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To think this bloody party should have been cancelled

148 replies

stillpinching · 29/04/2017 21:30

DD went to a party today - well it was more of a day out with the birthday girl and a couple of her other friends. I am furious as when she got back she mentioned how the birthday child had had to be taken home early by one of her parents as she had thrown up in the shopping centre.

The other parent had carried on with the outing (cinema trip), which I think is odd in itself, but I'm guessing they had pre-booked the tickets and didn't want them all wasted. They did skip the meal though so dd was home earlier than planned.

What has really enraged me is that dd mentioned at bedtime that this girl's sibling was off school ill yesterday. So this could all have been predicted. What on earth were they thinking? Now I suppose that's our bank holiday ruined. Angry.

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Ihopeyouhadthetimeofyourlife · 29/04/2017 21:33

Well I'm not sure about this. I am emetophobic and my inclined to be a bit paranoid, but I'm not sure an ill sibling necessarily warrants cancelling a party.

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl · 29/04/2017 21:34

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PineQueen · 29/04/2017 21:35

The sibling was ill, not the birthday child initially. That's not a reason to cancel.

Crunchymum · 29/04/2017 21:35

Hmmmm to be fair unless the child herself was sick before the incident in the shopping centre, then I can't see anyone did anything wrong.

You don't keep your kids off school if a sibling is ill with something do you?

My DC1 had a vomiting bug that landed him in hospital and non of us got it.

And I say all this as an emetophobe!!!

lilydaisyrose · 29/04/2017 21:35

I wouldn't think twice about this (just be sorry for DD that her party was cut short). I think you are overreacting.

HateSummer · 29/04/2017 21:37

Yeah. Shit people for taking your child to the cinema as planned instead of bringing her home without any fun.

You sound like an odd job.

Scrumptiousbears · 29/04/2017 21:37

If my daughter was ill and she had other friends with her looking forward to the film one of us would take daughter home and continue with the film. Saying that I'd ask them what they wanted to do first.

Think fuming is a bit of an over reaction.

Whisky2014 · 29/04/2017 21:37

Overreaction OP. If anyone ruins it, it's you.

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 29/04/2017 21:38

Was the shopping center part of the party/outing? If so, I don't think they were unreasonable to do as they did. As for sibling being off the day before, do you even know what it was for? It could have been something totally different.

SavoyCabbage · 29/04/2017 21:38

I wouldn't have cancelled a party for one child if my other child had been sick the day before. I suppose they were just doing what they thought was best.

Allthewaves · 29/04/2017 21:38

Don't know why your furious tbh. I have 3 kids and only me and one of them got last round of vomiting bug so it's not like thty could have predicted it. I would have carried on with the cinema trip as why should the girls miss out

SugarMiceInTheRain · 29/04/2017 21:38

I think you're overreacting, sorry.

Smellbellina · 29/04/2017 21:41

I think you're getting your arse in your hands over nothing. They did the best they could. Bless them for taking the other children to the film after their own (birthday) child had to be taken home.
Some people are really hard to please!

flyingpinkduckgirl · 29/04/2017 21:41

Wow op are you at all concerned about how the birthday girl is feeling? Poor girl getting a bug and missing her own birthday treat. No? Just in a huff because there's a possibility that it might affect you.
I'm guessing that they didn't cancel the party (and carried on when the birthday girl left) because they didn't want the other kids to be disappointed.

stonecircle · 29/04/2017 21:41

YOUR Bank Holiday ruined?! Shock Where's the sympathy for the birthday girl who missed the trip to the cinema and suffered the embarrassment and discomfort of throwing up at the shopping centre?

Charming.

FairNotFair · 29/04/2017 21:41

You're overreacting.

elephantoverthehill · 29/04/2017 21:43

You are furious and enraged because one parent took children to the cinema as planned?

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stillpinching · 29/04/2017 21:45

Well ok, it's just that, ime when one gets it they all do, and now it seems mine is likely to as well. I'm thinking they just ploughed on with it all and should have cancelled.

Of course I feel sorry for the little girl, but I'll feel sorry for mine too if she gets it and it could have been avoided. And bank holidays are a big deal for us- we don't get a lot of family time.

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RB68 · 29/04/2017 21:48

Dunk her in a bath and give her a good scrub. Its generally passed through contact so at least then you know she is clean and there isn't much else you can do - I have sympathy for the parents in this in that they at least dealt with plan B OK. So what so child went home early, at least they didn't stick her in the corner and carry on

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 29/04/2017 21:49

Often stomach bugs are not transmitted, though. DH had one last week and didn't use any antibac or bleach after being poorly in the night. I shared a bed him. Also a water glass, by mistake.

I am fine!

flyingpinkduckgirl · 29/04/2017 21:50

Do they all go to school together? If so then the girls would have been in contact with the bug anyway. I know it's horrible to think of your child being ill but it's a part of life. Getting enraged at a parent who was in an unfortunate position and tried to make the best of it isn't going to help anything is it?

Foldedtshirt · 29/04/2017 21:51

When you say 'thrown up' you mean 'dropped dead from Ebola.' right?
Because otherwise your post doesn't make sense.

KRG13 · 29/04/2017 21:52

Oh give over you big drama llama

TheFairyCaravan · 29/04/2017 21:52

It's not worth being furious over. The parents couldn't have predicted this. Stomach bugs don't always go through families.

Poor girl, missing her treat and puking on her birthday. What a shame.

yumyumpoppycat · 29/04/2017 21:52

If they were in school together on the Friday your daughter would have been in contact with it anyway.

If one child is ill it could be anything, they can't have anticipated the birthday girl would be sick at the cinema - my dd2 was sick at dd1's sleepover party because she prob was a bit tired, over excited and ate too much junk the night before. When my eldest 2 were small they used to give each other things but that doesn't happen as much now they are older and past the licking everything stage (touches wood)

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