I have 50 minutes exactly to get this guy to ask me on a date

[Hopelessromantic1988]

What do I do?

He's been here a week in supply work. Instantly thought he fancied me as he always chose to sit by me. He would wear headphones when on his own but when I sat down immediately took them off and sat next to me. But he never ever spoke to me.

We both spent every lunch hour sat in silence, blushing the entire time and awkwardly avoiding eye contact. I'm the most extrovert person you can find but I can't even speak to him. He makes me too nervous.

I'm not completely sure he fancies me but I think he does.

He leaves work in 50 mins. I don't work in his department so not really appropriate for me to say goodbye as I've not even spoken to him.

What the hell do I do? . I promise I'm not 13!!!

Oh OP I'm so sad for you! I ran after a guy that I'd been too shy to speak to and just blurted out some crap. We've been married 25 years. I hope you see him again and pluck up the courage

If he really liked you he would have most likely have spoke to you.

If he is that gorgeous he is probably already with someone.

I would never ask someone out if we haven't even had a conversation. I admire people who have the guts to do that, but for me I would have to have had a conversation and some mild flirting at least.

Very much envious of all the confident posters who are capable of asking out an attractive man without breaking a sweat. I'm the panicky type myself. (It's a miracle I managed to procreate tbh). Sorry you didn't do it, OP. Hope he turns up again somehow.

And if he does, you better come on and update us all!

LinkedIn??

Have you posted before - and everyone told you your sexist refusal to chat any man up (out of principle) was utterly ridiculous?

But what is 'mild flirting'?! If I bat my eyelashes, I look like I have conjunctivitis and as for that' casually touch his arm' shit - why would I casually touch his arm? How? (current crush has arm in a sling which makes this option both feasible, as in 'how did you do THIS?' and potentially painful)

Mild flirting:

When I was 18 and in my first job for a bank - there was a really hot bloke, a couple of years older than me, he was single, I was single, we both fancied each other (I think!) but never did anything about it. My line manager (who is now a really good friend) had obviously clocked this and sent us up into the attic of the old bank building to put away some boxes of old papers together. Backwards and forwards we trotted with boxes and boxes of papers, through all the disused rooms and up staircases and down - totally alone. I definitely spent the whole time wishing he would grab me and snog my face off, I've always wondered if he felt the same, the looks he was giving me, we lingered far too long together, not doing much. But the biggest regret was - I didn't do or say anything to him. IDIOT! Now older and wiser, I would probably just grab him and see where that took me

That would be the face sequence of mild flirting ^

Sorry, just realised that without that key information my above post looks like I'm trolling you.

I think some posters are a bit mixed up and should be on the amazing name thread not this one.

upper I liked it! It's the most flirting/trolling I've had in ages!

upperlimit that's a good summary

Thanks everyone.

I've found him on LinkedIn but I think adding him is serious stalker territory. So I am going to leave it at that.

I've enjoyed looking at his for a week though.

Were you logged in when you looked for him on LinkedIn?

I get emails telling me who has been looking at my profile...

No not logged in. Thankfully!

I don't have an account. I just searched. I'm embarrassed of myself. It's shameful stalking. I will stop now.

😂

Just read this whole thing and now I feel so sad and frustrated. OP he might come back to work in the same building if he's been doing supply work...can you make a vow to yourself that you'll go on some kind of confidence course or something, so if you see him again you'll be able to ask him?

You could make it a sort of goal for yourself...to be honest it's gutting that you can't just ask him. No one finds it all that easy to ask people out (except for arrogant tossers) so it's totally understandable, but how do people get together if they don't ask each other? You can do it OP!

Not at all stalker-ish!! DO add him to LinkedIn - you did work alongside each other for a whole week, after all.

BTW while I feel very sad, the suggestion of sticking a post-it on your head with the words "would anyone like to go for a drink?" to be the funniest thing I've ever seen on this board. So swings and roundabouts!

Chalk it down to experience OP - he may not even be single. He is going to think you a little odd if you have barely said a word to him and then contact him online

Definitely not stalkerish to add him on LinkedIN. People add on there far more casually than FB.

I am also loving the post it note on the forehead invitation.

You'll not get a ravaging with this attitude op.

Oh dear OP! He might come back. I fancied a student teacher where I worked. He left then came back. I asked him out for a drink. He was going to another teachers birthday. He invited me along. Turns out the other teacher fancied him too and was going to proposition him at the party. We ended up sneaking out and we've been together 15 years! The other teacher was ok about it luckily

Some days I feel like walking through the office with a post-in note on my head saying "beer?"