Did something very silly, please advise

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Went for a boozy work lunch yesterday (I work in banking, it was with my bosses) but held it together. My boss who is significsntly more senior than me then took us all out for a drink after. Everyone was fairly tipsy but holding it together.

I made the mistake of staying for one more drink with my boss after the others had left. One turned into another and then another, got progressively more drunk. He is married but separated I think and things are bad. I'm single and was being nice to him; guess he took this the wrong way as he then made a comment about how he knew what I was doing but was resisting (?) and kissed my cheek. I put him right and said that although he was attractive i wasn't interested. He also said I looked hot at various points in the evening.

We ended up going to a club at his suggestion (just us) and staying out. I missed plans I had with a friend as was very drunk.

I feel completely awful about it today even though nothing really happened (have a horrible feeling we may have held hands at some point?!), I'm not sure what I was thinking. I really wasn't after him but was just being nice - I can see how it would look that way though. I am scared I have lost his respect.

I was sick in the toilets at one point. I am worried about how to act when I get back to work. I feel like I have compromised my integrity.

Alcohol was clouding your judgement. I think it clouds everyone's judgement. So you're not stupid - this is just what alcohol can do. It obviously affected your boss in the same way, if not worse!

You just need a plan on how to move on from this and how never to let it happen again.

You'll actually feel a lot better when the alcohol has completely left your system. Eat well and keep your blood sugar up. Go out for a walk, watch a great movie - something to stop you ruminating.

It will get better, honest.

Just sounds like you both enjoyed a bit of attention from each other. Nothing wrong with that really.

Style it out, and yes next time leave with everyone else!

I agree with everyone, you haven't done anything that wrong, so just style it out and don't mention it again. If anyone asks, say it was a great night but you won't be getting that drunk again. And don't.

No huge harm done.

Imperial I think the OP said she was the one insisting on more drinks. Feel for you OP, but think head down, work hard and laugh it off if possible.

Yes I was suggesting more drinks :(

He's attractive but I'm not interested, he has a beautiful family and I would just never go there. Oh and he's my boss!!

I'm so scared he'll imply to our other superiors that I was basically throwing myself at him?!

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well you were both really drunk and probably said some stupid things but you didnt do anything really wrong you could have ended up in bed together and that would have been a far worse thing to face up to believe me i,ve been there [with work collegues]just put it down to experience and dont get too drunk around him again.

Urgh i don't know, I don't know. Maybe a bit. I hate myself

What if he tells our superiors?

Do you fancy him?

If you do but you don't want anything to happen (and I don't think it's a good idea), then you have to make sure you are not alone with him on nights out. Just don't put yourself in that situation

He's the partner, you're more junior. If anyone has lost face, it's your boss. He's probably feeling more embarrassed than you. As other posters have said; nothing much happened so say nothing unless someone else does then gloss over/make a joke of it.

We've all been there! While the beer fear is all-consuming at the mo, nobody else is really that interested, after the first ten minutes of Monday morning chit chat. Keep schtum, or brazen it out if necessary.

He almost certainly wouldn't do that op. He's a grown up professional. You both had a few too many, bit of flirty flirtersons, that's it. Nothing to see here.

You have absolutely nothing to feel embarassed about.

Style it out - fake it till you make it and laugh breezily - claim you can't even remember most of the night (maybe not actually )

Worse things have happened at sea

Oh dear. It was silly. Not all attention is good attention, especially not in a professional capacity when you want him to notice your good work.

Learn from it, and move on.

No. He's an adult. He bears at least (more) responsibility. He sounds a lot older than you, he's married and he holds the power of his job title.

Why do you think would he tell his superiors you'd thrown yourself at him?

Was this more than hand holding?

"I just want to be known for being good at my job."

Don't get flirty with your boss then.

I know, I know. Urgh in so ashamed. I feel like there's no moving on from this

These things happen. It feels terrible now but you will all forget it soon. No reason that he would mention it. You would t be the first graduate who has got drunk and been rather flirty with a male colleague/ boss. Just be thankful he resisted, keep shtum like the others say, and don't do it again!

He was just drinking just as much as you. He either won't remember or he will be feeling just as embarassed as you are. But hold your dead high, this wasn't at work - it was social, so leave it there. We've all been there . It's a right of passage lol. Don't give it a second thought.

Mention it to anyone else I mean like his "superiors". If he mentions it to you laugh it off and say sorry, I think that was rather stronger than I'm used to or something silly. Then don't mention again.

Beer fear... he probably feels worse.
I bet you had a fun night.
It will be fine. By Tues you will feel ok I'm guessing

"I feel like there's no moving on from this"

You will feel better in a few days - honestly, it won't be such a big deal. I think we play these things over and over which makes it worse.

No more flirting with bosses.