AIBU with my friends?

[PhyllisNights]

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

Oh OP, I wish I knew everything, just like you. And I wish I'd just tried a bit harder when I got pregnant, then I wouldn't have wasted all that time on missed miscarriages 🙄 fuck special, by my fifth pregnancy I was just hoping the baby would be alive. It must be really nice to be #sospecial #soblessed #solucky that you never have to worry about prole things like that.

Incidentally, i was a fucking brilliant parent. Before I had my first.
You'll learn. You might want to get a grip though, cos it'll be much harder if you've got no friends left thanks to being an insufferable knob.

Does anyone the op not remind anyone else of Amanda out of friends?? No just me

phyliss. You need to step back not just with your friends but in general. I'm sure your nephew is lovely but what has worked for him and your Sil may not work for you. Try to be a bit more flexible. There may come a time your desperate for the 5 mins peace peppa pig brings 😉 As for the reason you posted your friends are probably interested but they don't need every detail! Especially if it's with a side of condescension 'about putting the work in' or bescause their ideas don't match up to your Sil! As for the baby shower your don't ask or suggest or anything some people like them some don't but it's no reflection on what they think of you!! If you want one throw one maybe ask you SIL she has probably had a perfect one and can help you out

Oh god please don't let this be real. If you carry out even half these plans that poor baby is going to be hot-housed into a lifetime of therapy and neuroses about not being good enough or achieving high enough to live up to its mother's expectations.

OP, for the first time, in absolute seriousness, just this one thing: let your baby be happy. That's not going to happen if they're crushed under the wright of all your vicarious Dance Mom pushiness.

The comments from my friends were stuff like "you'll be a Helicopter mum!"

OP - you said you were upset by their comments and can't get over the upset. But right here in this quote they have told you clearly exactly what they think, and you, instead of taking note and taking it on board, have chosen to be upset instead.

They recognise that you are totally over the top, and obsessed with this child beofre it is even born. Hence the helicopter Mum comment.

So, swallow your pride, acknowledge they actually understand you pretty well and are trying to get the messgae over that they have had ENOUGH baby talk.

Then re-think a little, back off, calm down, lift your eyes from your bump and talk to them about their lives.
Please please don't forget, that in any group of friends of around your age there will probably be:

• someone who is struggling with fertility but hasn't told the group yet.

-someone whose marriage/relationship is struggling, but they haven't let on

• someone who is struggling about something else - work, parent's ill health, depression, etc etc

You constant up beat good news is like a barrier to stop other people from being honest. If you are a good friend, start listening to the others.

Right, fajita Friday folks. As we're now assuming the OP is real and that fajita Friday may not go according to her plans, I propose the following. Mini Gaelic and I are in need of a pick me up this evening and will be having our own fajita Friday (vegan of course), once this thread fills I will create a fajita Friday thread in honour of OP where we can continue to enjoy our virtual tacos, Wild, mikey and the rest of the Bloody Irish crew can keep up the Irish jokes, we can discuss the perfect kitchen model and if the real fajita Friday baby shower extravaganza goes tits up phyllis can come back to update us and join the party. Who's in? I'm on antibiotics, you can all drink my margaritas for me.

Gaelic I'm in! Not sure how to calculate my percentage of Irish but I am a ninja with 8 siblings - do I pass?!

I suspect you'll turn into this lovely... xx

But i hold Phyllisknights in a great affection now as an OP, having rtht on & off since 5 am this morning (so many pages!).

I mean how did vegan fajita Friday go? ... Who did get elected to throw prodigal baby shower and was there a throne?.. Did you get your JL baby gifts list?... How did the new kitchen of your uni/school friend turn out in your view (did she have a rising microwave)?... Did DH do approvably well in sourcing new parents-to-be for an additional friends group for more hearty pg talk? ...

.. Years down the line I'll be curious whether you went full choice parenting successfully supporting PFB toddler choices to eat mud out of the garden instead of his/her tea? (I regularly umm lied to my toddlers that they were infact eating mud and worms instead of the delicious spag bol so obviously on their plates...)

MNers are here with you PhyllisK... ... All gently teasing and laughing with you...

Damn, I wish MN had a function like eBay site does where you can follow a seller... I look forward to your next OP threads... And good for you for still sticking with this one...

Well I'm def in Gaelic. Although today is Frozen Friday in our house as I made the very unirish mammy choice parenting descision to feed all and sundry from the freezer; which consisted of no veg and pizzas/sausage rolls and Birdseye Waffles. Oh wait scratch the no veg thing. Waffles are potatoes (ish).

And easter eggs. Lots and lots of easter eggs.

Bought all my Fucking Fajita Friday ingredients at Sainsbo's this morning. Going with steak for mine, though. Sorry. Need my iron. Garnishing with spinach and trying out a nice paprika/coriander herby mix for the marinade. Mmmm...

I'm in but I'm totally having pizza and I don't care who judges me I need the carbs before no.2 DS kills me with the cluster feeding

I'm in, Gaelic. Fenella, sounds like you fit the bill perfectly. No vegan fajitas here, we're having Szechuan stir fry - with pork mince. I pulled that idea out of the arse I didn't drag to the shops earlier🤗
I'm going to an event later 🙄 -don't ask, DH owes me BIG time - but I'll expect regular updates on my return.

waves to sparkly and Fenella, well, Fenella is a ninja and sparkly is making potatoes for dinner, you're both practically 100% Irish already

Fenella, I'm going to have to ask you too, how did you work bedrooms? My DDs stepsister thinks it's child abuse she has to share her room EOW you see, I'm collecting stories of the horrors we ensured as kids for her

Grand, Wild. we'll keep the party going for you. I'm expecting an angry phone call from my DD's evil stepmother in approximately two hours, I need all the fajita Friday distractions I can get

If I had potatoes in the house, they would be in the stir fry... I haven't even a waffle, Sparkly, and I think stir fry with potato farls would be stretching it. 😱

Poor you, Gaelic, time to rustle up the fiery ninja and give her what for!!! Unleash the Irish Mammy in you!😬

Ooh, I got a "grand"! #proud #honoured

Gaelic if it helps ds1 (17), ds2 (13) share a room and dd(7) and ds3 (4) both have a room of their own. I've only got the 4 but I'm still only 35 so plenty of time to squish out a few more.

Oh I'm also the resident Leprechaun, what's left of my red hair (was only partially red at birth) has been hidden via a bottle dye . I do however meet the height requirements.

Ps. People stop trying to get mnhq to remove OP's post as can't be real... .... Let's do a righteous campaign instead for it to eventually be relocated to Classic Threads status. (Whatever that is) (i read it above in thread, and wish i could find them..!)

Oh, my inner fiery Irish mammy is what got me into this mess wild, I finally took up to her waste of space husband. Should have done that years ago it will all come back to bite me later but oh was it worth it.

I tried to grow potatoes last year. It was such a disaster it was practically a history lesson. Luckily they were still in stock at the supermarket

Stood up. I did not go near him. There's still a court order about that.

Of course, francis. Anyone with any Irish blood, a new kitchen, a pony, or a second coming is more than welcome. We mustn't forget the kitchens. I need a new kitchen. But who to go with...

He doesn't watch Peppa Pig, anything he does watch is high in educational content.

Hey now, you leave the pig out of this.

Errrm sorry but Ben and Holly is WAAAAAY superior to the pig

Well I hadn't posted on this thread before because I thought it was Maui.

However, as Gin Towers say it's not suspect, I am in with Fajita Friday