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AIBU with my friends?

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PhyllisNights · 19/04/2017 21:24

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

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mikeyssister · 20/04/2017 18:50

I think everyone is forgetting that you can't argue with special little snowflakes, aka Generation Y, aka Millenials.

Fl0ellafunbags · 20/04/2017 18:51

I went out for lunch today and none of my friends admired my diamond shoes. Aibu to think they are all jealous bitches?

HerBluebiro · 20/04/2017 18:54

Has anyone else had feelings of "oh god, what if I was even a tiny bit like this" reading this thread?

Yup. I mean I get feelings when I look at dc of absolute wonder sometimes that something so beautiful could exist in this world. But I know objectively they are quite ordinary looking (thank fuck) and unlikely to be featuring in any magazine shoots.

But I hope so much that I dont go on about it too much. Please not too much.

GeorgeTheHamster · 20/04/2017 18:56

This thread is utter bullshit isn't it.

Mildly entertaining though.

HerBluebiro · 20/04/2017 18:59

George it's the thread that keeps on giving. Not just mildly amusing.

I want to know where dh is going to rustle up new friends from by networking. And if they are so easy to find why they aren't friends already

rollonthesummer · 20/04/2017 19:03

Did you honeymoon in Maui, by the way?

I do not believe that anyone really exists that lacks this much emotional intelligence.

If it is real, FFS please just organise your own baby shower if you must have one. You are not a bloody princess!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 20/04/2017 19:04

Maybe you have pissed people off so much with your so special genius baby talk that no-one wants to indulge you with a shower, @PhyllisNights.

A baby shower is not a right. No-one HAS to buy you a present for your baby. It is nice if they do, but it HAS to be left up to them. You cannot insist on a shower or circulate a wish list from ANY store.

Baby showers are a pretty recent thing in the UK - when I was pregnant with my sons, I did not know of anyone in the UK having one. Some people bought presents for the boys when they arrived - which was lovely of them - and I was very grateful. But I did NOT expect a gift from ANYONE.

Please don't be so grabby and entitled.

Persemillion · 20/04/2017 19:05

This thread should be in Classics and the troll hunter-ish "interesting first post, OP" should go.

FrancisCrawford · 20/04/2017 19:06

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NickAngel · 20/04/2017 19:09

This is honestly the best thread I've read in ages, not the OP really, but the comments. I love MN but has no one actually asked OP if she is on glue yet? Standards are slipping...

Fairyliz · 20/04/2017 19:09

Ok Phyllis its been great so far but I think we are all ready for the big reveal now, who are you really?
This has got to be a massive wind up by someone fabulous comedian nobody can honestly be this self absorbed in real life.
Any guesses?

cocobatter · 20/04/2017 19:10

Offended by that mikeyssister!! Wink I am the OP's age and I am as mortified by her posts as everyone else!!

I did however have a friend exactly like her in school ... Part of me is reeeeeeally hoping this is her (note past tense friendship cos she was a PITA) Grin

TaliDiNozzo · 20/04/2017 19:10

Oh dear! Really don't think this is real but just in case....

OP you are very annoying to your friends, that much is clear. Stop talking about your baby so much. I'm sure he or she will be lovely but if you float about with the attitude that you're incubating the second coming your friends may kill you. Everyone thinks their baby will be special and do wonderful things, you're no different in that respect, you just need to reign it in. Babies are quite boring to the majority of people who aren't the parents.

Maybe apologise to your friends for being a bit self-centred lately and move on with different conversations?

lasttimeround · 20/04/2017 19:13

Please please can we have this in classics?!!

Moregilmoregirls · 20/04/2017 19:13

We're having fajitas tomorrow, all welcome to gather round my magnet kitchen island and sip margaritas Grin

Badcat666 · 20/04/2017 19:14

I foresee op and hubby having an open day for potential new couple friends to compete for the honour. I bet there will be a spreadsheet to tally scores to ensure minimum criteria is met. Fajitas making will be a requirement as will no talking about new kitchens.

cocobatter · 20/04/2017 19:35

So... OP... what do you think about taking your friends out to dinner as a treat and apologising for being an utter self obsessed bore for months and promising to be a better friend from now on? Grin

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 20/04/2017 19:42
KeepCalm · 20/04/2017 19:44

ShockShockShock

Sanchezwasntdirty · 20/04/2017 19:44

Oh dear the John Lewis wish list is just too far... op how you managed to pin a man down (maybe you did it literally) to the point of marriage is beyond me!

It sounds like everything is a competition in you're life of which you're friends have lost interest and I'm really not surprised! Have you shown the slightest interest in any of there lives instead of expecting them to blow smoke up you're arse and tell you how wonderful you are?

HerBluebiro · 20/04/2017 19:47

She has shown interest satchel..... Remember she criticised the kitchen design upthread (I imagine no pop up microwave)

Dozer · 20/04/2017 19:48

Do people in RL actually get together with groups of friends and make and eat food together?

Sanchezwasntdirty · 20/04/2017 19:50

Ahh yes sorry forgot about that Her... pop up microwave! Where do I get one from?!

iklboo · 20/04/2017 19:51

Do they do showers for babies? Can I get one in B&Q?

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 20/04/2017 19:53

Why do posters think it's worthy of classics?

It's a pile of steaming bollocks with no wit or humour in the writing .

It's shit.

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