Or is this woman in my car!

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Hello everyone.
Just curious as to wether I'm a hormonal grumpy little shit or if this cowbag is BU?
I pick OH up from work daily. (Not too far, would take about thirty to forty mins to walk, but unsociable hours, and grotty weather up north plus me liking to make sure he's home earlier rather than later so he doesn't wake us all up, I mean that it seems the easiest option!) anyway, he has a colleague who lives about half way home, but requires us to drive just shy of a mile round the back of our village iyswm. She has asked DP for lifts home a number of times, to which he replies "I've got to ask DP as I don't have a car at the moment and she's picking me up!" He then pootles out and asks if it is o.k to which I always reply yes as we are going almost past. (2-3 minute detour) absolutely fine.
But her attitude legitimately stinks this is where I think she's being U:

I have to park about five minutes away and I then walk up to dps work, where I wait. We then all walk down to the car. where this woman just barges past me doesn't say hello or even acknowledge me. Sits in the front seat of my car, (DP always drives as he actually enjoys it, and I do it out of necessity) leaving me in the 3rd row (VW transporter with car seats for DNs and goddaughter in middle!) AND DOESN'T SAY THANKS WHEN SHE LEAVES
She blatantly ignores me when I say Hi/bye personX, spends the whole time nattering to dp, who regularly tries to include me but he can barely get a word in tbh. And she knows it's my car, and my petrol etc.*

So I guess my AIBUs are:
Am I BU to feel grumpy?
Is she BU to ignore me?
Would I be U to give her one more chance and then tell DP to tell her to walk?

Cheers

Ooh I'm babysitting so I'll still be up, let us know what happens! Get your big girl pants on and be strong because you're driving!

Does she fancy him?

Why is your DP not saying anything? This is just so strange. Has he not noticed? Why does he even bother with her requests after seeing how she treats you.

This just isn't normal. If she is that rude and lacking social awareness then she needs some kind of intervention. Otherwise, there is something else going on.

Are we actually getting a live lift thread?

Geez, she's got some brass neck, how very odd she feels comfortable to treat you like this.

Next time she asks for a lift, the sentence you are looking for is this:

"No!"

If you need to expand try:

"In the past when we have been kind enough to give you a lift you have been rude and dismissive to me/my partner so we won't be doing it again."

No further explanation necessary.

Love, PigletJohn's suggestion.

I'd just not give her a lift again, but some of these options are really good

Play "Toad" loudly on the CD player, right to the end.

Drum on the dashboard all the way through.

Enough! No more lifts! That's it end of! No chat, you have nothing with this joker! Get strong because you can be and you don't have to deal with this . Done and dusted ! Text and done! Then you will feel like you've burst through the bubble of angst! Good luck

Goodness me

I wouldnt have let this happen for a 2nd time!!

You have the patience of a saint!!

Even if it wasn't your car & was your partners, like hell is some other woman plonking herself in the front with my partner 😄 or man for that matter!

Dont you get terrible travel sickness sitting in the back OP? I think you do...

Arrive at carparking place. Get in passenger seat and text your dh to come to the car. Refuse to move from the seat when they get to the car

That's it Floaty she feels comfortable treating the OP in this overtly rude way and the DP says nothing but instead keeps asking the OP for more lifts with this woman.

Sorry OP, I may be wrong but this may not be as benign as you think. Though I hope I am wrong.

She's most definitely after your OH.

Having said that she's also an incredibly rude bitch

clopy I'll do my best. but it'll probably be very boring.

I won't lie I'm starting to worry that she's trying it on with DP

Op are you me? This is exactly like the shit I put up with. I really want you to say something and see the reaction you get, then I may do the same.

I would not pick her up again.

Also just realised what day it is, and I won't be getting him til later! bloody bank holiday weekend making me think It's a monday

Yep she fancies your DH and you need to make it really clear to him that you won't be giving her anymore lifts and that he needs to slap her behaviour down hard

Aquire another child seat and say there is no space. . Roof bars are available if she has some bungee straps. . .

Oh maud we can be kind/pathetic/taken advantage of together!

Dont you get terrible travel sickness sitting in the back OP? I think you do...

Are you suggesting the OP downs a bottle of cod liver oil and thrown up all down the back of bitch colleague's hair? Borderline 'too far' totally too far but the vomming all over your own car would be so worth it

that I'm booked in for a valet next week

Just sayin'

I had a similar situation some years go with a friend of my ex. We'd pick him up, I didn't drink so I always drove him home and he'd get out the car, say thanks to my ex but never to me.
I lost it one night, said I was sick of his manners (and the fact he was never bloody ready when we picked him up!) and said I'd never drive him home again. He did say thanks that night (hallelujah!) but too late. For the next god knows how many years (7 years I believe it was,) my ex couldn't drink as he had to drive him home, even though as I never drink I could have done it. I never drove him home again.