AIBU with my friends?

[PhyllisNights]

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

It is going too far. Give up. Read all the replies, not just the ones you're twisting to suit your pweshus ways.

Dying to know when your husband realised that you don't walk you float.

Is he excited?

Hahaha fabulous fairy tale but surely made up as nobody can be that self obsessed can they? Makes even a princess seem run of the mill.

Also how much did they have to fork out for your 'city weekend break hen' that they should be so thankful they were asked to? They don't owe you anything, you do get that right?!

How many bridesmaids did you have?

Did you pay for them to go on the hen weekend?

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Wow. Absolutely vile.

You expected people to buy stuff for your baby???

Is this normal? My mam will happily offer up baby stuff she has left over to anyone she knows of who is pregnant, but it will all be second hand.

The hen party contributed to the party weekend, but I took the foot of the bill. I had 6 bridesmaids - two of whom were my sisters.

Francis that tops my imaginary Unicorn.

Are you perhaps a man PhyllisNights? This seems the kind of post my brother might invent.

Interesting first post .....

Phyllis I feel bad for you. All these people saying similar things and you still just don't see it.

You said you'd be embarrassed if nobody organised you a baby shower. That's not the reason you should be embarrassed.

You're lucky you still have friends, the way you're going. Smh 🤦‍♂️

6 bridesmaid. Now I understand.

I hope that the rest of your pregnancy goes well for you, that you and your husband stay well and happy, and that your baby does indeed do incredible things.

Phyllis, would you like my mam's second hand baby stuff as a baby shower loan? She'll want it back once you're done with it for whoever gives her GGDC first, but I suspect it may be the best offer you get.

Is her stable suitably sparkling to match your sparkly kitchen, Francis?

People have said that I'm competitive, but it's not that

Um. Here's some good advice OP. If more than a couple of people have said the same thing about you, listen. Chances are it's true. Not just on this specific point but in general. If multiple people are giving you the same feedback then guess what? Your self image needs adjusting, not your social circle.

I have snorted my dinner out my mouth on the "make a John Lewis list" bit. 😂

When did you have to have a baby shower for ppl to show they care?? It's just stuff op and you haven't even had the baby yet! Buy your own stuff from John Lewis if it's bothering you that much.

You would hate me. Instead of a useless pricey gift I cleaned the kitchen and turfed tired and stressed next door neighbour new mum and hubby out their house to look after their screaming baby so they could pop to the local curry house for a well deserved break. Hell I even let her nap in my bed so she could rest whilst I babysat the baby from hell (who is a delight now).

Or is it all about the "show" and how much money they spend on you and your bump rather than someone actually caring? I've always thought you pick your bridesmaids because they are your close friends not so they have you as a bridesmaid at their wedding. Maybe they had other closer friends and family to pick from. And whining about them enjoying your wedding reception...that's what ppl are meant to do. Again you picked the venue and costs.

You are coming across "it's all about meeeeeeeeeeee". At this rate you won't have any friends left.

How did I miss this thread? It's fab.