AIBU to have never felt degraded by the fact I don't earn "my own" income?

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I'm fairly new to MN, but recently have read a lot of threads which seem quite judgemental about women who do not work outside the home, particularly once the DC are at school. I have never come across this attitude in real life, so wonder if MN is an anomaly, or if I'm actually missing something?

" My sister works full time and spends the vast majority of her salary kitting her kids out in designer clothes, yet never takes them out or creates any memories for them. Her working all seems a bit pointless to me?."
Surely their stay at home dad makes memories with them? And if I've got te right sister, she works to bring in money for the family - else they'd have none and no amount of head kissing and foot rubbing would put food on the table?

Halo seriously most of us don't. I hate posts like this but am going to do it anyway, are you ok? Poats on mn should be shrugged off - honestly!

@RoseGoldProsecco 👌👏🙌 perfectly said

Needsahalo with all due respect there are different circumstances. Iv made it clear about my opinion based on women who choose to go to work.
You're single, so besides going on benefits you have no choice. You can't be blamed for that, and you're doing the best for your family. You should be proud.

Has anyone mentioned DAY ORPHANAGES yet?

Argh again with the women. I thought you'd agreed your comments weren't aimed specifically at women.

Stealth no he doesn't he prefers washing the car and doing diy.

@needsahalo don't feel like that. Single mums are the strongest mums and your "choices" or lack of are even harder. You are doing amazing for your family, don't feel put down. Forget the halo go and put your princess crown on today and go out with your head held high xxx

Bloody Hell is there no end to the drivel....'women who choose'

Sounds like you've been hit with the lucky brush .. just enjoy it x

Tosegoldprosecco not all parents feel the way you have suggested. Some parents love staying home and couldn't bare to be at a computer all day, others love going to work and couldn't bare to care for their kids all day.
Not all of us are unhappy with our choices and we all have a right to defend them.

Needs
Cry at sad situations....some of the rubbish here is laughable.
We all do what we can, keep doing it with your head held high.

Sounds like you've been hit with the lucky brush .. just enjoy it x

Iv made it clear about my opinion based on women who choose to go to work

I'm actually disgusted i just read that, your opinion of "women" who chose to work? How utterly shameful for you.

Judge? No, but I do think it's a risky choice to make.

I've kept working freelance, so I can keep my CV relevant - it means that we don't need to worry if DP loses his job, or if something terrible happens to him, or if (however unlikely) we split. I will be able to take on a permanent role so we won't need to worry about where the money is.

This means life isn't always as perfect as it could be if one person dedicated themselves to domestic stuff, but I view it as another form of insurance. It also takes some pressure off DP - should his job ever become intolerable he could quit, we have more options because I work.

Sarah sometimes it is better for the children to have a mother who chooses to go to work, if the alternative is an unhappy mother.

None of the women in DH's family work and, aside from actually wanting to, I didn't want my son to grow up with the expectation women automatically stay home when they have kids.

As a working woman, I make sure my children have a totally unloving home and they spend their days chained to beds in their day orphanages, while I shop for designer handbags.

katharina

Read through the posts who believe all Mothers should work regardless and be proud of what you do. I think some of your negative thoughts are coming from with

No, really. People think nothing of saying this shit to your face. The main one being little digs at how your poor children are alawaysmin childcare and what a shame that is for them. It is not my choice. I can't stand this language of choice around working. Too many of us have no choice. I have not attended a school assembly/event/show in 5 years. That is not my choice. You know people judge. It is just very hard to see it presented as choice. No choice.

My own DM stayed home, but I actually remember asking her why when I got to about 8 and realised she wasn't going back. She did the odd part time job as I got older. Strange memory.

Homity well I think that's terribly sad that someone would rather go to work full time then spend time with their baby, and that their baby would make them that miserable.
Sorry we have a difference of opinion.

But it's ok if it IS choice. That's the thing. There really should be no shame in saying you want to work.

I enjoy working and my DS enjoys nursery.

Homity as long as its works for you.

Why do you think that's terribly sad? If everyone's happy what's the issue?

It's also completely bizarre that you think working parents don't spend any time with their children

You are getting very shirty with anyone who is judging those who "choose" to be SAHMs, whilst simultaneously being exceptionally judgmental to WOHMs.