To seriously hate that when you differ in opinions, you get accused of not having kids!

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Ok so just that basically, I am so fucking tired of being told I "must not have children" because my opinion just happens to be different to theirs. Or for example, walking down the town today, a woman with a buggy nearly clips my heel I'm not bothered as I was crossing the street in front of her and went a bit diaganol to get to where I needed to, she looks at me and gives me an awful stare, so I question her as to what she's looking at. I say "why are you looking at me like that?" She replies she was looking into the shop next to me yet our eyes locked? So I said to her sure oh we're and went to carry on, her response "how can you talk to a woman with a child like that!" I said I do have two kids myself, she accused me of lying and said I wouldn't speak like that to her if I did, . So I said to her, just because you have a child with you does not mean I won't confront you if you give me a dirty look, just to clarify I would never start a fight in front of a child etc in fact I don't actually have fights and never have done, but I won't take a dirty look and not question it especially when she practically rammed her pram up the path at the crossing when there was no need as the lights were green.

Sorry for the rant but I'm just wondering if I'm the only one that hates being told they mustn't have kids because an opinion differs or I handle something differently to themselves.

You were not oh we're.

Why would you "confront" someone for looking at you?!

Because she stopped next to me and stared at me, I wanted to know why. Granted that may not be the way someone handles it but I just didn't think having her next to me staring was getting me anywhere so I questioned her then went to walk on.

Life's too short. Let 'em look.

I definitely realise that now wolfie

So you cut her up, she shot you a look, you confronted her and that makes you angry because people think you don't have children?

You have clearly misunderstood my post.

I did not cut her up, I was way ahead of her and was at the other path from where I was crossing and she suddenly rammed the pram up the path just behind me as if rushing across the road, yet the lights were still green so I didn't think she needed to stare at me.

Sounds more like the other person thought that mother's wouldn't try to start an argument in front of kids, which unfortunately isn't true of all mother's.

Maybe, that was just an example though and happened today so I mentioned it. It's just this happens a lot and it really annoyed me. I'm tired of being told I mustn't have kids because I think differently or approach things in a different way.

You said you went a bit diagonal so I'm guessing you got in her way? Are your kids still in a pram? I only ask because perhaps you have forgetten the sheer ball ache of getting around with a pram, especially when inconsiderate people stop suddenly or change direction into your path with no warning. I shoot many dirty looks for people who do this. Confronting her about it is very aggressive tbh, it was just a look. You might have caught her on a bad day or she might have just been looking in that direction.

This wasn't a difference of opinion, you could have caused an accident and then you started a scrap. I don't think you get to play a delicate flower afterwards.

mumsnet - isn't the place to roast mothers OP.

Those are all very fair points. I still have one in a pram and understand more than anyone the struggle of getting about as I had to have a big pram for my daughters ventilator and oxygen etc, but I didn't et in her way, I was aiming diagonally but I was already on the curb when she came up behind me quite quickly.

I see mothers roasted on here all the time.

I think you should have asked her if she assumed all mums were as useless as her when using their kids' pushchairs. I hate it when people assume all mums must be as inept as them.

Please read my op before you reply, you will see this was an example that happened today the post title indicates a slightly different aproach. I've been told on here and Facebook many times that I can't possibly have kids because of my opinions. This woman reminded me of those people when she made her comment.

Yes they are don't. Any other time and the the tide would have gone the other way. I'm not judging by the way, I'm quite scrappy too but you have to take the blow back on the chin.

So I said to her sure oh we're.

I think she probably meant most women with kids wouldn't pick an argument over looking in front of another woman with kids present.

I have never had someone ask if I am childless based on my opinion or behaviour. What opinions do you have that causes people to assume that?

Do you have a lot of issues with people then?

She may have a point, but then surely I can throw that one back and say why would you start something while your child was there if you didn't want a response?

To be honest no I don't think I do have issues with people. I'm talking the likes of mumsnet on fb and mummy pages etc I've heard a few ones say you mustn't have kids if you think like that (not just to me I've seen it said to others) it just annoys me. If I'm wrong to be annoyed then I accept that.

if this happens all the time, maybe its you, op? based on this example, you are jumping to conclusions, confrontational and aggressive. not great.

I think I have only seen people say that to people on Mumsnet when they have quite an unlikely opinion on parenting.

I would think that if say, someone said they'd never let their child watch television. I would think that that kind of black and white thinking is more typical of someone who has yet to be knocked into the shades of grey that comes with negotiating with actual children and life with children