I have 50 minutes exactly to get this guy to ask me on a date

[Hopelessromantic1988]

What do I do?

He's been here a week in supply work. Instantly thought he fancied me as he always chose to sit by me. He would wear headphones when on his own but when I sat down immediately took them off and sat next to me. But he never ever spoke to me.

We both spent every lunch hour sat in silence, blushing the entire time and awkwardly avoiding eye contact. I'm the most extrovert person you can find but I can't even speak to him. He makes me too nervous.

I'm not completely sure he fancies me but I think he does.

He leaves work in 50 mins. I don't work in his department so not really appropriate for me to say goodbye as I've not even spoken to him.

What the hell do I do? . I promise I'm not 13!!!

Stand in front of him and take all your clothes off.

Or you could grow up and ask him out.

Whatever happened to feminism?

awww I feel a bit sorry for the OP - Nothing to do with 'grow up', just IME not used to asking men out on a date. I've never, ever done that. And would never do that. Nothing to do with being immature, everything to do with growing up and it was always a boy who asked a girl out.

Do I think that's right? No. Does it feel uncomfortable to me? Yes.

IME though guys who were attracted to me invariably asked for a date - I've never come across a guy who sat beside me every day for lunch and didn't speak

If someone sat next to me at lunchtime on numerous occasions, I cannot imagine NOT talking to them! Whether I fancied them or not! It's simple matter of manners.
I find this consecutive simultaneous sitting in silence very very odd......
A few pleasantries at least, surely?

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I commented on that earlier on on the thread. Surely sitting with someone at lunch you would say something, even just commenting on the weather or the food. Strange.

Is he deaf or illiterate? Try a nice note on pretty paper. Otherwise try sign language. Find out what he likes, prefers or wishes. Love all, trust few, keep trying.

Strygil +1

Coming over a giggly pathetic mess doesn't make you more womanly.

It's probably too late now but this is what I'd advise in a similar circumstance. Mention that you were going to go to the cinema to see a particular film (find appropriate title) but your friend has let you down at the last minute.

If he is interested, hopefully he will say, "Would you go with me?" and if he does, all well and good. If he doesn't pick up the bait then he isn't interested and it's not too embarrassing. That's how I began a relationship with my DH, no longer with us (RIP).

Quite bemused by this one. Can understand being too nervous to ask someone out on a date (on both the part of the OP and the guy, incidentally), but not sitting in silence for a week beforehand. Seriously, who doesn't have a general polite chat about the weather/biscuits/lunch/TV/what he's listening to/how the work is going/LITERALLY ANYTHING?! Not because hot but because he's a person.

Since he hasn't made a move, if he does fancy the OP and doesn't have a partner then it would appear he's an introvert and would have needed the OP to strike up the conversation and perhaps eventually (after all those lunch hours in which there was time for natural conversations) make a move.

I'm not convinced it's quite the all of nothing fleeting encounter it's built up to me - if he's got work there once, might he get more? but if it was it, gone for ever, I'm not sure what OP had to fear her - worst thing could happen is someone she would never see again said no/made an excuse. However, there would have been at least some chance of dating or friendship or a work contact. Instead, as it's happened, there's certainty of regret.

Aw you need some flirting practice. I think he was shy too but a bit of a funny guy with the mimicking you. I think he was hoping you'd start a conversation. I would never in a hundred years feel confident asking a guy out, but I learnt to be perfectly happy initiating banter and friendly conversation with strangers. I guess we all need to learn our comfort zone at some point and work on stepping over the line for next time. Never mind, onward and upward op.

Just seen this thread but it's a bit old now. I guess she bottled it.