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wordlemcfuddle · 03/05/2017 20:50

Can't even believe I am writing this right now am so fucking angry.

I have just popped round to my mothers house. My nephew opens the door and says "look at my leg daddy did this" revealing massive bruise. I am obviously somewhat taken aback, my mum is telling him to shush. Nephew then starts telling me his dad came into his bedroom and inflicted the injury whilst he was asleep because he had been naughty (broken something).

I am horrified. This is not normal is it? I believe the school has picked up on it, but I don't know what has happened.

Mother won't speak to me about it because she has a difficult relationship with my sister and is terrified if she tells me then my sister will stop talking to her. No one can say anything to her or her husband because they are not normal people to converse with. They are angry and hate the world. I have long suspected he may be violent to my sister though she won't admit it. I did not think he would be violent towards the child.

I am really hoping the school acts on the information and reports it to social services. Having just discussed with my close friend who is a teacher though she advises me they may just log it and no further action.

So my question is if you are a teacher do you think they would get social services involved in this case?

I am hoping they do because I don't want to have to do it myself and the potential ramifications but it's just a horrible and terrifying situation to be in. I don't want my nephew taken away from them to strangers but equally I don't want him in the hands of an abuser.

OP posts:
wordlemcfuddle · 04/05/2017 14:59

It does not need reporting it is in the hands of social services.

OP posts:
stopfuckingshoutingatme · 04/05/2017 16:15

well done OP

I cant imagine how gut churning this has been

they don't and wont know it came from you
and it might not rip your family apart

YOU HAVE DONE THE RIGHT THING

sending strength your way and sorry for you

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 04/05/2017 16:18

just read the school handled it, good for them. Aa we all know after recent incidents schools are very pressurised to report, thanks to god really

I am so sorry, I am complete stranger and I feel very teary for this boy and recent events, and you must be devastated too

sending Wine [tea] Cake

its for the best its been reported, really

NeedsAsockamnesty · 05/05/2017 14:52

I'm glad you posted an update.

It is not unusual for children to stay with family members whilst things are being looked at, it's also not unusual for those family members to not know who they should be telling and who they shouldn't so they end up not saying what's going on.

This is not your stuff this is your nephews and he has a right to have his stuff kept private from you and other members of his comunity.

Ihateandysdinosauradventures · 05/05/2017 15:09

I was a child who was abused and no one stood up for me. Despite me reporting it to lots of folk... they knew. They heard, they saw. I was devastated and thought I deserved it. I grew up never having a voice.

Please step out and report.

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