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AIBU?

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Original poster

I am done with you x

230 replies

ChristinaParsons · 17/04/2017 04:09

Well? Both of us nearly 50, marriages of 20, years grown up children.
Both seperated a long time when we met. Got this message tonight
Said WHAT? Called him twice. No answer. My self respect is done
But why?

OP posts:
daisychain01 · 18/04/2017 19:06

If he is that pissed off with the OP I can't fathom why he would put a kiss at the end of the message.

Is it a smudgeon of sarcasm peut-être?

It is a very drip drip thread. If the OP is busy why didn't they wait til they aren't so busy unless it's an amateurish way of building suspense full of factual inaccuracies and contradictions

Payitforward55 · 18/04/2017 19:13

Flowers hope you are ok Christina. If he sent this intentionally and not by accident then your best way forward is to cut all ties and say nothing to him. In my experience the more you chaise the more he will run. If you ignore him (and you need to be very strong to do that) he will come crawling back to you. If that happens you can decide then what you want to do.

user1469300540 · 18/04/2017 19:14

💐

Reebs123 · 18/04/2017 19:24

Update?
Maybe the text was for someone else? Maybe for his ex? I always send my hubs texts to someone else.

Xanadu44 · 18/04/2017 19:25

Is this even real?

KingsCross88 · 18/04/2017 19:25

Do you think he was trying to be funny? Leave it a few days. If he doesn't contact you, then fuck him - he's a twat and you are well rid. Frankly if he's ready to dump someone because they didn't see his 'goodnight' text within 20 minutes, he's not someone you need in your life!

Crisscrosscranky · 18/04/2017 19:28

Ah the Easter hols are over so it's unlikely we'll hear from the OP again. I do wish they'd resolve their tall tales stories before disappearing...Biscuit

mrszebrastripe · 18/04/2017 19:40

Hello OP - we really need an update. I hope that things turned out ok for you x

deedeegee · 18/04/2017 19:42

The guy has got no balls to send an emaill like that and not even have a conversation F2F... don't get it..well rid...

I had to ditch DP of 4 years as he was totally self centred and disrespectful and had to do it F2F as I have done in the past- it's only fair...
Your guy is an arse..move on- not easy, but has to be done.

Booboo66 · 18/04/2017 19:47

If it was I'm done with you then it's probably not good news. If it was I give up with you and you hadn't replied to good night then it was probably in response to that and a half joke. Which was it?

FeedTheSharkAndItWIllBite · 18/04/2017 19:55

I wonder whether he really did want to break up or whether this is simply one big misunderstanding...?

twattymctwatterson · 18/04/2017 19:55

The op has disappeared because she posted here's for support and half of the people on the thread ripped into her without reading her posts properly. I thought that the first few at least were perfectly clear. I know this is AIBU but people need to remember that there's a real person involved here. Also troll hunting is against the rules and frankly dickish

embo1 · 18/04/2017 20:06

I give up...

Lovelymess · 18/04/2017 20:42

Just put "likewise" nothing else. What a twat

ScrambledSmegs · 18/04/2017 20:44

She said in her OP that she tried to call him. Twice. He didn't answer.

daisychain01 · 18/04/2017 20:46

I'm all for giving support, but when it's obvious it's akin to "Vague-Book"-ing it feels quite manipulative.

An update from the OP would put things right.

(Wanders off to make a cuppa instead)

Booboo66 · 18/04/2017 20:51

He didn't answer, maybe because it was the middle of the night and he'd already indicated he was going to bed!

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 18/04/2017 20:51
Confused
Lelloteddy · 18/04/2017 20:54

'We really need an update'? Hmm

Why exactly?

StealthPolarBear · 18/04/2017 20:54

Many posters on mn write in completely incomprehensible styles. I've noticed a new trend of saying the complete opposite of what is intended and everyone is just expected to read between the lines. The op is not unusual, no idea why people are only picking up on it on this thread.

Didyoumeantobesorude1 · 18/04/2017 21:01

Archaeologists of the future will regard this thread as the 21st century Linear B.

joolspoon · 18/04/2017 21:02

What if he wrote "I'm good with you" but auto correct did "I'm done with you"

HarryPottersMagicWand · 18/04/2017 21:15

There are many weird threads going at the moment.

Nofunkingworriesmate · 18/04/2017 21:19

Your post was very unclear, I think...
You both left 20 year marriages
Met, and have been in relationship for 18 months
No argument .... Just this text!!!??? I would assume it's a wrong number for it to be so rude and mean after no fall out snd long relationship

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 18/04/2017 21:26

Can't believe all this discussion about a text that short.

You've only got to skim through mumsnet to see the gobbledegook that predictive text and auto correct produces.

I suspect that the OP and her partner have sorted it out

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