To want to find a guy who can't have children

[lifesjoys]

To co parent with me, so I don't have to do it alone??

NC for this, pretty outing!

Okay bear with me guys! Not looking for flaming. Just a new FT Mum who is so very sleep deprived, desperate & on her knees!

I'm literally crying writing this!

My month old baby cries whenever he's not asleep, 15 mins & he's awake crying again.

Ive not got PND, my mental health has improved in that sense, I'm just worn out, run down & feel alone.

I've got family however they've got their own responsibilities, so can only help so much....an hour here or there whilst I go shopping or whatever but nothing drastic.

I'm not with the father, nor does he have anything to do with our child (his choice).

I just didn't plan to be a single parent, I definitely didn't know it would be this hard & to be fair....by the time I knew I would be a single parent, I was already half way into my pregnancy!

I've even started looking at childminders for 1/2 mornings a week!

Sod it, I'm too tired to care.....flame away guys! Maybe I deserve it!

If the constipation becomes an issue then you could see about switching to ranitidine. Ds couldn't cope with gaviscon but was very happy on ranitidine. Takes a few days to work though so might be best to start sooner rather than later.

Can I just say OP - hats off to you and every other single parent who does it. Particularly with a newborn. What a bloody phenomenal woman you are! You don't realise it because you haven't known any different but the number of times I've asked myself how on earth I would do it all alone.

It takes tremendous mental stamina to get through it all. I am in awe of you

Oh and nothing g wrong at all with handing him over to a child minder a couple of times a week. It's exhausting being a full time mum (as any parent will tell you after a 3 week Easter holiday!). I know several women who are sahm and use a cm or nursery. The only problem I have with them is I'm slightly jealous that I can't do the same!

I had 3 under 2 and quite often wondered how I'd managed on my own - thank god DH appeared at 6 to take over for half an hour so I could drink hot tea!

That's all it's takes OP knowing you'll get a break - knowing you can sit unneeded for half an hour - having one nights sleep

Please take DM up in her offer and enjoy a bit of peace

You'll come back refreshed and much more able to cope

Having a newborn can be such hard work. You sound like you're making progress in getting the help you need. I echo the PPs who suggested safe cosleeping. I came to the conclusion with both of mine that if I didn't plan how to cosleep safely, I'd just fall asleep somewhere with them and that would be riskier. DD1 slept on my chest initially and then later on my bed with a side on the bed to stop her rolling out. DD2 would puke her whole feed if you lay her down within an hour of the feed. She slept propped up on me and then I moved her over to her cosleeper it once I was sure she wasn't going to puke.

Great news about your mum having your LO sometimes! That will be a real help.

It will be great for you to have done me time & also good for your LO to develop a good relationship with your parents.

You're doing grt!!
Remember to look after yourself! You're no use to your LO if you're not well, so little treats every so often! A £1 face mask or something if you're broke! Anything!!!

Keep it up.