Husband went on an overseas work trip without telling me ...

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Hi all,

My husband travels a lot for work often travelling for a week at a time but recently has had several early Monday morning meeting which has meant he has left on a Sunday late afternoon. I was at a hens night last night and we stayed the night and it was too far for a cab back. I left the house Saturday, husband waved me off - have fun see you tomorrow ! The B&B we stayed at had no cell reception so I could text him to say we are on our back until about 10:30 when we stopped to get a coffee. By that point phone was really low on charge, I saw 3 messages from him asking if I had a fun night could he call ect ... i quickly messaged back to say all good and had no battery. Got back to the house and he is nowhere to been seen and I had no house keys (as I expected him to be home) by this point I had no battery to call him or check my messages. Friend called him straight to voicemail - very weird. Borrowed a phone charger from my neighbour and low a behold I had a text from him. Ok, well bad news I'm afraid. Don't rush home - I'm at the airport. Realised on Thursday that I was flying today but didn't want to add more upset to your day 😫 - would you complete loose your shit over this ? I had to get a locksmith to get me into the house. He has hardly spoken to me since, thinks I'm overreacting and it's no big deal. That I'm just pissed off that I didn't have my keys. He was being very evasive, would not take a call nor did he answer the hotel phone at 10:40 last night. As he apparently was in the hotel bar ? This isn't stacking up for me ...... am AIBU or him ?

I would definitely prefer getting travel photos from my partner to being with him 24/7!

Don't understand this thread. Op getting kicking for no reason.

He knew on the Thursday he was going at 10.30 Sunday morning. He didn't tell his wife. Nor did he tell her on the Friday or Saturday, in fact he lied and said 'see you tomorrow'' knowing he wouldn't.

Fuck the keys and the phone!! He may have told her Sunday he'd left, if her phone had charge, but he'd already NOT told her on the Thursday, Friday and Saturday even though he knew!!

Op, repost in relationships and leave out the keys bit.

Yes he sent three text messages . None of them said " I'm not going to be at home " even if they did what use is that if he's just about to leave for / is already at the airport ?

He said see you tommorow knowing full well he wouldn't . Why he thought that would upset op less than just being honest is beyond me.

Sounds like there is a lot to resolve op i hope you get sorted .

I would definitely prefer getting travel photos from my partner to being with him 24/7!

Haha, yes! Me too!

Any of your partners able to get mine a job?

Not in the UK, Dont

dont If you don't have any qualifications you should look into getting them. You are more than able and It is never too late.

Please go and take a look at what is available at your local college. It makes no sense for you to not get qualifications which will enable you to get a good job.

Maybe don't start an argument every time he tells you he has to go away

where does it say she does?

Liva- read the posts. Op didn't think she would need her keys and forgot to charge her phone. These things happen but obviously not to all you super organised MNs that just simply can't fathom that happing.....

I know! If i out knowing my
Gusband will Be in when inget home, i dont take my keys either.

I've looked into college and I hate the thought of having to do maths and English etc again. As I went to a training college after I'd left school and got to level 2 in both them and science the place closed down and I have nothing to show for it, before my mum moved us all I also done them and childcare at a different place. I think I've given up a bit because I've done them twice and to do them a third time is annoying me. Going to try and see if I can get into a childcare course or counselling without any GCSE, for now though I don't know if I'm going to be single soon and if I am I don't have any family that can watch my youngest as none are trained up and don't want to be.

I've applied for college.

dont You applied for college today? Well done! First step is often the hardest.

Don't worry about your family not being trained up in childcare. The rules are insane. My dad watches my elder two when we are in England. They are 5 and 4. He was fine with them when younger too but always managed to mess up putting the diaper on. They were never at risk and the elder two love their time with him.

My PIL look after all 3 kids when we are in Denmark. My MiL has no clue what she is doing as had two DC 13 years apart and her eldest (my SIL) spent the majority of her time with her grandmother (my MILs mother).

Doing them a third time is annoying but sometimes you just have to persevere. I passed my regulation exams for my job in investment banking on the third attempt. Everyone else passed first or second time. After you have these qualifications no one asks how many times it took to pass. They just want to know you have it.

Blimey I did read the thread thanks - she didn't think she would need them even though she needed to get back in her home (and presumably couldn't guarantee that he would be there at exactly that time) and she didn't think she would need to charge her phone...

Hardly super organised to take certain things with you - keys, money, phone, charger....

Yep, I've applied today. Excited and nervous at the same time! No one can watch my youngest unfortunately. Tube fed and whoever has her needs to know cpr, but things seem ok with the other half and I think came going to college will take the strain off so, at least he can watch them. Thank you for the reassurance.

Great news, Dont! Third time lucky!

Oh wow! Go Dont! Well done. That is fantastic!

So very happy for you dont. I saw on your post you don't have work experience either. You should ask at the college for help with that.

I will, I'm hoping that my experience having kids and the youngest son extra needs will help when I look into nursing. Thank you everyone, sorry for hijacking the thread lol

Ones, not son.

I would not rely on hope but ask the college if they have any contacts that can help you out with work experience. In our town I'm signed up at the local high school and each year I set up 3-4 kids with work experience at my soon to be former employer.

I will ask them when I go for the interview, thank you. I'm so out of touch with how this all works and I'm only 23!

If you need any help just Pm me. Happy to help you navigate this. It is a lot to take on when you don't have experience of it.

I would be happy to help too. I am a total whizz at CV writing and proofreading if any of that might help. Please don't hesitate to ask. I love how you've just got on with it and done something positive. All power to your elbow!

Wow Dont way to get it done. Very impressive. With that kind of attitude you can do it.