AIBU with my friends?

[PhyllisNights]

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

Today 20:39 GaelicSiog

The thing is though, you can't dictate other people's lives for them. Most of my close friends I had when I had DD still don't have kids. They are brilliant godmother figures to DD though. And I have parent friends whose kids are friends with DD.

I think you may need to accept that right now, you and your friends what very different things out of life, and that's ok.

I suspect your colleagues are being polite, btw.

I've had a really crap day and this thread has made me smile for the first time :) thanks OP for being either a) a cracking good troll or b) one of the most out of touch, self obsessed loons who thankfully isn't a friend of mine :)

I have direct debits going to charities too, OP. But I am a bad person.

Crapuccino, we're not having meat. Vegan fajitas will be served to accommodate the whole group.

As for this constant accusation that I don't have self-awareness? I work in HR. I have to deal with people's problems all the time.

I have just spent wasted quite some time reading through this thread. Surely must be a joke?

When I say wasted... it is actually highly amusing reading all the responses!

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaa this just gets better!

Vegan fajitas?! Oh I've heard it all now! You had me craving chicken...

phyllis, I like you, I really do. The offer of my mam's baby things in the event of a baby shower no show still stands, btw, but you'll have pay the postage. But you do have a rather inflated sense of your own importance. And I think even your husband has tried to tell you that.

Ah Phyllis you've made my day a little better, I must say. I fall out with my friends from time to time but next time I see them I'll hug them that little bit closer - cause they're mad, but you my dear are madder than a box of frogs.

vegan fajita night!

As for this constant accusation that I don't have self-awareness? I work in HR. I have to deal with people's problems all the time.

It really doesn't automatically follow that people who work in hr understand people.

Hey! Lay off the vegan fajitas. They can be really nice.

As for this constant accusation that I don't have self-awareness? I work in HR. I have to deal with people's problems all the time.

Feckit, I think I've broken my laptop. I just spat a mouthful of tea all over it.

Coco, you may be a millenial, but you're no special little snowflake.

That's a VEGAN fajita emoticon we're needing MNHQ, okay? Vegan.

Some of the most bitchy, narcissistic people I know work in HR... just saying

madder than a bag of frogs - I'd totally forgotten the joy of that expression

So that'd be tortillas, onions, peppers, refried beans, salsa and guacamole. And beer (bet OP won't drink a sip of beer when pregnant). Sounds pretty good.

But no meat, cheese or sour cream.

I would really, really miss the cheese. Cheese, bean and salsa burritos, mmmm.

Phyliss you don't quite seem to be getting that THE WORLD DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND YOU! If your friends WANT to throw you a baby shower the will. If you keep being a major PITA they will drop you (I don't think anyone would blame them)

Cheese and soured cream really make fajitas for me.

OP, you do realise that everyone here has formed their impression of you based entirely on the things that YOU have posted. Right?

No one cares what you do for a living or how much you give to charity. That's got nothing to do with the things people have said to you or the reasons they're saying them.

Even if you think these opinions are woefully unfair, can you please at least ask yourself why people might have got that impression, based solely on what you've posted here?

Cheese and soured cream really make fajitas for me.

I agree but I'm assuming those are available for the non-vegans at the table?

Why do people pretend to have spat tea over their computer or giggled so hard they woke their dh etc.

Oh my god I am craving a giant bowl of sliced steak and cheese and sour cream so much right now.

I'm not a bad person. I have direct debits to charities going out every month.

OP you do realise that the Japanese mafia gave millions of dollars worth of aid to the survivors of the Kobe earthquake? Pablo Escobar gave over 40 million dollars of medical aid away. There's so much proof of bad people doing good deeds.

Ruffians and bad guys can give to charity, too. I have charity direct debits and am such a twat that sometimes I question how DH can stay married to me (not really, I'm great in bed and he's loves the DC's so it's worth staying. But I really am a bellend).