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Original poster

To think this bloody party should have been cancelled

148 replies

stillpinching · 29/04/2017 21:30

DD went to a party today - well it was more of a day out with the birthday girl and a couple of her other friends. I am furious as when she got back she mentioned how the birthday child had had to be taken home early by one of her parents as she had thrown up in the shopping centre.

The other parent had carried on with the outing (cinema trip), which I think is odd in itself, but I'm guessing they had pre-booked the tickets and didn't want them all wasted. They did skip the meal though so dd was home earlier than planned.

What has really enraged me is that dd mentioned at bedtime that this girl's sibling was off school ill yesterday. So this could all have been predicted. What on earth were they thinking? Now I suppose that's our bank holiday ruined. Angry.

OP posts:
milliemolliemou · 30/04/2017 13:30

But if the sibling had been ill the day before and the birthday girl went into school the same day, wouldn't it be just as likely she'd already spread it? And these things can come on so quickly that the birthday girl could have been absolutely fine until an hour before she threw up.
So is your bank holiday now ruined OP?
Though I think giving people a chance to choose might have been the right way to go about it if anyone is immune compromised.

Willow2017 · 30/04/2017 14:17

Only person that could ruin the bank holiday is you with your outrage at someone taking your kid out for a nice time.

Hope you didn't spoil her nice day by your ridiculous over reaction.

My youngest had norivirus for a week but none of the rest of us got it. I didn't keep his brother off school either why would I? He was absolutely fine.

olympicsrock · 30/04/2017 14:46

How kind of them. Get a grip!

tinytemper66 · 30/04/2017 16:14

So OP, are you too busy cleaning up sick to respond?

Dragongirl10 · 30/04/2017 16:24

Poor Birthday Girl, being ill on her party and having to go home.

She must have been so sad, and how kind of the parents to still take other girls to the cinema so they would not miss out.

Do you always think only of yourself?

Instasista · 30/04/2017 16:25

You're bonkers to be enraged. I wouldn't have cancelled either

Instasista · 30/04/2017 16:28

s emetophobia is bizarrely prevalent on MN. It's actually fairly rare and serious. However- no one can expect the world to revolve around their anxiety disorder. I don't know why people mention it all the time on MN as if other people should take anymore care around them
Then they would anyone else

PuppyMonkey · 30/04/2017 16:31

Sorry to derail but lol at the comment " I think you're getting your arse in your hands over nothing" Wink

Never heard that before.

Carry on. YABU btw OP.

WankingMonkey · 30/04/2017 16:33

I am interested in the term 'emetephobic'. Is there really such a condition?

Yews, I have it. i thought it was rare but a lot of people on MN seem to have it. It is fucking horrendous. Just last night my son threw up everywhere and I was terrified. Luckily DH was there to sort most of it..I had to change DD who had been puked on though and had to ask DSS to take her clothes off as I tried and felt like I was going to pass out. I managed to shower her though. DH sorted DS and cleaned up the sofa. I am so scared that this will happen one day when DH is out..I guess I would HAVE to deal with it but even the thought makes my heart beat fast and my head go funny.

Thinking of trying a hypnotherapist, I know some don't believe in them but its worth a shot as emetophobia and having small children really do not mix Sad

WankingMonkey · 30/04/2017 16:41

over the years have spent time deep breathing through waves of nausea when I have a bug to avoid vomiting

yes, I fight it for hours and hours. I would rather feel ill for days than be sick once and it be over and done with. I know its ridiculous...and also when I do happen to vomit its not even that bad yet i will still fight it. I panic for days if someone is ill and I have had contact with them. I an anxious in public constantly, especially on public transport. I have to sit and the front so that I have a exit if someone on the bus is ill. i can barely even sort out my own children when they were ill. I feel pathetic but I cannot help it.

Agree with PP who said a lot of people say they have emetophobia when its simply that they don't like sick.

mygorgeousmilo · 30/04/2017 17:08

YABU and bloody ridiculous. Nothing is ruined, only for the ooor birthday girl!

RunTumMum · 30/04/2017 18:02

I don't believe emetophobia is any more common on Mumsnet it's just that people are drawn to comment on threads where they have a view- someone asked whether it was real of course you will then get people posting their experience. Not sure why emetophobia should be any less believable than any other phobia, where you will get people suffering to varying degrees and with varying impacts on the way they live their lives. As to whether others should make adjustments- that goes into the murky area of how we react to mental health conditions more widely. I don't need or ask for adjustments (unless you want me to go on a cross channel ferry!) but others who are suffering more and have a phobia as one of a bunch of conditions may not be so fortunate.

PopGoesTheWeaz · 30/04/2017 22:34

I am so curious to see if the OP will come back to tell us her DD has been sick or if the bank holiday has been saved by the grace of God.

Original poster
stillpinching · 01/05/2017 16:53

Well, in order to answer the above question and a couple of other similar ones - yes, we did all get it. Hope everyone's happy with that Hmm.

Two dc got it early hours of Sunday and are pretty much over it now. I got it late last night and the sickness has stopped but I ache all over can't sit up without feeling ill. Lovely sunny day and the dc have been on screens mostly and I've been in bed.

I knew we'd all get it - we always do. But hey, I was so selfish not to want this to happen wasn't I? And as I said, I did feel sorry for the birthday girl, not least because she was sick in public then had a 40 minute drive home which can't have been fun. But I get from this that not all families get hit like mine, so that'll be why they risked it. Pretty shit all round really.

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m0therofdragons · 01/05/2017 16:57

I have 3 dds and last Monday dd3 vomited in the car all over herself on the way to school, siblings sitting either side. Dd3 shares a bedroom with her twin dd2. Dd1 and dd2 have not had the bug. Just because one is ill does not mean they'll all get it!

m0therofdragons · 01/05/2017 16:58

Maybe teach your kids better hand hygiene?

PerspicaciaTick · 01/05/2017 16:59

That is unfortunate - must have been a really virulent bug to go from exposure to vomiting in around 12 hours, no wonder you feel wiped out.
Fingers crossed that you all feel well enough to get out in to the garden tomorrow.

Thingvellir · 01/05/2017 17:00

I'm sorry to hear you were all ill.

But what are you going to do? Never let them leave the house again? Better hand washing hygiene might actually help.

LedaP · 01/05/2017 17:01

They could have got it before then. If ots so contagious.

If it even happened. Sounds like a made up 'i am right and you are wrong' post to me.

GinIsIn · 01/05/2017 17:10

Well the OP was hardly going
to come back and admit that she'd overreacted and they hadn't caught it.... Hmm Perhaps talk to your DC about hand hygiene - sickness bugs are not airborne.

Honeyandfizz · 01/05/2017 17:20

Of COURSE the op and dc got it! 🤔

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl · 01/05/2017 17:24

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mygorgeousmilo · 01/05/2017 18:10

Riiiiiight...... Hmm

gluteustothemaximus · 01/05/2017 18:31

Sorry OP. What a horrible weekend for you Flowers

You won't win with this lot. If you'd come back and said you didn't get ill, people would have continued with their told you so drama queen blah blah blah, and coming back with you were ill....they don't believe you Hmm

Speedy recovery to you all!

coconuttella · 01/05/2017 18:55

OP.... I get you're cross that you all got ill...

However, how was it the birthday girl's parent's fault? Did you seriously expect them to cancel the party because her sibling was sick the day before? Do you keep your children off school if or another family member gets ill?

Also, why the anger about taking the kids to the cinema? How was that in any way unreasonable?

Shit happens... You got sick. You'll live. All will be back to normal in a day or so. Stop acting like a spoilt, pathetic brat.