To say she has brought this on herself?

[GreenHairDontCare]

Dd is 13. A couple of months ago at great expense I let her have the bottom half of her hair bleached blonde. It looked lovely.

Last week she phoned me from her friend's and said she was putting a wash out green dye on it. I told her not to as it would stain the blonde.

She did it anyway. She has spent the last week washing it with dandruff shampoo, baby shampoo, washing up liquid and today as a last try we did a vitamin c powder twice.

Somewhat predictably she still has bright green hair.

She goes back to school tomorrow. They are VERY strict. Natural hair colours only. She will likely be sent home. She is now (at nearly ten pm) having a screaming fit about it. I've told her that if they send her home I'll be marching her straight to the hairdressers to get it cut short. This is the worst thing that's ever happened to her apparently.

I'm leaving dh to deal with her. As far as I'm concerned this is her problem to sort out, I told her not to do it and told her it wouldn't wash out.

AIBU?

And does anyone have any suggestions, other than bleach which I'm trying to avoid?

Can't she just wear it with the end rolled in as already suggested till it grows out?
This seems an unnecessary level of drama for hair.

So you allowed her to have her hair dyed at 13, 'proud' she showed her individuality by subsequently dying it but still considering taking her to the hairdresser to have it hacked off? Well that's fair...

Could you get a couple of those thick type slumber nets (not a fine bun net) they usually sell them on the hair accessory stand in Boots / Superdrug and they come in lots of different colurs including brown. Put it over the green bun and double it, and put a second doubled up slumber net over the top? Twist the excess net and grip under the bun. Could give you a temporary solution for school tomorrow, until you manage to get it fixed

What is the schools problem with dyed hair? Are they not supposed to be educating teens rather than regimenting hair colour?

Gee, my 13 year old gets a trim once a year. But her individuality is that she looks like rapunzal and is bloody stunning so that's all she needs in her mothers unbiased opinion :-)
13 is too early to start all this nonsense.

I would go easy on her and help her as much as you can. It'll be better in the long run if she knows you're there for her when she's done something silly and is really distressed and upset.

Don't put brown over it, it'll go a seaweed sort of colour because there's not red tones x

Do a sock bun in the morning (YouTube it) and buy a semi permanent peach/pink. Bleach London do one that's sold in my boots and it's what I used when I over toned my hair to green. Made it a golden blonde until both colours faded out to a light blonde again. You need to use a similar dye to the green (which will have been a veg based temp dye that stains the hair rather than actually changing the colour inside the shaft) otherwise anything you put on it will have dye the shaft of the hair and leave a green stain over the top.

As pp have said don't put brown on it it will go khaki. Bleach London Rose shampoo from Boots says on bottle it takes out green tones. Worth a try for a fiver!

YANBU to think she is a twit who has done this to herself.

YAB a bit U to not see how devastating all this. We have histrionics over a bit of lost uniform. It is all bloody exhausting, and I thought toddlers were hard!

I would speak to the school and see what you, she and they can agree.

My dd's school are very hot on uniform and hair, it is equally annoying but that's their policy.

This is a serious suggestion but could she just wear a wig until it grows out? But only if she wants. There are some very cheap and they are natural colours.

www.partypieces.co.uk/glam-wig-blonde-1.html?nosto=nosto-page-product_more_from_range

www.partypieces.co.uk/auburn-superstar-wig-1.html?nosto=nosto-page-product_more_from_range

(I'm thinking of getting one myself!)

Your post comes across as being more annoyed that you lost eighty pounds and trying to punish her for that. She has lost the bleach look she wanted so that is punishment enough. She is a kid and kids learn through mistakes. The bigger mistake was yours for allowing her to bleach it in the first place. Waiting until the night before the start of a new school term to ask for ways to fix it sounds like some sort of immature revenge for not listening to you tbh.

Get a semi permanent and if that doesn't take away the green, bring her to the hairdressers for a nice haircut.

I'm still trying to wash out a semi permanent turquoise i put in, back in AUGUST. Blue, pink, purple, orange all wash out in about 2 weeks but the same brands turquoise will not budge. I have 5 or 6 inch long roots of natural dark brown hair, the rest of the left side a really brassy bleached blonde and the right side a mix of brassy blonde and sections of still really bright turquoise. I dyed it the day after bleaching it, i've gone through clarifying shampoo, anti dandruff, a specialist dye fading shampoo, tried dying over and seeing if it displaces it any, but the fade and wash out is slow and patchy. Maybe it's something in green dye as my hair was same condition all over. I'm giving it a few more weeks then re doing my roots and will try to bleach over whatever hasn't washed out.

She's a child. Children make mistakes. You made a mistake by letting her dip dye her hair. So own your mistake instead of punishing her for hers.

I wouldn't correct her hair.

You took her to the hairdressers to get it done properly (what I would of done) and it was a lot of money which dd knew.

She then decided to put a dye on it herself at her friends house when you strictly told her not to. It's now ruined. £80 down the drain and a battle with school on your hands.

And people expect you to pay out more money to correct it??? Haha no way would that be happening in my house.

When I were a teenager I ve done many stupid things and there is no way my mum would of bailed me out. I just had to learn the consequences.

Nobody learns if someone is there always bailing them out and correcting their mistakes.

If she was my daughter or I was a kid in that situation I would of been made to correct it myself with my own money and if I didn't have any money then it would be left for it to grow out.

There is no way I would of been taken to the hairdressers to have it cut at another £30 expense.

Where do you guys get your long lasting blue dyes from? My dd loves to colour her hair and none of the colours really last more than a few weeks. I've had colours put in myself that fade away in days!

There is a massive amount of judgement and mis-information in this thread.

The OP is a grown woman and what she decides to spend her money on is her business. I don't understand where some of you get off lecturing her. Presumably you never spend a single penny on something fun but unnecessary? And comparing a dip dye to underage sex? Really?!

As far as the hair goes, the OPs daughter has dyed it green. It hasn't just gone green.
Pink toner will not fix it. Pink toner will only cover a very very light green tinge like you get from chlorine.
Colour B4 (or any other colour remover) will not remove green, and it will destroy the hair.
Putting a box dye (which contains peroxide/ammonia) over it will turn it khaki and destroy the hair.
Ketchup will not cover green dye.
Any brown dye will turn it muddy green. Green is almost impossible to cover.
Re-bleaching will not remove green, and will destroy the hair. Seeing a theme here?
I know a lot of other people have corrected these wrong answers, but I thought it would be useful to have it in one thread.

OP, you need a protein filler like coconut oil or an egg, and some direct deposit dyes like Directions or Adore in bright red and a natural brown with no ash undertones.

Massage in the protein filler and leave it for a couple of hours. Rinse it out and wash with a gentle shampoo. Mix about half a teaspoon of bright red dye with a lot of conditioner and comb it in. You should see fairly quickly if it's working. If not, add a little bit more red and try again. Leave it a couple of hours, rinse it out and then do the same again with the brown colour mixed about 50/50 with conditioner.

This is how I finally covered up the muddy green in my daughter's hair. It doesn't get rid of it, so it's a once a week job, but it did look better. However, I'm in no way guaranteeing that it will work on your daughter's hair, so only try it if you are willing to risk it not working.

nooka blue is notorious for fading quickly. Adore Indigo Blue and Royal Navy have good staying power, as do the Special Effects blues. Are you putting it on bleached hair or virgin hair?

I'm puzzled as to why you left it till Sunday night when everywhere is shut to get involved with sorting it op. Your DD has been trying to sort it all week.

I was a bit surprised by everyone saying how hard blue was to shift, my experience is that it fades out pretty fast. I quite like the way it looks on dd when it goes pastel, but bright colours are fun too. We both have to bleach first. dd is mid brown now but her hair takes dye quite well. My hair is stubborn, takes ages to bleach and then colours don't stick well.

Anyway good luck with tomorrow OP!

I haven't left it until Sunday night. I have been offering suggestions and googling methods all week. The best I came up with was dyeing it back to brown and she was adamant there was no need and it would be washed out.

And then she went to her friend's house (different friend) on Saturday and ended up staying until yesterday lunchtime so it was all a bit of a mad panic.

And I really thought the vit C would work, it's worked on mine to take out red and turquoise before, although not completely. DD's green didn't budge at all.

Just do the bun thing with a sock over the top. Job done for now.

Let her face the consequences of her actions it might teach her not to do something as stupid as dying it green if she gets told to leave school because of the mess she has made of her hair then on her head be it. I would just cut off all the green bits and let her sulk over it.

Hair isn't my "identity". Couldn't care less about mine and I'm sure there is more to you and your DM not speaking then just getting your hair cut