@PhyllisNights - a baby shower is not a right. You do not get to demand that your friends throw you a party and give you things. That would be the very definition of entitled and rude.
I'm sorry that you haven't felt that you have been supported here - but you have misunderstood the sort of support that is on offer here.
We are not going to blindly tell you that you are right - frankly, letting someone carry on with behaviour that is alienating their friends would NOT be supportive, in my book. The advice you will get here will be blunt, and will pull no punches.
You have every right to be excited about your pregnancy - it is a very special time for you. But the important words in that sentence are ...for YOU... - your friends are under no obligation whatsoever to find your pregnancy as magical and epic as you do - because it isn't that important to them.
Bear in mind also that many, many of us on here will also have done this magical thing - some of us have done it more than once or even more than twice. I'm sorry, but you are not unique.
On a serious note, please try to develop a more measured attitude towards this baby and motherhood, otherwise you might find the reality a truly horrible shock - leaking nipples, battered and sore perineum, no sleep, dirty nappies, and exhaustion. If you have a soft-focus picture of you, rocking an angelic baby in a beautiful room, surrounded by wooden toys, and you get a colicky baby who never sleeps, never lets you have a shower, and pukes all over you every time they feed, you are going to have a horrible shock - and that can be upsetting and shocking, and could lead to post natal depression.
Parenthood is hard work, and can be very frustrating. Don't get me wrong - it is marvellous too, and wonderful, and there are great things to look forward to in every stage - but there are hard, sometimes nigh impossible things too - but if you are realistic about them, it is much easier to tackle them.
One final point - please stop with the 'I am going to stay at home with my child because I am such a perfect mother' schtick - there are many mothers both on MN and in real life who work outside the home, and they are bloody good mothers too. We are all the best parent we can be, regardless of whether we work or not, whether we breast feed or not, whether we use reusable or disposable nappies, do baby led weaning or make our own purees, or use baby food in jars.
Judging other mothers for making different choices to you will alienate you and make you very unpopular. So when you do make some mum friends, please do not judge them if they are going back to work - be supportive and positive about their choice, and do NOT say anything that will make them feel you think they are a bad parent for working.