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AIBU with my friends?

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PhyllisNights · 19/04/2017 21:24

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

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FrancisCrawford · 20/04/2017 17:11

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Mummytobe11 · 20/04/2017 17:21

I want to know how fajita Friday goes Grin

Badcat666 · 20/04/2017 17:22

Why am I reading the op posts in some posh New Hampshire american accent? Sounds like something from one of those "real housewives of....." prattle.

"Like... Omg! I come first in everything! No one wants to hear me go on and on about my amazing child to be that will change the world! And can't ride ponies anymore and I will task my husband to find me new friends and task someone to throw me a present party for said second coming child.

Why does no one want to hear about me winning all the time?"

I'm really worried the op will come to wish she had a new kitchen and will throw this at her child in the future "I could have had a new kitchen for fajita Friday's!! With a microwave that rises from the work top!! But no! I was not first in the new kitchen race!! I blame you,,"

GinAndTunic · 20/04/2017 17:22

You are ahead of the pack, Francis. Have a fajita for me, please. Or a taco. And a margarita or seven.

GinAndTunic · 20/04/2017 17:23

If I were the OP, I would find a way to have my child delivered through trap doors in my kitchen and not through my lady flaps.

GinIsIn · 20/04/2017 17:27

It's going to be fajita margarita Thursday at mine tonight. But I have to cook it all in an old kitchen - sad face!

KateDaniels2 · 20/04/2017 17:29

This has got to be a piss take.

No one is really like this

Motoko · 20/04/2017 17:31

I've seen PPs mentioning spectacular nappy incidents, but not projectile vomit, so I will!

When my eldest was about 6 months old, he had a bottle and about 5 minutes after he finished it, it came up again, in the most spectacular way. It had so much force behind it, it hit the wall about 6 feet away!

I didn't even know about projectile vomiting until that moment. It really was quite something.

I think you're going to come back down to earth with a bump when you've had the baby.

Pigface1 · 20/04/2017 17:32

I swallowed it until 'my baby will do something incredible in the world - I can feel it!!' A for effort. Grin

Gillian1980 · 20/04/2017 17:37

Almost speechless!

It's really not very complicated OP. However special you feel you and your baby are, nobody else will feel the same way.

Non- pregnant friends will either find it boring or insensitive depending on their circumstances. Friends who are parents will also find it boring in a "been there, done that" sort of way. You are boring them senseless.

And it is unbelievably rude to request a baby shower. They are a gift and usually a surprise.

You need to just drop it all. Enjoy your pregnancy and accept that nobody else is really interested.

Smiler2013 · 20/04/2017 17:37

What is reverse 😳🤖

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 20/04/2017 17:45

A reverse is where the original poster writes their post as if they were the other person in the situation, to see if people will agree with their reaction to the situation - so to use this OP as an example, the OP would actually be one of the friends who is getting pissed off at the pregnant friend's self obsession, and wants to know if they are being unreasonable to be pissed off.

acatcalledjohn · 20/04/2017 17:46

It's written from the perspective of the other usually unreasonable person in the story.

Dozer · 20/04/2017 17:47

It's Samantha Brick pregnancy stylee

GaelicSiog · 20/04/2017 17:48

Has anyone else had feelings of "oh god, what if I was even a tiny bit like this" reading this thread? Shock

YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 20/04/2017 17:58

Fajita Fucking Friday.

I'm dying here

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 20/04/2017 18:00

Gaelic most people didn't know I was pregnant until after I had DD. I feel sad that I didn't get my moment to bore people shine

WildIrishRose1 · 20/04/2017 18:03

Damn it! I've just discovered the thread is back! Oh well, the family will have to starve a while longer 😬

DiseasesOfTheSheep · 20/04/2017 18:11

The bit I doubt most is quitting riding for a few wrist fractures. Really? Most horsey folk consider these bits completely expendable...

( glances at own broken body parts... yep... completely expendable )

GaelicSiog · 20/04/2017 18:12

Peppa I didn't know I was pregnant pretty much until I had DD. Just imagine. Never mind the shock, just imagine all that time to boast about my amazing fetus. Wasted. I should submit a compensation form or something.

My house is not a cottage with a beautiful kitchen and stables, but I will totally cater for wildirishs lot (who I'm still not convinced aren't my nieces and nephews anyway) and anyone else who wants to hang out on the kitchen party thread instead of provide dinner for the masses. I have an imaginary unicorn and I'm making spag bol. Spag Bol Thursday?

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PhyllisNights · 20/04/2017 18:26

While I understand that no one is going to be as excited for my baby as me and my husband, I am frustrated that they were all thrilled for my wedding. I picked half of them bridesmaids and when it came around to their weddings, only one of them returned the favour for their wedding! They were all more than happy to enjoy the city weekend break away for the hen do and enjoy the lavish ceremony/reception. I just wish they'd at least engage in conversation with me about the baby when we'd meet up.

As for the baby shower, my sister-in-law and her friends have always planned them in advance. If I didn't get one then I'd feel embarrassed that no one cared enough. I did think about compiling a wishlist on John Lewis (like I did for my wedding), but my husband felt that was going too far.

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SteffiMuse · 20/04/2017 18:28

Johnlewis? That's far to lower class op. Harrods maybe? Grin

Wondermoomin · 20/04/2017 18:29

I did think about compiling a wishlist on John Lewis (like I did for my wedding), but my husband felt that was going too far.

Oh. My. God. This thread is the gift that keeps on giving. Thank goodness your husband stopped you on that one Shock

Motoko · 20/04/2017 18:31

it's Fishfinger Fursday here.

dontbesillyhenry · 20/04/2017 18:31

John Lewis wish list 🙊
Good one OP