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He said I'm bad in bed

165 replies

Beforethelastpetalfalls · 20/04/2017 22:28

Been seeing one guy on and off for a couple of months. He's text me to say I'm bad in bed and I just lie there.

Every single time I've tried to get on top I'm told no because he likes to be in control.

I've give him a blowjob every single time and he's never once gone down on me.

I'm so pissed off. I feel like I've been told I played a shit match when I was benched throughout the whole game.

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Ginlinessisnexttogodliness · 20/04/2017 23:25

well if he liked to be in control, didn't he get what he wanted? Surely his lack of satisfaction is his own pathetic missionary position, non reciprocating wankbag fault?

He's just a little mound of excrement.
If it were me, I would rather perform fellatio on Donald Trump then reply to him.

Flyinggeese · 20/04/2017 23:28

I absolutely love 'who is this?' Then just completely ignore any further texts. Forever.

owenjonesismyhero · 20/04/2017 23:35

Say: I'm not bad, you just don't do it for me as much as other men'

then block

ifcatscouldtalk · 20/04/2017 23:36

What a nasty piece of work he is. Please do not see this man again!
Some great responses above. I would probably be tempted to say: 'agreed were not compatible, now can i find myself a man that will let me sit on his face?'.... In all honesty don't reply or if you do make it a final text and don't get into a conversation. You deserve so much better.

NancyWake · 20/04/2017 23:36

"It's not me it's you".

Ginlinessisnexttogodliness · 20/04/2017 23:37

Nancy that's top banana 👍🏻

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 20/04/2017 23:38

Get rid of him. What a nasty thing to do. Send you a text like that. Is he not adult enough to speak face to face.
He sounds a selfish fucker as well.
I mean don't get me wrong. I hate receiving oral. I.know I'm in the minority there, but. It just does nothing for me. However I get off on giving. Much to DPS delight, obviously. So oral is just a one way street for us which works.

KindDogsTail · 20/04/2017 23:40

He's criticising you to have control. That is a well known ploy. He isn't good enough for you.

Just stop seeing him.

CatThiefKeith · 20/04/2017 23:44

'There is at least one person close to you that disagrees' and block.

'I agree. All that Stuff about the size of the vessel and the motion of the ocean was clearly shite. You just didn't float my boat, sorry.'

'I was never sure if it was in so didn't want to get enthusiastic and hurt your feelings'

Or 'who is this?' As recommended by a pp

Fuckwit. Him not you.

birdspooping · 20/04/2017 23:47

Sorry don't mean to neg everyone who said say 'who is this?'. Surely he'd know that you know who he is because his name is in your phone book?!

Am going with the first answer 'well i'm glad we are both on the same wavelength about that. perhaps best we both find someone better!' and then leave it there.'

birdspooping · 20/04/2017 23:50

What I mean is saying 'who are you?' Even if he knows that you know who he is could possibly seem rather contrived rather than nonchalant.

Flyinggeese · 20/04/2017 23:52

My take on it is 'who is this?' suggests he has already been deleted from phone contacts...

Obsidian77 · 20/04/2017 23:53

I'd send a really short dismissive text like "ok fine".
Nothing to aggravate him or give any indication that his opinion matters to you.
Move on to someone who cares enough to want you to enjoy yourself. If you date someone like this again, cut him loose straight away.
Life is too short to waste time on partners like this.

BrightonBelleCat · 20/04/2017 23:56

Definately text 'who is this?'

And then follow up with 'this can't be for me I make myself come all the time'.

OhBlissOhJoy · 21/04/2017 00:02

Please don't say who is this? It's not me it's you is SO much better Grin

PsychedelicSheep · 21/04/2017 00:04

Fuck, what a bellend! Don't put up with any more bad sex OP, life is too short for that!

ifcatscouldtalk · 21/04/2017 00:05

I'm actually now thinking that delete and block is the way to go. It's so tempting to text back and i probably would because i couldn't resist a one liner back, but when you think about it his waiting for a reply so maybe let him wait ... Forever.

OffOut · 21/04/2017 00:27

I'll play along Wink

I'd reply with 'OK' then I'd block.

FeralBeryl · 21/04/2017 00:38

Just to play devil's advocate...
He hasn't got any 'hilarious' mates who may have sent the message has he?
Was it written in his type of language etc?
I'd find out for certain first then slay the fucker with some choice put downs

TalkingofMichaelAngel0 · 21/04/2017 00:38

How about... I was uninspired.

KingsCross88 · 21/04/2017 00:38

Do not fall into the trap of trying to prove him wrong! Send a snarky response (if you're sure he won't turn psycho to take his own medicine) then block and move on. No loss.

TalkingofMichaelAngel0 · 21/04/2017 00:39

feral what if it was his mate? He is still selfish in bed. She should still delete and block

AdaColeman · 21/04/2017 00:39

Text back -
I wasn't just lying there, I was meal planning while I waited for you to start.

FeralBeryl · 21/04/2017 00:40

Yep - having reread the OP you're correct!
Fuck him. Or actually don't Wink

TalkingofMichaelAngel0 · 21/04/2017 00:43

I know! Never once been down on op? She should have dunped him ages go for that alone!