Man took picture of dd's breasts

[WildBelle]

Yesterday dd (12) and her friend went to a large event. It was at a hotel right next to a shopping centre. In theory under 16s were meant to have an adult with them, so I was prepared that I might have to stay, but when we got there no one on the desk said anything about them needing an adult with them, and most people there seemed to be under 16 with no adults in their group. Dd1 is at the age where hanging around with her mum is really not cool so she wanted me to go, and dd2 would have been a massive, whinging pain in the arse if we'd stayed so it kind of suited everyone.

So I took dd2 for lunch and a wander around the shops in the shopping centre right next to the hotel. After a couple of hours dd2 phoned to say they'd had enough and wanted to leave, so we walked back over and met them.

On the way home, dd and her friend told me about a man coming up to them when they were at the event and asked to take a picture or dd (she was dressed up as a character and did look pretty cool). She agreed, but instead of using the proper camera he had with him, got his Iphone out and zoomed right in on dd's breasts (she is very blessed in that department), and took a picture. They found it quite funny but I was pretty shocked. He'd given them the impression that he was taking pictures on behalf of the event, although of course he could have just been saying that.

Dd's friend was chatting to another friend they'd met up with at the event last night and apparently this guy had done similar to other girls too.

I am tempted to contact the event about it but don't know what they can do, and they will probably just say that as dd is under 16 she was supposed to have an adult with her. But a grown man going around taking pictures of a 12 year old's cleavage isn't ok is it?

For gods sake very sad ! Slim young girls with large boobs can't hide them if they try victim blaming there

There are often unsupervised under 16/18s at these events, you did nothing wrong OP. Do check out the cosplay is not consent thing though and consider sharing it with other parents. I don't have teenagers yet but it must be so difficult to talk to young girls about this stuff without veering into accidental victim blaming. for you.

Yes a gentle euphemism is exactly how it was intended! Certainly wasn't trying to 'sexualise' her as a pp suggested.

And the little bugger reminds me pretty much on a daily basis that she has boobs and I don't, so I don't think it's a sensitive topic for her!

I appreciate that your intention was a 'gentle euphemism' and I don't happen to agree that the phrase 'blessed' sexualises your DD.

FWIW, I don't much care for euphemisms. I think they're often twee and that it's much healthier to be direct about what you wish to say, within reason of course. However, surely you can see that describing large breasts as a 'blessing' implies that they are a positive thing to be grateful for. I'm glad that your DD isn't sensitive about the matter but I"m afraid that the event that you describe in your OP clearly suggests that she won't get much further into her adolescence without inappropriate comments.

Just had 2 local police officers over who seemed to take what happened very seriously. They've taken all the details and are going to pass it on to the Bristol police to look over the cctv.

Good. And check whether they are going to contact the event holders directly too. The bloke was probably lying about taking pics for the website - I think it's more likely they'd end up on a saddo subreddit if anywhere - but they should be made aware that this element hangs around.