Fajita Friday 2.0 aka Celtic kitchen baby shower extravaganza the second

[GaelicSiog]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2907753-AIBU-with-my-friends

Original thread. Continuing here to throw @Phyllis a virtual baby shower, mumsnet style. Irish heritage and choice parenting optional, sparkly new kitchen plans essential. Fajitas and margaritas on entry. Vegan, of course.

wild, mikey, smeaton, fenella and the rest of the crew, where you at?

Gaelic, I'm sulking because I didn't get a shout-out.

It's coz I'm not Irish, innit.

Holy shit!!!! @FrancisCrawford & I just found Phyllis's brother on here!!!!!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2909625-To-bring-dd-11m-to-a-grown-ups-only-birthday-party?msgid=68512275#68512275

I'm wondering if Phyllis/newdaddie aren't friends of good old PippaPavlova and her successful events business....

I think my brother has taken his eldest son (2) to friends parties, but it's usually been something the whole group has done. It's quite normal for them all to take the kids to the pub, including the dogs.

As for an events business, none of us are self employed, but I'm thinking of doing something different other than HR so I can stay home with the baby. Perhaps a lifestyle blog or vlogging on YouTube. It wouldn't bring in enough money, though. I need to look for a good WFH profession.

Have you thought about dressing up as Elsa from Frozen....?

Francis I LOVE your dog!! I feel like our dogs should form a dictatorship and take over the world.

As a Celtic Aries who got none of the ninja genes, Phyllis, you are a good sport.

My flat's kitchen is in such good shape it'll be at least 10 years before I redo the kitchen but I'm already planning...

Phylis! So glad last night went ok(ish).

1. don't get that book for your friends birthday, it's mean, no matter how well intentioned.
2. your SIL is not as perfect as she makes out... stop trying to emulate her.
3. ask your friends about their holiday plans it'll give you all something fun to talk about!
4. I think mentioning the baby shower was a bad idea and your setting yourself up for disappointment if they don't throw you one.

I'm now thinking of fajita Saturday as couldn't do it last night

never sure how to pronounce Xavier is it Zay-vee-ah or Ex-ay-vee-ah?

Going back a bit but I think it's "Havviah". That's how him off much-missed (by me) soap "El Dorado" pronounced it.

Phyllis, please start a Mummy Blog! I would definitely read it.

How are you all this morning then? To answer questions from last thread re:bedrooms, I'm at the younger end so by the time I was at make up age they'd built on and I'd inherited brothers room. I do still remember some vicious fights though…

We have a Wren kitchen, must be 6 years old now still looks great when kitchen is clean & tidy ie: never.

That peach salsa sounds amazing!!!

Agreed. Phyllis, don't buy the book. Don't expect your friends to pay for a party to give you presents. SIL is not a unicorn. You are clearly a caring woman who wants what's best - be the friend you were before the pregnancy. They aren't friends when your unborn child, they're friends with you!

a new thread!

Phyllis if, as a naturally slim person, you advised your friend who is struggling to lose weight to eat less cake and Doritos, I really hope she reciprocates with lots of helpful parenting advice based on her own wisdom and experience. In case you're not as good at reading people as you think, what I mean is that you will discover a whole breed of people out there who do not have children but are perfect parents and are only too happy to dispense their advice. Just think of the threads you could start!

I don't want to sound rude to my friend, I adore her, but it's so frustrating. She told me that NY would be her last blow out where she'd eat and drink what she wanted, then she'd go on a diet and exercise. Slimming World sounds more like a social club for her than an actual method of losing weight.

My husband used to smoke (outside thankfully) before we got married. I told him that I wasn't marrying him until he quit and then he did. I get paranoid sometimes that he smokes at work or when he's out with the guys having drinks, but thankfully, he doesn't seem to be doing it full time anymore.

Thanks for all the advice from anyone. I won't be getting her the book. I think I'll cry if I don't end up with a baby shower. I don't want to sound selfish, but I feel like it's my last big hurrah before motherhood. Also, I don't think my 30th will be as much of a big deal when I have a baby.

I don't know the gender yet. I want to keep that a surprise. That's what my sister in law did with both her pregnancies. My mother's first three were a surprise, but she knew that I would be a girl.

You don't get a last big hurrah before motherhood! You don't get to cry your friends won't organise, host, and pay for, a party where everyone is expected to tell you how great you are and but you gifts! Your baby will smell fag smoke - that's just fact.

*buy

Your friends weight is none of your business You seem to want a lot of control in life

I think I'll cry if I don't end up with a baby shower. I don't want to sound selfish

You might want to think about why that is a contradictory statement. And stop going on about your Sil. You're not her and she's not you.

Phyllis, you are a good sport

I agree.

Sorry, gin, I did it in a rush, nothing personal! I love you all, the Irish and the non-Irish 🍀

phyllis, if the baby shower means that much to you, you may have to accept that they might not be on the same page with you. Do people normally host their own baby showers or get someone else to? What I'm saying is you might have to find a way of hinting more without making it pushy.

I'm not sure. The last I heard of, my sister in law wanted to hold a baby shower for her sister who is looking to adopt. I'm pretty sure her friends organised her last two baby showers too. And then I've heard of endless other ones from her group of friends too.