AIBU with my friends?

[PhyllisNights]

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

You work in HR I may just have choked on my drink while reading this thread

I did't pretend. Admittedly it wasn't a full mouthful, but I did actually splutter and ffft tea over my laptop screen.

And I've no idea why you think I would pretend.

I have direct debits to charities going out every month

I have direct debits to oddbins going out every month.

My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

serial killer?

THIS WHOLE THREAD IS THE REASON I LOVE MUMSNET!

OP, when you have Fajita Friday will it be in your friend's new kitchen?

Oh, OP, my HR director is one of the most self centred people I've ever come across. Doesn't give a shit about anyone other than themselves.

It's all about you in your head.

Perhaps you hit your head on one of the occasions you fell of your horse.

You want your friends to be happy for you
You want them all to get pregnant so your kids can play together
You want them to be excited
Mate, you are not in control of this element of friendship.
It is not their child
It is not their labour
It is not your decision they have kids
Please do not be a baby bore...they will stop asking about stuff incase you gush baby talk for the whole night. Other people's kids are not exciting. Come back on this thread in two years and cringe at your post cos you will get it then.
Babies are exciting, wonderful, cute, beautiful to their parents. No guarantees they will play nicely with others, no guarantees they will clap, walk, talk or turn into child geniuses before their peers. Just take each day as it comes and don't be disappointed about their lack of participation in your dream.

OP, I just wish to sound rude but could it be that you are exceptionally hormonal at this stage in pregnancy? I know when I was pregnant, the princess in me had a right go at my other half because I had been at work all day (very physical job I do) and I didn't want to come home and have to sort tea out and washing as well. It was me getting ahead of myself though. I was extremely tired and hormonal not to mention sore from my job but dp had already made plans for tea for us, I just didn't give him time to speak when I got in cos I was overcome with rage 😂

You may look back on this thread once the hormones have died down and realise how much of a diva you come across as. I think you've probably fallen victim to the 'perfect lives' people often portray on Facebook and instagram. Honey that shit ain't real. Sorry 😐

I don't wish to sound rude* ffs! Ah well, cats out of the bag now

FFS, blaming hormones!

Oh OP, I know you aren't for real but bloody well done I actually think you're an amazing parody

acat, is your HR woman pregnant?

The vegan taco party sounds awesome. I'm so up for a vegan taco.

I'll tell you what I'm most upset about though. Multiple times I have offered up my mam's baby supplies to op, and multiple times she has ignored my offer. Is second hand inferior? It's more than second hand at this point, but it's in perfect decent working condition.

Gaelic, nope, I don't think we have advanced quite that far medically just yet

Thanks, Gaelic, right back at ya.... I'm used to catering for the masses.

My hormones were all over the place when I was pregnant, I did some pretty mental things looking back. So yeah I'm not denying it could be OP (if she is real that is) is feeling a little bit precious and in need of her friends to tell her she's doing a fabulous thing etc.

She's still acting like a diva demanding gifts and whatnot though

No trouble wild, to trouble at all. I mean, when you practically have to hire a hall for Christmas dinner, ten more or so is nothing, right?

(On a serious note, what do you do for Christmas dinner? It's getting ridiculous at ours with all the grandkids)

Gaelic, as lovely as you were to me yesterday, I've seen a turn in you! I'm not entirely sure that your offer is that genuine.

I apologise if any of my words have come across in the wrong way. I'm not a brat. I'm just feeling very emotional. I'm very excited for the baby, but I don't get to go on holiday with my friends this year or my husband. Working up until my pregnancy is making me feel stressed. I wish maternity was longer and that it would include part of the pregnancy (but then I would lose time with the baby!).

Just hopped back in.... John Lewis? Wish list? 😂😂😂😂😂 I just hope I don't end up teaching OP's perfect child 😱😱 I couldn't deal with the stress ... Of OP!!

Do you not have a policy at work where you can take x amount of leave before baby is due? Yes it chews up some of your time afterwards. In the job I'm in I couldn't have worked up til the pregnancy even if I wanted to.

Hope to god this thread isn't a hoax. I don't want to spend my evening replying to a troll

Gaelic, I have to be honest I'm embarrassed for you offering used clothes to OP.

Have you any idea how embarrassing this is for her.

Ah Fuck me I've heard it all

Duh Phyllis, of course Gaelic is taking the mickey in offering the clothes to you. She has realised that you would never use second hand for your precious snowflake.