To say those who find Baby Showers ridiculous are moaning moos?

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By finding them ridiculous I mean finding them grabby/tacky.

P. S, if you don't like them because you're not for celebrating a baby arrival before they're safely delivered, that's different and not unreasonable at all.

The ones that invite everyone they can think of that'd go is very offish in my opinion, as with those who plan them themselves or add gift lists!

However, I think a lovely little baby shower with close friends/family, planned by someone else, is lovely and often quite fun I love celebrating someone's baby excitement!

A friend of mine had one after lots of infertility years. It was wonderful.

I hope someone does one for me Looking at you Mum

I've managed to wiggle out of having one by being too unwell to fly any longer (just moved to other end of the UK) and I'm relieved. They just aren't for me, I don't like being centre of attention, I don't like the games, I'm able to buy what I want for my baby but appreciate for others this isn't the case. I don't dislike other people having one, an ex colleague is due the same week as me and I saw pictures of her shower on FB this weekend. She looked happy and I'm glad she was, and I'm just as glad I'm not having one. I'd love my friends to fly up to see me and bring gin once the baby is here!

FWIW my American friends buy for the shower and not after, so just one gift.

I like the original idea of the American baby shower. I think traditionally it was for women having their first child only and therefore without any baby equipment/clothing so the idea of the shower would be to provide the first time mother some things/advice to start off with. The modern day baby shower with poo games, gender reveal, second/third baby showers I find childish and boring and would find any excuse to get out of one.

I think it depends on the attitude of the people involved. It's pretty common amongst people I know to have one, organised by friends. There's no expectation of a present, and especially not both before and after the birth. If anything it's either or.
It is a lovely way for friends to get involved. I'm always astounded by people saying that pregnancy is only exciting for the immediate family. For my friends it's exciting for all of us. It's like our group is growing!
Baby showers are a good way of seeing all your friends before the birth as you won't have the chance for a little while after.
If they're tacky and grabbed then you're doing them wrong.

I've only ever been to one and despite not having kids myself or wanting them I really enjoyed it. I thought it was a lovely way of getting female people together to celebrate the birth. We just had some cake and chatted. I thought it was a nice idea.

We're getting a new puppy soon. Think I'll throw a party, reveal if it's a dog or a bitch, tell everyone its name, do fun games about sticks and dog shit and start a gift list at Pets at Home.

Better start planning.

Granny, tacky yup yup!!! Along with gender reveal parties!
I'm not American!

So wait. They are acceptable as long as they are done in the way you see fit????

A new puppy party sounds like a lot of fun. 😀

Have the people saying they're tacky and grabby actually been to one?. I've been to a few now. None of them were grabby. All of them were very generously hosted by the mum to be, so all food and drink either paid for at a venue or provided at home (and yes, alcohol at all of them). There were no silly games at any of them. Presents were just token gifts and they were just an opportunity for a group of friends to get together and catch up before the birth. I've never met anyone who's had a horrific experience at a baby shower of the like that's always touted on MN

I hated mine, all my friends knew I would hate one so didn't do one. Sister did it instead (bless her) it was supposed to be a surprised but someone accidentally told me (and thank god for that so I could get my "game face") on.

I've also had years of infertility for the record

XiCi
They're not a thing in my circle thankfully.

Friends can catch up with mam to be for coffee and all chat etc like we do normally when we go for coffee and/or food out. Don't need it calling a baby shower. It's just being friends with each other.

When baby is born we all get a small gift.

I've been to a few and they were lovely, fun afternoons. Nothing grabby or tacky about them at all.