AIBU with my friends?

[PhyllisNights]

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

'I'll have to elect someone to throw my baby shower'. Good luck finding anyone who accepts.

I imagine the OP will set out the requirements, and invite interested parties to apply. After interviewing a short-list of candidates, the elected applicant will be notified.

So you're always one step ahead eh?

That means you'll be first to get grey hair, false teeth and die first too!

Just me who's envisaging all OP's "friends" trying to get out of being chosen as the baby shower organiser?

Reading your posts, if you come across like that in RL, I am truely amazed you still have any friends, tbh.
Really, just go back and read what you are posting

I would organise the OP's baby shower but I'm washing my hair that month.

OP I have a friend like you. She got pregnant early last year, on her first month of trying. She knew I had been TTC for ages, and that DH and I both have fertility issues. Yet that didn't stop her from talking about Nothing. Else.

I have been happy for her, and sent her a present when her baby was born, but honestly I have distanced myself from her. Her utter lack of tact of self awareness when she knew that I had been struggling to cope with my fertility sent me a message loud and clear as to how self-centred and selfish she is. Just because your friends haven't told you doesn't mean some of them aren't having problems.

And also - it IS really bloody boring just listening to someone talk about their unborn child every single moment. Maybe your friends would be fine spending a little time talking about your pregnancy but if it's all you can talk about then yes, they're going to get pissed off.

Oh and BTW - I have become closer to those friends who had children or who are pregnant but who have been sensitive both to my problems and open minded enough to spend some time talking about non-baby stuff. They are eminently more interesting as people.

(And none of them expected or demanded a baby shower, including my 'can't talk about anything else friend' - the general feeling in my friendship circle is that they're really tacky. Maybe your friends feel the same way).

I'm wondering if you set a date for the election... then perhaps put to us the baby shower 'manifestos' ie themes, venue etc

Then we can all vote?! 🤣

Guilty "Oh god OP you want me to organise your babysh... wait... OH NOES I'M SO CLUMSY! AAAARGH SORRY OP I'LL BE IN HOSPITAL FOR THE NEXT TEN WEEKS HAVING RECONSTRUCTIVE SURGERY holy fucking christ breathe it's okay it was worth it I can survive this..."

Amazing.

Guilty I reckon it goes something like this:

"oh shit one of us is going to have to step up to her baby shower.."
"wait..shes pregnant?"

I love a kitchen.

If I wasn't certain before, the Gwyneth Paltrow comment has convinced me this is a wind up!

😂😂😂 CLASSICS!!!

Huge congratulations on you're pregnancy OP :)

I nominate Maui for a boy, Maurielle for a girl

Is now the time for me to talk about how shit my kitchen is? The dishwasher is "streamlined" (wtf is the actual, living point in fitting a three-bedroom-house with a dishwasher that can really only wash up after a small meal for two) and I'm pretty sure one of my cupboards is going to come down and kill me one day. Also some of the lights have gone under the extractor hood thing.

I have people-with-better-kitchens envy.

No new kitchen - but I got a new Kitchenaid kettle and matching toaster!
The excitement was intense.

How old are you, op? Are you friends younger (since you've done everything first and all?)

WildIrish, dear Gwynnie is just a hard-working homemaker.

I nominate her to organise the OP's baby shower.

This thread will be in the cunting Daily Fail tomorrow

Wait, I thought OP was Gwyneth Paltrow.

Gin I'd like to be at that shower...NOT!!! Classics!!!!

Do people in the Uk even do babyshowers? Only ones I've heard of are Americans. And they organised their own.

OP, I think you need to adjust your expectations. You don't have to like it, but you do have to accept that if you want these people to stick around, you are going to have to talk about your pregnancy a little less. You have another 3 1/2 months to go, that's going to be a very lonely period both before and after the baby comes if you've scared all your friends off. My friends were amazing after I had DD. Yours might still be if you tone it down a little now.