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To think this bloody party should have been cancelled

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stillpinching · 29/04/2017 21:30

DD went to a party today - well it was more of a day out with the birthday girl and a couple of her other friends. I am furious as when she got back she mentioned how the birthday child had had to be taken home early by one of her parents as she had thrown up in the shopping centre.

The other parent had carried on with the outing (cinema trip), which I think is odd in itself, but I'm guessing they had pre-booked the tickets and didn't want them all wasted. They did skip the meal though so dd was home earlier than planned.

What has really enraged me is that dd mentioned at bedtime that this girl's sibling was off school ill yesterday. So this could all have been predicted. What on earth were they thinking? Now I suppose that's our bank holiday ruined. .

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coconuttella · 01/05/2017 18:57

Sorry OP. What a horrible weekend for you

Yes, not a nice weekend... no excuse for being 'fuming' with birthday girl's parents. OP should get a grip... how she copes with life's real injustices I have no idea!

coconuttella · 01/05/2017 18:57

Sorry OP. What a horrible weekend for you

Yes, not a nice weekend... no excuse for being 'fuming' with birthday girl's parents. OP should get a grip... how she copes with life's real injustices I have no idea!

JigglyTuff · 01/05/2017 21:15

Wow - it's amazing that your children caught a bug less than 24 hours after being exposed to it. And even more amazing that one of them wasn't even exposed to the vomiting child.

Sorry you're going to have to take the next couple of days off work though.

Floggingmolly · 01/05/2017 21:20

Your dd had barely any contact at all with the birthday child... Yet not just she, but you and her sibling all got the bug in the next couple of hours? Are you all immunosuppressed for some reason?
What are the odds on that??!

SiouxieQ · 01/05/2017 21:27

Sorry but that's bollocks, you've said that so you can be 'right' and try to make every other reasonable person on this thread look stupid.
Bit sad really.

TheRealPooTroll · 01/05/2017 21:31

No the mum will have risked it because it isn't normal to quarantine perfectly well children because their siblings is ill. Would you keep your child off school if they were well just because their sibling wasn't? You'd have the attendance officer out to see you if you did that at my lids school.

HoldBackTheRain · 01/05/2017 21:31

OP, if you all got sick in such a short time it sounds like someone probably picked it up before the birthday do. Sorry but I agree with the others here - you never know when you're going to be in contact with someone who's been sick, I think it's unreasonable to blame the parents of the birthday girl who'se sibling was sick the day before. And I say this as someone who ha a very premature, sickly baby for the first 2 years of his life. I don't have emetophonia but suffered real anxiety over his health for the first 6 or 7 years of his life.

KERALA1 · 01/05/2017 21:39

How would you feel if your child's party was described as "this bloody party" by the attendees parents?

grumpysquash3 · 01/05/2017 21:39

OP, I'm sorry you've had such a rubbish weekend.
But I would say that if 2 of your DC came down with it early hours of Sunday, they couldn't have caught it from the birthday girl (your DD would have got it first, then your other DC a day or so later). So maybe it was just hugely bad luck :(

NoMudNoLotus · 01/05/2017 21:46

You're a prat OP.

You could have all got it anyway from school.

TheExuberant1 · 01/05/2017 21:49

I think it was good of them to continue without the party girl. I would have felt sorry for the parents really who still ploughed on with the party to prevent letting her friends down even though their child suddenly became unwell. One of my children has been ill and the other hasn't so I don't agree that they should have cancelled. These things happen!

Instasista · 01/05/2017 22:15

Op I am cringing very hard for you
Right now

KERALA1 · 02/05/2017 05:52

We had this. Dd violently sick night before her own party. Emailed all parents gave them option to bail, but after school party so none did. Party went ahead minus Dd who was properly ill in bed. None of the guests got it but was such a shame- she so rarely ill what are the chances..

BillyDaveysDaughter · 02/05/2017 06:06

I'm emetophobic. I scrolled to the end of the thread to see if the OPs child caught it...

FrenchLavender · 02/05/2017 06:36

Of course she did. The OP and her family ALWYS get it.

FrenchLavender · 02/05/2017 06:37

I think she'd have been disappointed if they hadn't, family.

FrenchLavender · 02/05/2017 06:37

Frankly not family

eternalopt · 02/05/2017 07:02

Ah well OP. I'm sure if anyone catches wind of your reaction to things, the party invites will dry up and you won't be in this situation again.

GinSwigmore · 02/05/2017 07:12

Chinny reckon

greyffinch · 02/05/2017 07:16

When we had toddlers, there was a tendency for whole swathes of them to go down with D and V like dominoes following a play date or trip out. But as they get to primary age and build up resistance there is no hard and fast rule that because one vommed, all children in the vicinity will.

stonecircle · 02/05/2017 07:36

So how long are you planning on putting your family into quarantine op so you don't pass this on to anyone else?

Bluntness100 · 02/05/2017 07:46

Op, if they were ill early hours of Sunday they got it at school or elsewhere, the Incubation period for Norovirus is between 24 and 48 hours. They could not have incubated within 10-12 hours. As such, they already had it when they went to the birthday outing on the sat.

NennyNooNoo · 02/05/2017 10:48

How do you think your other DC got it, OP? It appears from your post that he/ she didn't go to the party, and, as others have pointed out, given the timings, it is more likely that they both had it already most probably picked up at school on Friday, but you seem determined to believe they both caught it from the birthday girl.

If your whole family always gets hit in this way as you said in your update, maybe you need to look at improving your containment measures. Norovirus can be airborne in that you can get it by being next to someone vomiting. With small children, sometimes it's inevitable that the adult caring for them gets exposed, but a child old enough to go on a birthday day out is old enough to vomit into a bucket without the parent next to them. If there is a puke accident, how are you cleaning it up? Only bleach or Virkon are active against the norovirus: antibacterial sprays are useless and serve only to spread the virus around further. If someone in the family has a sickness bug, assume that commonly touched surfaces such as door handles, light switches, banisters, stair gates etc are contaminated unless cleaned with bleach, and may even become decontaminated after you've cleaned them. The sick person can remain infective for up to 2 weeks afterwards. Therefore, proper handwashing and drying on a clean towel is imperative EVERY TIME before touching food that isn't going to be cooked or before touching your mouth. Also don't share finger food eg bag of crisps for several weeks after.

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