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AIBU?

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AIBU with my friends?

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PhyllisNights · 19/04/2017 21:24

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

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PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 20/04/2017 21:34

Wasn't there a thread the other day/week were someone knew somone who worked in immigration and were complete racists?
Point being is that just because your work in HR doesn't mean you aren't a self obsessed princess

WildIrishRose1 · 20/04/2017 21:34

Christmas is s free for all, but brilliant! It can be a tight squeeze in the oven, but hey ho!

GaelicSiog · 20/04/2017 21:36

Wild one of my big sisters is a teacher, stop scaring me

OP, if you learn nothing else from this thread, please learn this. As pregnancy goes, you have it pretty easy. No, I am not seriously suggesting my mam put her baby supplies in the post for you. She does still loan out the cot etc she had with her own kids. Maybe me more than the older ones, but not the point. The point is that pregnancy and babies are not about material stuff. I didn't have a baby shower, I had a birth it took me a long time to get over. But afterwards, I was overwhelmed with the number of people who helped me out, be it with baby stuff or emotional support. Friends are awesome when you have babies, but they don't have to be constantly engaged in your pregnancy to be awesome. People can be kind and happy for you without buying you new things.

ThisAintALoveSong · 20/04/2017 21:37

Look OP, you don't seem to be taking anyone points onboard. You asked the question "AIBU with my friends?", you've been told by pretty much everyone on here you are being VERY unreasonable and you seem to accept no responsibility on the matter whatsoever.

Are you going to apologise to your friends for coming across as self centred? Or are you just going to dump them in the hope your hubby digs you out some new ones.

You seem to get offended by the slightesr of slights. Not being picked as bridesmaid, not having a baby shower planned by your mates, your friends actually wanting to enjoy their attachment-free lives. I had a self-centred friend once. I saw her true colours and eventually ditched her. The same will happen if you don't stop whining about the friends you have got.

Put your big girl pants on and go and apologise to your friends for being such a prize plum all this time.

Gaggleofgirls · 20/04/2017 21:38

Just get yourself new friends, they're likely the same ones from school? People move on, you have, they haven't, leave them to it x

GaelicSiog · 20/04/2017 21:39

mikey, I'm not offering her anything, but I know my mam would. Have you met Irish mothers of kids into double digits? They have all the baby supplies you'll ever need and they'll loan them out to anyone

WildIrishRose1 · 20/04/2017 21:39

Ah, but our number 10 is of the male persuasion, so you're safe. Seriously, what Irish family doesn't have the requisite amount of teachers, nurses, guards, etc?

Wondermoomin · 20/04/2017 21:39

I'm not entirely sure that your offer is that genuine.

^ That's a glimmer of social awareness there admittedly I'm being over optimistic

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PhyllisNights · 20/04/2017 21:39

I have heard some horrific things in HR from colleagues. Racist, misogynistic, homophobic - the whole lot! And it doesn't matter whether it's public or private, they'll usually do anything to protect the management and the company.

I'm just saying that I'm a people person and I like to think that I can read people quite well!

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Wondermoomin · 20/04/2017 21:41

I'm sorry Phyllis but I don't think you can. You're ignoring things even when they're being spelled out.

Chippednailvarnishing · 20/04/2017 21:41

Op you are hilarious!

ItsCakeTime · 20/04/2017 21:41

Jumped the shark with the job in HR…

PurpleDaisies · 20/04/2017 21:42

I'm just saying that I'm a people person and I like to think that I can read people quite well

Er, not from what you've said on this thread.

ThisAintALoveSong · 20/04/2017 21:42

Well read this OP. You are unreasonable at best!

GaelicSiog · 20/04/2017 21:45

Oh, thank goodness wild. My sister who teaches is Rosie, I was getting worried no, really.

We have a nurse, two teachers, one in the gardi. Lots of the kids dance, I have a very stereotypical Irish profession. We are basically a walking ginger stereotype at this point.

Bestthingever · 20/04/2017 21:45

Thank you Op (and the rest of you MNers). I haven't laughed so much at a thread in ages.

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 20/04/2017 21:45

I'm just saying that I'm a people person and I like to think that I can read people quite well!

But you can't read actual words well?

mikeyssister · 20/04/2017 21:45

Gaelic, I've only 4 but I had everything and passed it out too. And received it gratefully. In fact still receiving it gratefully.

Wild, I remember once upon a time we had priests too. Not these days though.

Phyllis, if you honestly think your a people person and you can read people well you are either more self absorbed than I thought or deluded.

GaelicSiog · 20/04/2017 21:46

Gardai. I am Irish, honest. Autocorrect changed it to "hetman" and I failed to sufficiently re-correct.

mikeyssister · 20/04/2017 21:47

Gaelic are you a ninja??

Three of mine are ninjas too. Youngest looooves the fact that Ed Sheeran is a ninja as well.

ThisAintALoveSong · 20/04/2017 21:47

I'm just saying that I'm a people person and I like to think that I can read people quite well!

You're not 'just saying' though are you? You're gloating at how good you are at this, that and the other. I suppose the rest of us worthless peons you're condescending to talk to on here aren't 'people persons' at all in your esteemed view.

I personally think you wrap your self-worth too closely with what you have and what you can acquire and it all sounds pretty fake. Will you be teaching DC to do the same?

mikeyssister · 20/04/2017 21:48

Must admit I was wondering. Thought crossed my mind that you might be plastic.

QueenieMum · 20/04/2017 21:49

You work in HR and you think you can read people quite well?! We can all read you like a book but you don't seem to have got past the cover.

You said earlier that you'd discussed this with people at work who didn't have the same reaction as us. Of course not, you were face to face or on the phone with people you know! Internet forums like this are a very different kettle of vegan fajitas, you get told exactly what people think (which is probably what real life should have more of IMHO).

I think you'll probably struggle to find anyone quite like you OP.

Sanchezwasntdirty · 20/04/2017 21:51

Phyliss you're really not good at reading people. The comments on this thread in black and white but you're still not seeing how unreasonable you're being. You're friends are under no obligation to be excited about your pregnancy they're also under no obligation to throw you a shower and provide gifts. That's all a gesture by them not a god given right.

GaelicSiog · 20/04/2017 21:51

I am indeed a ninja. Although I did experiment with blonde for a while. Biggest. Mistake. Of. My. Life.

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