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AIBU with my friends?

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PhyllisNights · 19/04/2017 21:24

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

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Venusflytwat · 19/04/2017 23:54

Today 22:42
PhyllisNights
" My sister-in-law can't have kids, she's had IVF & they're thinking about adopting."

Today 23:27
PhyllisNights
"I'm the youngest of 4. I have two nephews through my brother. My sisters don't have children - one is single & the other is looking into freezing her eggs."

Someone talk me through it. Family trees were never my forte.

Crapuccino · 19/04/2017 23:55

Oh Venus you crafty old fox you...

weddingopinionsplease · 19/04/2017 23:56

Ooh

GaelicSiog · 19/04/2017 23:56

One of the sisters is gay? Can sister in law also mean sister of brother in law? It does in huge Irish families, anyway.

Can you tell I have too many relatives Grin

Crapuccino · 19/04/2017 23:57

Wait. I've thought of one plausible scenario. But let's see what OP says.

Venusflytwat · 19/04/2017 23:58

I guess could be the husband's sister?

I have no idea really. I've got about 3 relatives to my name that I didn't push out of my vagina.

I've got a massive fuck off kitchen though. Handmade wooden units, Welsh slate floors and half marble half copper work tops. My microwave rises up as if from nowhere.

I'm fucking awesome, me.

GaelicSiog · 19/04/2017 23:58

Crapuccino I might be with you.

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PhyllisNights · 19/04/2017 23:58

She's not my sister in law as such. She's my sister in law's sister. I just didn't want to over complicate the post. I was trying to show compassion to one of the few posters who had been nice to me in this thread. Stop trying to pick holes.

I'm 29 for anyone that cares. My friends are all around my age or younger. I met most through school, some from the yard where I used to ride horses at the weekend.

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Crapuccino · 19/04/2017 23:59

Okay two scenarios. One is plausible. The other is Jeremy Kyle.

Venusflytwat · 20/04/2017 00:00

THE OP IS JEREMY KYLE???

Did NOT see that coming.

WildIrishRose1 · 20/04/2017 00:00

God, Gaelic, I hope you're wrong. I've enough trouble with some of my in-laws, let alone their siblings😱😱😱😱

GaelicSiog · 20/04/2017 00:00

Venus I am very jealous of your Welsh slate floors. I have no Welsh slate floors, but I do have 9 siblings. Will you swap me a few Welsh slates for a couple of brothers and a sister?

NotJustAWife · 20/04/2017 00:01

You sound incredibly immature for 29.

HarrietKettleWasHere · 20/04/2017 00:02

Ah, and OP rides horses too Grin

Illstartexercisingtomorrow · 20/04/2017 00:02

Anyone seen chewing gum? I reckon OP is like Cynthia

On another note - anyone reckon that 1 year from now whilst being a sahm she's going down the forever living route? It was the gwyn post that got me thinking about it really

CaulkheadNorth · 20/04/2017 00:02

Of course you rode ponies. Of course you did.

Venusflytwat · 20/04/2017 00:04

Gaelic no, I will not.

I'm on the lookout for a horse though. A gingery one to stand next to my stable kitchen door and offset the copper nicely. Needs to be good at standing still and have a nice mane. Any offers?

RedBullBlood · 20/04/2017 00:04

Bet your pony was better than theirs.

FeralBeryl · 20/04/2017 00:05

I'd like to be considered for election for baby shower doer-ing!

I will approve of all your name choices.

I will not smile wryly as you judge other parents who already have children because you will be doing things differently.

I will sell a kidney to buy lots of flowers.

I will insist every guest wears a mask of your face.

I will insist each guest brings gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh.

I will prematurely eject anyone who does not participate in pre arranged party games (to be discussed here)

I will make you the cake attached Wink^^
^^

AIBU with my friends?
GaelicSiog · 20/04/2017 00:05

Venus, I knew you were sensible Grin

Crapuccino · 20/04/2017 00:06

Placing bets that OP was riding off-the-track racehorses. Ponies would never be good enough for the person who always gets there ahead of everyone else.

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PhyllisNights · 20/04/2017 00:06

I can't ride horses anymore, and that would be the case even if I wasn't pregnant. I've come off too many times and had quite a few operations on my wrist. I can't risk breaking it again.

I was supposed to be asleep two hours ago! I need to be up at 6!

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WildIrishRose1 · 20/04/2017 00:06

My microwave rises up as if from nowhere. That's it - I won't sleep now from envy!Envy

Venusflytwat · 20/04/2017 00:07

Happy to volunteer my Kitchen Of Great Greatness as baby shower venue.* Did I mention the microwave that appears as if from nowhere? I'm fucking ace, me.

*Ginger Horse dependent.

Crapuccino · 20/04/2017 00:07

Good lord. In the very first ever Baby Election exit polls, it looks like Beryl is in the lead!!

(Wonder if OP will hold her election in June and then be shocked that the headlines keep on about the General Election and don't mention the Babyshower Election even once.)