To be utterly disgusted and depressed that women think its ok to make small penis gags?

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Just been reading a thread further down where yes some scumbag bloke had been horrible to someone. Lots of outrage and tell him he has a small dick, tell him he has a micro penis basically mock the size of his genitals.

Can you imagine if a woman upset a bloke and all his mates said tell her she has awful labia, tell her her fanny is horrible, tell her she doesnt look normal down there
Its horrific!!

Do you know how many lovely men with smaller penises get inundated with this? Do you know how many teenage boys worry themselves to death because of comments like these?

Its depressing/sexist/cruel and plain nasty. You should be ashamed of yourselves!

Although I've never used the 'handmaiden' or 'cool wives' retorts, I do often agree with the sentiments. It's a bit general to eay they 'get trotted out just because you happen to have a different view to the majority.' Those phrases have very specific meanings! Often it's all to clear why posters have resorted to them...

Cross post Bertrand!

Perspective please op. It was about 2 posters that said that and they were pretty much ignored due to there being a bit of warranted outrage due to him discussing prepubescents masturbating and asking a lady who walked her down the aisle after she revealed her father had passed away before her wedding.

But yeah, him being called small penis was totes awful in comparison

I saw it on 2 threads recently and neither were to do with that!

Im with pp who think it doesn't work as an insult - I mean, most guys already know the size of their cock, or they know you don't know the size of their cock, or they know you've never complained before.

It's not going to hurt them, but yes, the stigma will hurt others.

papa

Because in my head, the man didn't just randomly send a text saying she's not good in bed, doesn't make sense.
More than likely he has said don't want too see you anymore, she's asked why and he's responsed we are not compatible in the bedroom etc.

Not most tactful but he is allowed to say he doesn't find her good in bed. Like I said I could point you in multiple directions of threads where, women are saying how shit ex partners have been in bed and how they got rid/they had micro penises/ small willies.

Ive seen a thread recently where a woman is saying how her partner is shit in bed but overall the best partner in other aspects, the advice was too tell him and give him a chance to improve or get rid life is too short for shit sex.

Just because he didn't find her good in bed doesn't mean nobody else has. I don't see how his text warranted them responses. I couldn't imagine if a men had posted, women would flock to
tell him to reply

" fanny like a wizards sleeve "
"Bucket "

Would be more like
"get a grip, not everyone will think you are a god in the bedroom"

Two actually suggested assault!
" dump him of the top of a block of flats "
" put chilli peppers in his boxers and watch him burn "

The last two arent exact quotes, but I know dumping of a block of flats was mentioned and chilli pepper flakes in the boxers.

just dawned on me youre talking about another thread - as you were!

gah now I wanna know which thread you mean

Yeah, gahbuggerit, that thread sounds like a corker!

Basically, insults are never the ideal, are they? But if you're that angry about a man being vile and misogynistic, and you're going to lash out, is going for a small cock insult any worse than saying he's stupid etc? What about the stigma for people who really are stupid??

In an ideal world, we'd all be super calm and very above insults of any kind...

Insults needs to be personalized to be properly effective.

It's been deleted now, think it understandably got a bit heated!

It wasn't very good tbh!

It is awful to insult anyone on the basis of something they can't change. But it's surely not wrong to have preference? Some women would not continue to date a man who had a small manhood, but to other women, it would not matter. Some men prefer smaller breasts, others bigger. I have had a lot of unwarranted comments about my bra size and spent most of my younger years, wearing baggy jumpers, slouching, etc.

It's not nice for anyone to feel inadequate. But these days, everything is about bigger (shame).

"It just confirms your woefully small minded, blinkered thinking really."

Good Lord!

You really aren't interested in any sort of discussion, are you! .

As others have said, context is everything. Occasionally, if a man is a misogynistic arsehole, it's not that bad to repay him in the same currency.

I can't, of course, ever say it's right to insult anyone. But who can say they'd never ever do so, in extremis??

The problem that some of us are having is the desperate need to spring to the defence of men in this specfic way, even when the thread in question does contain a man being awful. It's weird... and I can totally understand where the cries of 'handmaiden' come from here. Some women just cannot wait to defend men to sort of prove a point. And the same women won't stand up for their own sex in many cases.

But saying 'small penis' as an insult to men who most likely have average (or even large) penises wouldn't upset them.

On the contrary they'll be like, ha, well, I've got it.

Shatner 🙄 neither did I refer to 'all' men. Grow up.

"Bert you can really dish it but seem unable to take it

But men aren't bombarded everyday with images of what a fantastic penis should look like.
All I see in magazines are women with size 8 bodies with comments like get a body like this or advertising a new fad diet because of course anyone can get down to a size 8 if they try.
Men dont get these images in there face everyday .
And of course if you have small boobs go and get a boob job.....another thing many women feel condemned to have as society has a certain image of how a woman should look.
Penis size is not magnified by society the same way womens body issues are.

itsmine I don't understand your last point... you seem to be saying that people are using 'handmaiden' as a misogynistic put-down?? How can that be?

One person used the word "handmaiden" once.

And suddenly that's what the thread is about?

Soeveral people have defined the term (because a poster asked) but nobody is addressing or discussing the definitions offered-even to disagree with them.

Practically everyone has said that body shaming is wrong. But that doesn't seem to be enough. I'm not sure what people want out of this thread. OP, if you're around, what were you hoping for when you posted?

Ha ha - I suspect what some people want, Betrand is for women to admit they're always wrong, and to spend their lives perpetually apologising in case they've ever slighted a penis!

I agree with OP. It is demeaning to the women who make those jokes and adds to the despair of every young boy who is worrying himself sick about his body.

Many of us have boys. The suicide rate for boys is high. Fear of sexual inadequacy are a contributor to mental health issues. We know that.

It is not something I will be part of.