To ask what you miss most about pre-baby life?

[missb00]

Just that really. We are thinking about starting a family but want to know what you miss most about pre-parenthood??

I've got a 9 week old. I bloody love it. We still go out for meals, watch crap on tv, spend time together and shock horror, have sex. Yes it all requires more planning but it's fine. And there's a gorgeous little person enhancing our life and our relationship!

The only thing I truly miss is deep, uninterrupted sleep.

My figure, my career, my sleep and spontaneity. In that order.

oh and morning sex

No longer being footloose and fancy free. Can't just bugge off for the day or have a nap when I want to.

Myself, I am usually far more chilled out and relaxed I have had to change for the dc, its not easy to be calm and relaxed when your being nagged and pushed to the limit on a minute by minute basis.

The freedom to clean, move around the house simply going in and out the house without having to hide door keys ( she locks me out) etc.

The freedom to get in and out the car with ease and not constant struggling, " I forgot my toy, I need this, I have not got that, I want I want I want"

Freedom in general.

Oh yes, and sex. Terrible birth 5 years ago left me with a severe prolapse and despite 2 operations it's still not fixed. So I very rarely fancy sex.

Oh yes, and sex. Terrible birth 5 years ago left me with a severe prolapse and despite 2 operations it's still not fixed. So I very rarely fancy sex.

You've given me some hope!

I really really miss spontaneity and not having to plan childcare to the nth degree day in day out for all work and social plans.

I have a tension headache from the complexity of my childcare arrangements

missclarke

That stuff is pretty easy with a nine week old, it's 6 months plus I've found hard work.

Dont rain in Miss clarkes parade, plenty of time for the sweet undemanding baby to ......MORPH

Lounging about. It is not possible to lounge with a toddler. Either they are clambering all over you or smashing up the house

Sleep. No interruptions. Quiet. Money. Spontaneity. Drinking when hangovers didn't matter!

I don't mean to rain on anyone's parade actually (genuinely!!!) - I know lots who have found it wonderful/easy having an older baby or toddler, it's just not easy for me. But like I say - I'm very introverted!!

But remember that things change, your children get older and you get more and more of your 'old' life back.

It seems like nearly all the replies so far are from parents of little ones. My two are older now (10 and 12) and there's very little that we can't do now. We have days out at the drop of a hat, go to restaurants and pubs with them and stay out as late as we want because they don't need an early bedtime like they did when they were small. We didn't roll in until nearly 2am on Friday when we went to see some friends.

The first couple of years really change when you have your first, nothing really changes after this as once you've adapted your life for one child this carries on when you have your second or third. Our social life changed too though and went went to the pub much less but saw friends at our houses much more.

As for less sleep and less money... I can't help there!

Sleep.

Being able to leave the house without swearing as you've forgotten something.

I have slightly older children now, at 4&6, do they do sleep all night long unless ill and are much more independent etc but I do miss quite a lot about my pre-child life. I miss having money to spend; having evenings, weekends and holidays to do as I pleased; being able to sleep in on a morning when not at work; working full time, not having to cook, wash up, clean up and Hoover every single meal time; having peace and quiet in my house and not listening to arguing; being able to go out to events without being whinged and whined at and having to leave early because of tantrums; basically I miss being able to do things that I enjoy because I have to think of and put my dc's needs first instead.

I'm having a bad day today though so tomorrow I won't be as negative.

Oh @MissClarke86 just you wait 🙊 I remember getting to 16 weeks and thinking "What on earth has everybody been warning me about? This is borderline... 👀 easy"

Still TOTALLY worth it though :)

Freedom and money.

But I love my children and would do anything for them.

Oh and you never, EVER, get your old life back. Ever.

But they are so totally worth it.

niangua ha I shouldn't laugh but I love your honesty. .. this all so true and I think all those things often but seeing it all together is pretty hard hitting!

I love my little almost 3 year old to bits and now have number 2 on the way and I am thinking 😨😨😨😨

Having children is a bit like the frog analogy thing. Throw a frog im boiling water and it will.jump out. Put a frog in cold water and heat it to boiling then it'll stay haha!

It's great really... do it. But ok when you're bored of sleep and freedom and worry free life and lay ins and peace and wany a new challenge!

Wouldn't change I for the world .. but I do put hm in nursery in the school every now and again I the holidays just to slob about and be free for a day!

Lol.... I must be really boring.... I'm not the mumsy type and yet don't really miss anything.... I do much the same things as before but just need to plan a little better.. .. I just bring the baby with me.... lol.... He's 8 now 😁

Hahaha Miss Clark enjoy this while it last.. ah how I remember those times. To be fair it lasted until about 16 months and then the toddling thing of nightmares emerged haha.. love it really.. please someone take him just for a few hours!!!!!

Silence. My two year old talks ALL the time. And the constant, repetitive questions. 'what are you doing Mummy?', 'What's that Mummy', 'where's my shoe???' etc etc. Love her to bits, and how much of a chatterbox she is. But God, what I wouldn't give for 10 minutes of silence.

Hugs TwatteryFlowers