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To think this bloody party should have been cancelled

148 replies

stillpinching · 29/04/2017 21:30

DD went to a party today - well it was more of a day out with the birthday girl and a couple of her other friends. I am furious as when she got back she mentioned how the birthday child had had to be taken home early by one of her parents as she had thrown up in the shopping centre.

The other parent had carried on with the outing (cinema trip), which I think is odd in itself, but I'm guessing they had pre-booked the tickets and didn't want them all wasted. They did skip the meal though so dd was home earlier than planned.

What has really enraged me is that dd mentioned at bedtime that this girl's sibling was off school ill yesterday. So this could all have been predicted. What on earth were they thinking? Now I suppose that's our bank holiday ruined. Angry.

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Xmasbaby11 · 29/04/2017 21:54

We never get bugs at the same time, even with my two dc sharing and room and having a lot of close physical contact. So I think it's quite unpredictable how illness is spread and I wouldn't second guess it. However, if either child is sick I would keep them away from school and other children for 48 hours.

Amaried · 29/04/2017 21:54

Folded . lol at your post

You sound nuts op... if I cancelled my other dcs activities every time one of them was ill. We'd go no where!

PerspicaciaTick · 29/04/2017 21:54

stillpinching, I think some families have a lot of experience of bugs sweeping through the whole household. I don't know why that would be, but it makes sense that parents in those families can swing into action with a well-practiced routine to minimise the chances of all the children going down one after another.
Other families have little or no experience of contagious tummy upsets and are caught out. They do their best to muddle through without the tried and tested responses. My family have been incredibly fortunate that this hasn't happened to us ever (eldest DC is now 13) nor did it ever happen when i was a child, so I never saw my parents coping with an outbreak. I am in awe of MNers who post amazing DV-action plans, they sound so on top of things and at least I now have some ideas I must try and put into action if/when we are struck down.

iago · 29/04/2017 21:55

I am interested in the term 'emetephobic'. Is there really such a condition? Talking to grandparents recently, we cannot remember our children having d and v which appears to be common now.

TheStoic · 29/04/2017 21:56

You'd better quarantine your family now, OP. Cancel any plans you may have for the next few days.

FeedTheSharkAndItWillBite · 29/04/2017 22:00

Unless your child has some sort of condition (if the parents knew about that condition then yes, they should have told you)? YABU.

Now that your DD has been in contact with that child, will you keep her away from all other group gatherings? If not? YABVVU.

ToffeeCaramel · 29/04/2017 22:02

How odd. The 48 rule applies to the child who's been sick, not their siblings too.

ToffeeCaramel · 29/04/2017 22:02

48 hour

Starlight2345 · 29/04/2017 22:04

YABU..

No one wants a sickness bug..Fistly you don't know what was wrong with sibling, though sounds likely tummy bug. Secondly You don't know if a sibling will catch it..

I had and awful Tummy bug last year. Ill for over a week. I would clean with bleach as I had my head down the toilet. My DS did not catch it. Despite me having to cook for him for a week ( mostly freezer food) and live around me.

flyingpinkduckgirl · 29/04/2017 22:07

Tick: I'm curious, dv action plans? Really.... I mean other than mop it all up, sulk and wait for it to end?
Good job I only have one child!!

Isadora2007 · 29/04/2017 22:12

Re action plans- i am a bit of an emetophobe and so I found having the sick bowl and some old towels on the bathroom that are easy to access helped me feel more calm. I also have a sick bowl at the side of the bed when I know other people have had sick bugs or if one of the kids has come in feeling unwell.
I was very thankful for it the other night when ds sat up then had a massive Vom a la the exorcist and nearly filled the bowl!
🤢😷

SootyShearwater · 29/04/2017 22:14

What a pathetic over-reaction Hmm If you observe sensible hygiene precautions, your dd is not necessarily going to go down with this bug. Bank Holidays are important to everyone, and most people don't get enough time together as a family, but if you feel so strongly about it, just don't accept any more party invitations.

MudCity · 29/04/2017 22:16

YABU. It was good of the parents to continue with the cinema trip so that their daughter's friends were not disappointed.

gluteustothemaximus · 29/04/2017 22:16

So sibling was ill yesterday, and birthday girl ill today.

Yes, I would be annoyed. Clearly in the minority on this one.

Largely because we have all caught vomiting bugs at one time or another due to someone not staying indoors when they knew they were ill/could be ill.

SIL had form for this. And just the other day we met up with a friend and she said half way through, oh excuse me I'm not myself. D and V, might still be contagious so best not kiss the baby too much Angry

Taylor22 · 29/04/2017 22:19

YABU. Just because one was ill doesn't mean the other will be.
It was her birthday. I would've defiantly taken the risk.

Ohyesiam · 29/04/2017 22:30

I really can't imagine looking one of my kids in the eye and saying " because your sibling vomited yesterday, you don't get your birthday treat ".

PopGoesTheWeaz · 29/04/2017 22:33

major overreaction.
and i disagree that one being sick leads to the other being sick.

Feel really sad for the child whose birthday party is cancelled because her sibling was ill earlier in the week. :(

FlossyMooToo · 29/04/2017 22:37

Children get ill all the time. What are you to do keep them in doors forever?

Childhood illness is a part of childhood stop trying to put your chold in a bubble and stop blaming everyone. Its not healthy.

ScarlettFreestone · 29/04/2017 22:39

I think that it was kind of the parents in those circumstances to still take the girls to the cinema, I hope you thanked them.

There is no reason that your DD should necessarily catch the big.

I have 9 yo twins, it's very uncommon for them both to catch something at the same time.

TheRealPooTroll · 29/04/2017 22:41

Would you keep your child off school because their sibling was ill? If the child wasn't ill then of course their party should still go ahead. And I'd be immensely grateful to the parent who thought of your child's disappointment and continued with the cinema trip.
Oddest complaint I've seen on here and that's saying something!

TheZeppo · 29/04/2017 22:49

Enraged? Really?

If their other child was poorly, doesn't mean they should cancel the others party! I'm one of 7 Confused if we'd done that, none of us would ever have celebrated Grin

KenDoddsDadsDog · 29/04/2017 22:53

What awful parents , trying to make sure the other kids had a nice time.
They both probably wanted to be at home with their poorly , no doubt disappointed child.

MyPatronusIsAUnicorn · 29/04/2017 22:54

My children never seem to catch sickness bugs off each other. They don't really get them at all but if someone in the house gets one, it's often not passed around.

TheRealPooTroll · 29/04/2017 22:58

Shall I be the first to cry reverse? OP is the mum who took the other kids to the cinema and one of their parent has complained.

babyinarms · 29/04/2017 22:59

Uabu. As a pp said, if one of your dcs was sick wld u keep them all out of school, just in case ! I don't think so !

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