's asking to be raped.

I heard once that you can buy (where? Amazon?) bra inserts that make you look like you have super prominent nipples

Maybe we could all start wearing them, to desensitise the issue

Like multiple pairs at a time, after a while people would be relieved to only see two, and in an anatomically appropriate location

Bondage tape OP. Sticks perfectly well but doesn't hurt to take it off. I've a couple of low scoop almost backless dresses and if I don't do something I'd be rather worried a boob might escape under an armpit (36G). I stick a couple of pieces of tape from the outside of one nipple across the front to the outside of the other nipple and it's worked well enough.

RE the acclimatisation thing, I suppose Victorians found ankles titllating. Though I defy anyone to fancy mine...

I flash quite a lot of cleavage and bra on a daily basis. I go for smart/pretty bras, as they will show, rather than the slightly grungy grey white you can get away with if they don't peek out! I don't think it looks remotely sexy, because I am clearly busy going about my business with no interest in who is looking at me. Put a pouting model in the same outfit, and you'd get a different reaction, I'm sure.

Yanbu op just wear or don't wear what you want. Some of the comments in this thread . I don't wear a bra for a lot of outfits and give no fucks or notice if my nips are showing, it's not sexual it's comfortable 😑.

Plasters are the way forward. First "petal" is awkward to get off, but then just give it a yank and it's fine just don't forget you're wearing them if you plan on trying to be sexy - terrified other half the first time he saw me nippleless when I forgot!

I mean proper nipple plaster mind. They have a gauze bit in the middle to make sure nothing sticks to the nipple itself. I can't vouch for Elastoplast diy versions!