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To think this bloody party should have been cancelled

148 replies

stillpinching · 29/04/2017 21:30

DD went to a party today - well it was more of a day out with the birthday girl and a couple of her other friends. I am furious as when she got back she mentioned how the birthday child had had to be taken home early by one of her parents as she had thrown up in the shopping centre.

The other parent had carried on with the outing (cinema trip), which I think is odd in itself, but I'm guessing they had pre-booked the tickets and didn't want them all wasted. They did skip the meal though so dd was home earlier than planned.

What has really enraged me is that dd mentioned at bedtime that this girl's sibling was off school ill yesterday. So this could all have been predicted. What on earth were they thinking? Now I suppose that's our bank holiday ruined. Angry.

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NennyNooNoo · 29/04/2017 23:01

We've had sickness bugs that have gone round the family, sickness bugs that have just affected one child and a sickness bug that affected one and then the others a whole week later. You can't predict beforehand which it is going to be.

wickedgamestoplay · 29/04/2017 23:01

Are you for real??? I'd be pissed off if I'd invited you. So bloody judgemental.

Her sibling was ill not the birthday girl: what parent would cancel birthday celebrations because a sibling as a big.

And I think it lovely that a fellow parent stepped in and took over the party in those circumstances.

Enraged?? Angry

Imstickingwiththisone · 29/04/2017 23:07

Why does reverse get called so frequently? Have I just never seen all these threads where the OP turns round 15 pages later and says 'oh I reversed all the roles in this story for no reason whatsoever. Im actually Y instead of X!'

What's the point

PurpleMinionMummy · 29/04/2017 23:08

Why is your bank holiday ruined?

feathermucker · 29/04/2017 23:09

I don't get your logic!

The birthday girl's sibling was I'll, so today's events could have been predicted??

It's not a given that siblings contract all illnesses when one is sick......nor it is a given that your child will automatically be sick now!

Biscuit
Thingvellir · 29/04/2017 23:12

My DC have never passed illnesses to each other, with one single exception - chicken pox, which they also passed to DH (fun times)

If your DD isn't sick, there's no need for fuming and anger that I can see, the other parents were just trying to salvage the day, I assume your DD had a nice time at the cinema. I feel very sorry for the poor bday girl

SandyDenny · 29/04/2017 23:34

Surely every day your child is at school they could be exposed to another child who has a bug. You'd never go anywhere if you worried about that.

Admittedly my DC have never had a sickness bug so maybe I'd feel different if it had ever happened but nearly everyday in the school facebook group there is a post about a child in one class or another being off with a bug, the other parents don't all keep their children at home.

The birthday parents did the best they could in the circumstances

mathanxiety · 30/04/2017 01:21

If bank holidays are so precious, why did you accept the invitation?

user1491572121 · 30/04/2017 01:54

My DD had a guest at her 6th birthday party where one child showed up WHITE and wobbly. It was in one of the build a bear places but not build a bear...there was food mid way through and the poor child looked at her plate and threw up on it.

The staff were SO fast. The plate and the sick magically vanished and I sat with the little girl by an open window until her parent arrived looking cross.

I did make sure she was sent her party bag into school the monday after...poor kid Who sends a sick child to a party?

farangatang · 30/04/2017 02:01

maybe the birthday girl ate far too many sweets for breakfast and vomited for a reason other than a virus/infection.

I am struggling to understand OP's reaction even if the child had Norovirus.

GreatFuckability · 30/04/2017 02:19

I am interested in the term 'emetephobic'. Is there really such a condition? Talking to grandparents recently, we cannot remember our children having d and v which appears to be common now

a) emetophobia is people who have a fear of sickness, of course it is real, you can be phobic of anything!
b) are genuinely suggesting people didn't get sickness bugs 'back in the day'?? I can assure you they did.

GreatFuckability · 30/04/2017 02:20

oh and OP, YABridiculous.

you can't cancel a child's birthday in case they MIGHT be sick, for gods sake.

user1491572121 · 30/04/2017 05:09

I find that there's a lot of "emetophobia" bandied about when in reality a lot of them just don't like sick.

I'm not saying the thing doesn't exist...of course it does. Some people really suffer with phobias but there are always those people who talk loudly about their phobias and make other people doubt them as there seem so many WITH it.

I have a phobia and I can't even bring myself to admit to it, such is my horror of the subject.

Even writing this is disturbing as I'm acknowledging it.

SiouxieQ · 30/04/2017 05:18

OP give your head a wobble and stop being a twat.

EvilDoctorBallerinaDuck · 30/04/2017 05:19

I agree with everyone on here. There's no way they could have known that the other DD was going to catch the bug.

llangennith · 30/04/2017 05:20

I hope you managed not to convey your rage to your DD and spoil the nice day she'd had. Complete overreaction.

JigglyTuff · 30/04/2017 05:21

By your logic OP, all siblings should be kept home for 48 hours if one of them is sick. That's just silly

Quickieat2 · 30/04/2017 05:43

Stop being so dramatic and silly.

Aebj · 30/04/2017 05:46

What do you have planned for the weekend that is sooooo important that if you of you gets ill you can't miss?
Hope your dd had a good time and her friend gets better soon

LedaP · 30/04/2017 07:11

Yabu.

There have been loads of time in this house where one gets sick and no one else does. More often than us all getting it.

GreatAuntPrudish · 30/04/2017 07:28

What was the film?

Trifleorbust · 30/04/2017 07:30

You'd ruin a little girl's party because someone threw up once? Good grief.

LostSight · 30/04/2017 07:31

I find that there's a lot of "emetophobia" bandied about when in reality a lot of them just don't like sick.

As a former emetophobe, I believe it's one of the commonest phobias. I have always been weirdly drawn to such threads though, and have always been able to discuss the subject. In fact, I'd say it holds a horrible fascination for me and I have often felt Confused that some people are so blase about vomiting bugs. So the idea that a phobic person might not even be able to comment doesn't cover everyone.

That said, even I wouldn't expect the parents of the birthday child above to cancel the party. I'd be annoyed if the sibling who had vomited had been brought along and I would spend 48 hours in a state of anxiety after the actual event that occurred. But I wouldn't be angry with the parent.

Underthemoonlight · 30/04/2017 07:34

Get a grip woman talk about over reacting

OhDearToby · 30/04/2017 07:47

What if it had been a school day? Should the entire family take 48hrs school/work just incase they get ill?

My sympathies here lie entirely with the birthday girl and her parents. I hope you didn't show your (completely unreasonable) anger. Way to make sure your child is never invited again!