I have 50 minutes exactly to get this guy to ask me on a date

[Hopelessromantic1988]

What do I do?

He's been here a week in supply work. Instantly thought he fancied me as he always chose to sit by me. He would wear headphones when on his own but when I sat down immediately took them off and sat next to me. But he never ever spoke to me.

We both spent every lunch hour sat in silence, blushing the entire time and awkwardly avoiding eye contact. I'm the most extrovert person you can find but I can't even speak to him. He makes me too nervous.

I'm not completely sure he fancies me but I think he does.

He leaves work in 50 mins. I don't work in his department so not really appropriate for me to say goodbye as I've not even spoken to him.

What the hell do I do? . I promise I'm not 13!!!

I basically pounced on someone at a party.
After imbibing a lot of cava with my SIL; we were on a post-breakup safari (for me)
Reader, I married him as well. (See the thread about the niece and her 20 year old boyfriend )
I also asked him to marry me. We have two beautiful DC.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained! Ffs get on LinkedIn and add him.

Just add him on LinkedIn. Even if nothing comes of it, it's not like you would see him so what does it matter. And if it works out, you could end up married! He could be thinking the exact same as you. I'm sure the mirroring things is a signal.

I asked a guy out for the first time two years ago. He said yes, then cancelled on me..(we're still friends). So glad I did it. I'd be sad to go to my grave never having asked anyone out.

Have a lovely BF now. I messaged him first on online dating and clearly initiated our first kiss. Life is so bloody short. Experience everything you can.

ASK HIM OUT ON LINKEDIN.

Add him and message him, not hard.

I read this as 'Add him and massage him, not hard. I thought this was a bit forward, TBH, seeing as they've not even spoken, let alone been on a date.

Good idea to message him on linkedin if he's on it. If he's not on fb, would he be on linkedin?

Just add on linked in! Then he can accept or message you . Simples

MY GOD OP! I want to shake you lady! Add him on LinkedIn, that would not be remotely weird, you've sort of worked together...just do it, life's far far too short...!

I bet Janice was on LinkedIn before he was even out the door

Add him on LinkedIn.
Faint heart never won fair lady... or male love god.

Be the person that seizes opportunities when they present themselves. Life is more exciting that way. And if nothing happens at least you know you did something. Nothing sadder than looking back with regret for the things we did not do.

Lol at massage! Now I want to know the outcome!

Ooh, Op! Please update! If it helps, I married my too-hot-to-talk-to colleague! You just have to pull up your big girl knickers and make it happen! Do keep us posted (completely overinvested!!!) xx

Add him on LinkedIn, invite him to next work drinks. Easy peasy, even a total coward (like me) could do that!

I think you had a lucky escape. He came and sat next to you every day but never spoke or made eye contact?

Sounds a bit creepy to me.

You asked for advice and then ignored it so you're probably not ready for grown up stuff.

Love this thread (but not the mean girl responses). He knows where you work - if he is also regretting an opportunity lost he will make it his business to find you there or send you a note. Love will prevail...

I take mine back. Was not nice. Apologies. I won't make excuses.

Ask him... he'll be made up... I would be...

I think you must be using a hitherto unknown definition of the word 'extrovert' .

Probably a good thing you didn't get together if you can barely speak to one another -dates would have been awkward and dull.

Still, I'm sure you will put on a convincingly brave face when he calls by Accounts to collect Janice.

Is this a film? It must be a film? Love Actually 2 - hot Carl goes temping.

Poor Janice from Accounts is getting a bad rep!

OP you only live once! Grab the bull by the horn!

What happened, ? Did u ask him? I would've just passed him a note if you're shy ...nothing to lose

Oh no can't believe I've only jus seen this as my advice would have been give him your email and say stay in touch he nice to catch up time to time and maybe ask for help when I need or something similar

Maybe you could create an account on link thing you found him on add him and say oh hi I've jus joined so thought id add someone I know or something equally corny and then see what he responds with x

I once passed a note to a stranger in a restaurant with my number on and we dated for a while. ..he was blown away by the fact I had the balls to do that

U should have said "goddd after all this work i havnt even done a food shop and i cannot be botherd now, eatin out is it girl laugh bt i hate eatin alone. What is a girl to do"

Handsome knight in shining armour "hows about i take u to the fanciest place in town"

Op - "omg im havin so much fun"

Kisa - "well op wer just gettin started"

Op - "oh i love kisa"

Maybe he's on mumsnet and it'll all work out LOL

Joking aside, sounds as if there was chemistry. Get into linked in and if there's a response at least you might find out...

It's hard - I've done it a couple of times. Some guys are shy and just as nervous as you! I've got a lb with the last one I asked out and all is well xx