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DH has been sprayed with red dye!

767 replies

Mojit0 · 26/04/2017 17:00

This morning DH was running along the Thames towpath as he often does. He was running quite fast as he's training. There is an area where the path narrows a bit and he had caught up and was running behind a woman. He thought she moved to one side to let him pass, so he ran up behind her, at which point she screamed and suddenly sprayed him with a spray! Most of it got on his t-shirt but some of it also also got on his neck and lower face, though he didn't realise at the time. She screamed at him to get away from her and then ran back the other way. He was saying to her, "It's ok" etc, but he said she was so freaked out and looked so terrified he didn't try and follow her.
Now he has a zig-zag pattern of red up his neck and on the left side if his face and it really won't come off. He went into work and someone told him its probably a dye that the police use to mark criminals! I looked on google and it looks as if you can buy a red spray dye that won't wash off for 7 days! If it's this, it's a nightmare as he has to go to China on business tomorrow.
DH feels bad that she was so scared and her reaction actually scared him. He thinks maybe he should have held back, but he thought she was letting him overtake her. I think her reaction was a bit extreme though -AIBU? I run down that path frequently (although not at 6.30am) and I have never heard of anything like this.

OP posts:
Cafecat · 27/04/2017 14:30

I think for all the talk about women fearing attack from men (and of course I'm not suggesting that's unfounded), it's worth remembering that there are actually more men who probably won't fight back against a woman even if under attack. I bet if this was a man who sprayed him, he would have reacted differently and tried to get the spray off him or chased after him.
Nobody ever knows how they will react in certain situations, but if the woman was so scared anyway, anything the DH did would have seemed to be a threat.

brassbrass · 27/04/2017 14:41

the cross the street thing I remember from uni days. Male students were advised when walking home late to cross the street if they saw a lone female on the same side so as not to make them anxious or frighten them.

user1493216442 · 27/04/2017 14:49

Think if it from her point.

6:30am run. Man comes running up fast behind her.

I'd freak too. She needs to get trained in self defence though more than spraying shit at people.

brassbrass · 27/04/2017 14:54

if she was running herself seems over the top to be frightened by other runners doing exactly what she's doing!

kali110 · 27/04/2017 14:56

If she'd done it with a knife, a taser or bleach there'd be little sympathy and I don't see why dye should be any different.

niangua
think she'd probably still get sympathy.
Look at this thread. People have even insinuated the op's husband was guilty and have gone out of their way to say he was at fault.

IloveBanff · 27/04/2017 15:17

"She needs to get trained in self defence though more than spraying shit at people." Yeah, then once she'd shocked him with the spray she could've knee'd him in the balls and pushed him into the water.

ZilphasHatpin · 27/04/2017 15:22

you listed my quote from one of your posts.

You didn't quote me in any of those posts.

LostMySanityCanIBorrowYours · 27/04/2017 15:25

^Think if it from her point.

6:30am run. Man comes running up fast behind her.

I'd freak too. She needs to get trained in self defence though more than spraying shit at people.^

You're quite right. How utterly shocking for someone to be running, on a popular path with runners at a popular time for runners.

I mean the last thing you'd guess he was doing was running, right?

ZilphasHatpin · 27/04/2017 15:25

Yeah, then once she'd shocked him with the spray she could've knee'd him in the balls and pushed him into the water.

You can do that without learning self defence, just so you know Grin

IloveBanff · 27/04/2017 15:55

ZilphasHatpin Yes but, no but, when you do self-defence you're trained to do these things quickly instead of freezing.
Anyway, stop trying to be logical with me. That'll never work. Blush

Lilcornishpixie85 · 27/04/2017 15:58

I've only signed up to say Blistory must be a bit doolallytaps!!

By your reckoning Blistory if I see a Muslim with a rucksack I'm perfectly entitled to shout terrorist and attack them? Hmm

You say the way to minimise anxiety is getting rid of the cause what do you recommend? We drown all baby boys at birth??

I'm a woman and I've been bullied by other women I find most women to be more bitch, aggressive and rude than many men I've met. Men attack but so do women Muslims attack but so do Christians and Atheists. So by your psychotic rantings it's perfectly acceptable to tar everyone with the same brush.

ZilphasHatpin · 27/04/2017 16:05

Grin banff!

Blistory · 27/04/2017 16:10

Lilcornishpixie85

I haven't attacked anyone, either on a towpath or on here, so I'm not sure why you feel the need to make personal attacks against me. I'd prefer it if you didn't.

Foxysoxy01 · 27/04/2017 16:11

I know it's really sad you should have to, but a GoPro would be a really good idea for anyone running early in the morning/night time or in quiet places.

If you can afford one OP I would suggest you get one for both of you. Not just in case of an attack but also to prove you haven't attacked someone else!

Original poster
Mojit0 · 27/04/2017 16:13

DH has gone now and they were joking that at least red is a lucky colour in China. To be honest, if it was me I'd be really embarrassed walking round looking like that.
Btw, he was wearing running clothes and headphones so looked like an actual runner. It's not as if he ever appeared out of bushes or something in "normal" clothes, looking like he'd been hanging round all night.
Also I'm glad she didn't knee him or push him in the river obviously.

OP posts:
Lilcornishpixie85 · 27/04/2017 16:23

Because your comments are absurd.

The way you are talking is irrational. I'm fully aware that women are treated differently but I'm genuinely terrified of bringing my son up in a world where he is judged before he's out of nappies. You have been very vocal that because men attack women that men must accept the consequences regardless of their actions.

It reminds me very much of the "deed not breed" campaign, victimising certain dog breeds because of type not behaviour.

I was attacked when I was 15 on my way to school it was dark, the lollypop man for local primary indecently assaulted me. I never blamed myself but I make a reasonable judgement when I go out if it's dark I take precautions but I'd never assume or judge based on gender, religion etc. It's not victim blaming it's just being sensible. Sorry but I don't agree with any of the tripe you have posted, your comments disgust me.

terrylene · 27/04/2017 16:30

A good job he wasn't!!

Tell him to take a daily selfie so you can see if it is fading Wink

You would have thought that at that time in the morning at that sort of place, there would be more than one jogger on the towpath, possible overtaking - did she spray them all?

Collaborate · 27/04/2017 16:37

Don't worry, Lilcornishpixie, Blistory has still made mumsnetmadness

twitter.com/mumsnet_madness/status/857615214405185536

Raffles1981 · 27/04/2017 16:38

Unless he put his hands on her, I don't see why she felt the need to spray him, threatening him with it would have been enough. Have to wonder what has happened to her in the past, for her to react like that. But, she assaulted your husband, with no valid reason for doing so. I agree with others, this needs reporting.

Blistory · 27/04/2017 16:42

Even if you found my comments to be absurd, it doesn't justify your personal attack on me. Please stop.

steff13 · 27/04/2017 17:03

thumb and if this was America, the woman would be able to use the 'Stand Your Ground' defence, if charged with assault

No.

Trayvon Martin posed no threat. George Zimmerman successfully used the Stand Your Ground defence

And, no. Despite George Zimmerman's cuntishness, Trayvon Martin was on top of him, hitting him when he was shot. That is consistent with the evidence and testimony of witnesses.

OnionKnight · 27/04/2017 17:03

*Don't worry, Lilcornishpixie, Blistory has still made mumsnetmadness

twitter.com/mumsnet_madness/status/857615214405185536*

This is fantastic Grin

PrivatePike · 27/04/2017 17:04

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DoesAnyoneReadTheseThings · 27/04/2017 17:08

A lot of the posts on this thread (lots of threads actually) remind me why I'm not sure a jury based trial system is the best option...

Badcat666 · 27/04/2017 17:16

As a fellow woman I hope, if she does this again to another innocent party, she gets charged with assault and gets her her arse pulled into a police station and given a telling off.

She assaulted the poor bloke. She could have blinded him or he could have died having an allergic reaction breathing in the dye.

No one has the right to do that to another innocent person. Your poor hubby OP. Glad he is ok.

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