To say she has brought this on herself?

[GreenHairDontCare]

Dd is 13. A couple of months ago at great expense I let her have the bottom half of her hair bleached blonde. It looked lovely.

Last week she phoned me from her friend's and said she was putting a wash out green dye on it. I told her not to as it would stain the blonde.

She did it anyway. She has spent the last week washing it with dandruff shampoo, baby shampoo, washing up liquid and today as a last try we did a vitamin c powder twice.

Somewhat predictably she still has bright green hair.

She goes back to school tomorrow. They are VERY strict. Natural hair colours only. She will likely be sent home. She is now (at nearly ten pm) having a screaming fit about it. I've told her that if they send her home I'll be marching her straight to the hairdressers to get it cut short. This is the worst thing that's ever happened to her apparently.

I'm leaving dh to deal with her. As far as I'm concerned this is her problem to sort out, I told her not to do it and told her it wouldn't wash out.

AIBU?

And does anyone have any suggestions, other than bleach which I'm trying to avoid?

[craftycarls]

Just put a red/brown dye on and it will neutralise the green.

[JDEE72]

Ok. Do not dye it yourself. It sounds like she will need a bleach bath/soap cap, but take her to your hairdresser to have it done! It sounds like the cuticles are stained, only gentle bleaching will get it out, another dye will push the colour further in to her hair. As the new dye fades, it will still show the green. Do not use colour b4, it doesn't work on blues and greens and will not remove cuticle staining. Use vosene original shampoo and leave it on for half an hour in a shower cap and a warm towel on the top. Use a non silicon conditioner on it afterwards because if you don't, any heat tools used afterwards will lock the silicones and colours in her hair.
You can also try fairy liquid and leave it on for half an hour with the shower cap and towel combo, but again, deeply condition. Do not get on her scalp.

[Astro55]

SEE the update

[Italiangreyhound]

Green great update. Zen all the way.

[StrandedStarfish]

I think I was 13 last time I saw my natural hair colour. It's been so long that I'm not entirely sure what colour is my natural colour.

[lolalola19]

If her school are that strict why has she been allowed to have 1/2 her hair blonde? Our school wouldn't allow this...

[Pigface1]

Glad you managed to sort it green. Good life lesson for her tbh (who hasn't been there... or somewhere similar!)

And janiston I don't see what's wrong with a 13 year old having her hair dyed. It sounds like the OP took her to have balayage done, which can look lovely.

[kazmina10]

She's a teen. This is normal I'm afraid. My DD mightily messed up her hair with various dyes from about age 15. Ended up shaving her head in November ( I kid you not) coz of dark roots and blonde ends... all done without our consent! It's about finding identity. Just cut the green off yourself. It's not all her hair. Hopefully she will have learned her lesson. My DD has now moved on to piercings without consent. Most unattractive. She's 16.

[DagenhamRoundhouse]

Crop it. Hair will always grow again.

[kazmina10]

Ps:
Long hair not obligatory. My DDs shaved head actually looked lovely. V. Sinead o Connor. School also strict but she managed to get away with it as she raised £ for charity in the process!

[Leontine]

kazmina10 Without consent? Why on earth does she need your consent? It's her hair/body.

[tabbymog]

So glad you managed to fix it for her.

It took me back to my very first pay packet the summer before I went into 6th form at school. My DM went bananas, absolutely ballistic, when I came home with my chestnut brown hair bleached blonde. I'd been dying it all the weird shades I could try for at least three years before that but this brassy blonde took her biscuit. I'm ancient and grey now and cherish the great shine my natural silver has on it, but am still tempted by bright pink or blue streaks around my face. Such great colours now, and I can afford for the hairdresser to do it...mmm...

[Glitterspy]

Dye it back to brown and be done with hair dye til she's older.

[fannydaggerz]

Wash with tomato sauce and then washing up liquid. It will neutralise the green. Purple shampoo aswell, then condition.

Tie it up for school tomorrow.

[pinkbec1980]

If she had layers put in her hair or shorter layers it would get rid of some of the green without cutting it short. It's probably not so green on the underneath hair. If you do dye it buy a brown semi that's a warm reddish brown otherwise it will still look green just a khaki green instead.

[BoringUsername17]

Wow this thread is judgy-pants agogo...

Glad you got it sorted op. I'd say any future hair colouring needs to be fully paid for by your DD though.

I lived through the 80s perm years which wrecked my hair.

I also remember bleaching a lock of my dark brown hair with Jolene! As I'd read some dodgy Jackie Collins book where the heroine had raven dark hair with a silver lock at the front. What was I thinking????

[HighwayDragon1]

I had this issue with a blue dip dye during summer holidays. I have long blonde hair, box said 8 washes, did it first day of the holidays, week 4 still VERY blue, I washed it every day with everything I could think of for 2 weeks. It was still slightly green when I went back to work. Put my hair in a bun but nothing escapes beady eyed teen girls!

It happens OP, she'll experiment because it's what kids do.

[Lillithxxx]

These totally unnatural hair colours are just vile. Let it be a lesson, there's always a consequence to a behaviour whether positive or negative.

[nursebickypegs]

Serves her right! I pulled this shit all the time as a teenager and my mum would say told you so. No sympathy!

[namechanged0987]

A bit late for advice, but coloured dry shampoo does a good temporary job.

[deedeegee]

Think it's time to realise that taking actions even whilst ignoring good advice, have consequences! Let her take it on the chin- give her the option of a bun or a cut...

Also £80 on a 13 yr old's hair- really- what planet are you on? Even if she wanted it- let her pay from her savings!

[SultanOfPing]

Ooh, the Bleach rose shampoo is great! Similar thing here, green hair after trying to bleach out purple and nothing would get rid of the green! Ended up losing about 8" off the length then colouring a dark copper - kept the green at bay with the rose shampoo til it could be cut out. Their purple stuff is great for keeping hair white, too (for future reference).

[neverdull]

I don't know why ppl saying it's to young girls start dying there hair at 11! It's only hair it will grow out! However she did go against ur wishes so it's good that she faces the consequences! She will be gutted to cut it off I would dye it brown after she gets punishment from school lol I'm sure she will think twice in the future!

[Notsunkinyet]

Tomato ketchup.
Then a bun that you can put fake hair round that is blonde or brunette.