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To think she should have informed me her kids are unvaccinated?

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InMemoryOfSleep · 20/04/2017 08:24

I went to antenatal yoga with a lovely teacher, who then visited my house with her two children once my baby was born. I also attended her baby group several times with my DS, and her children were also present.

I've just found out that she's an anti-vaxxer, and I cannot stop thinking about the fact that she exposed my tiny baby to her unvaccinated kids, without my knowledge! AIBU to think she should have informed me before bringing her kids to my house, knowing my baby was too young to have been vaccinated yet?

And what about all the babies at the group - I get that it's her personal choice to not vaccinate (though I am vehemently against it) but as she is acting in a professional capacity surely she should be informing parents that her unvaccinated children will be there? I certainly would have thought twice about taking my DS before his vaccinations.

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InMemoryOfSleep · 20/04/2017 08:39

Actually @putdownyourphone I've just reread your post that mentions 'shedding viruses' which is a massive load of tripe so I guess our viewpoints are bound to be opposites on this one.

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StealthPolarBear · 20/04/2017 08:40

After their vaccinations yes.
Before not if I can help it

Orangebird69 · 20/04/2017 08:40

Yanbu OP. Yoga twat might think that research on Google and sticking tumeric up her arse will protect her and her kids but she has no right to put your newborn at risk. Selfish, stupid, ignorant cunt.

Isadora2007 · 20/04/2017 08:42

I never let my kids near unvaccinated children and neither do other parents I know

How do you know that? Most non Vax-ers don't tell people. My child could be in your class. You wouldn't know.

muckypup73 · 20/04/2017 08:42

Whilst her child are not vaxxed of course she is putting other people at risk, people that are seriously ill, so yanbu.

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InMemoryOfSleep · 20/04/2017 08:43

@user1492458803 it's the fact that she's running a group specifically for newborn babies that pisses me off, I would never have gone along had I known. But not sure how I feel about putting it on social media, I'm not sure I can face the backlash/argument from her and her mates.

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InMemoryOfSleep · 20/04/2017 08:44

@Orangebird69 thank you for using the language that I thought but didn't dare use Grin

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Isadora2007 · 20/04/2017 08:44

No one knew my second child was unvaccinated. She got her first injection age 12/13 IIRC...

My children currently have some of the vaccinations in the schedule and not all. Should I be telling people I meet? No. My child's medical status is my business and no one else's.

YABU. And precious.

MaisyPops · 20/04/2017 08:45

Exactly. Yes there are kids who haven't been vaccinated but that's less of an issue once a baby HAS had their jabs.

Newborns and immune compromised people are different. They have to go around potentially coming into contact with non-vaccinated people (whilst relying on herd immunity). It's totally arrogant to take your non vaccinated children to to play with a newborn of a few days old.
But as another poster has said, anti-vaxxers think they are special.

user1492458803 · 20/04/2017 08:45

Could you speak to local HV team and see if they would have a word? I don't feel she should be allowed to pose a danger to babies unchallenged.

StealthPolarBear · 20/04/2017 08:46

Good idea user

MaisyPops · 20/04/2017 08:47

InMemoryOfSleep
I would mention it to her as in "I felt like... in future some parents may appreciate knowing..."
I wouldn't take to social media to bad mouth her. I always think personal attacks online say more about the ranter. She's a decent yoga teacher so don't bring her business into disrepute.

ICJump · 20/04/2017 08:49

I'm pretty proud vaccines but it's just not something I'd get worked up over.

UppityHumpty · 20/04/2017 08:49

She's a professional and has a lot of contact with babies and pregnant women. All it would take is one of her brats to catch Measles or Mumps or Rubella and that would be enough to cause a late miscarriage/birth defects/serious health problems or disability in a new born. You need to report her. Is there a professional body you can go to?

KERALA1 · 20/04/2017 08:49

Some posters are missing the point with silly statements such as should they have to announce their kids un vaxxed status at all times. This is visiting a NEWBORN in a semi professional capacity.

AveEldon · 20/04/2017 08:51

YABU

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InMemoryOfSleep · 20/04/2017 08:51

That's exactly it - she is in a professional capacity when home visiting or running her group, putting herself in a position of trust. I feel like she might be NCT trained, but I don't think she runs the groups as an NCT teacher so I'm not sure they'd be interested.

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HallowedMimic · 20/04/2017 08:52

But unless her children were ill, your baby was not at risk of anything.

If she'd shown up alongside a child with active measles, that would be bad, but here children weren't ill.

Vaccinated children can catch measles, chicken pox etc. too you know.

StealthPolarBear · 20/04/2017 08:53

Or harbouring something.
And yes they can but the risk /chance is much much lower

KERALA1 · 20/04/2017 08:54

My Dh would have gone mental - he insisted all visitors to our newborn slightly prem covered hands with anti back gel I Blush now

StealthPolarBear · 20/04/2017 08:55

Premature newborn - good for him!

icy121 · 20/04/2017 08:57

This: "She's a professional and has a lot of contact with babies and pregnant women. All it would take is one of her brats to catch Measles or Mumps or Rubella and that would be enough to cause a late miscarriage/birth defects/serious health problems or disability in a new born."

And this: "she is in a professional capacity when home visiting or running her group, putting herself in a position of trust"

Fucking selfish of her, I think. Can you name and shame her online?! Google review the twat: "good at yoga but is antivaxx so give the antenatal classes a swerve"

JaneEyre70 · 20/04/2017 09:01

Yes she should have told you and given YOU the choice. I would make a point of telling your HV and asking her advice. This woman sounds like a menace to society frankly. I can't wait to hear the anti-vaxxers arguments when they've lost the herd immunity that is currently protecting their kids...

Henrysmycat · 20/04/2017 09:02

As someone who lost my sibling to chickenpox at 20 days old because of an unvaccinated child, I'd be furious just like you.

Orangebird69 · 20/04/2017 09:05

inmemory, my pleasure. 😘 I've always been pro-vax/not massively keen on kids dying from preventable diseases etc. But since having my son (who thankfully is only a gene carrier for CF rather than totally immunocompromised), I cannot forgive the ignorance and selfishness of these antivaxx, tin foil hat wearing cunty lunatics.
Isadora, it's shocking isn't it - someone being precious about their newborns health?!? What is the world coming too? 🙄.ffs.