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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Or is this woman in my car!

532 replies

NameSame · 15/04/2017 19:51

Hello everyone.
Just curious as to wether I'm a hormonal grumpy little shit or if this cowbag is BU?
I pick OH up from work daily. (Not too far, would take about thirty to forty mins to walk, but unsociable hours, and grotty weather up north plus me liking to make sure he's home earlier rather than later so he doesn't wake us all up, I mean that it seems the easiest option!) anyway, he has a colleague who lives about half way home, but requires us to drive just shy of a mile round the back of our village iyswm. She has asked DP for lifts home a number of times, to which he replies "I've got to ask DP as I don't have a car at the moment and she's picking me up!" He then pootles out and asks if it is o.k to which I always reply yes as we are going almost past. (2-3 minute detour) absolutely fine.
But her attitude legitimately stinks this is where I think she's being U:

I have to park about five minutes away and I then walk up to dps work, where I wait. We then all walk down to the car. where this woman just barges past me doesn't say hello or even acknowledge me. Sits in the front seat of my car, (DP always drives as he actually enjoys it, and I do it out of necessity) leaving me in the 3rd row (VW transporter with car seats for DNs and goddaughter in middle!) AND DOESN'T SAY THANKS WHEN SHE LEAVES
She blatantly ignores me when I say Hi/bye personX, spends the whole time nattering to dp, who regularly tries to include me but he can barely get a word in tbh. And she knows it's my car, and my petrol etc.*

So I guess my AIBUs are:
Am I BU to feel grumpy?
Is she BU to ignore me?
Would I be U to give her one more chance and then tell DP to tell her to walk?

Cheers

OP posts:
haveacupoftea · 16/04/2017 00:46

Fab!! Good for you Grin

NameSame · 16/04/2017 00:47

talking No DCs as of yet. Just got a large extended family

OP posts:
NoSquirrels · 16/04/2017 00:47

Whoop! The meek shall inherit -rise up and revolt- ...

Make sure your DP understands no more lifts. Get him to practice saying "I'm sorry Rude Cah Colleague but NameSame says it's not convenient" every time she asks.

TalkingofMichaelAngel0 · 16/04/2017 00:49

I got confused by the carseats and wondered how other people with children get to leve the house after 7pm Grin

FeralBeryl · 16/04/2017 00:50

WineCake - you deserve them!
Bloody well done you. Hopefully she'll be bemused enough to actually question why tonight was different and that she's been behaving like an absolute twat.

FritzDonovan · 16/04/2017 00:50

Pick your dh up, wait for her to come down for her lift, then drive off, at speed, whilst laughing maniacally at her whilst giving her the finger. Head off into the distance and leave her
Hope this is how it went down OP. Even better if you did that thing where you drive on a bit just as they reach for the door handle. Repeatedly. Then drive off.

HappenedForAReisling · 16/04/2017 00:57

Even better if you did that thing where you drive on a bit just as they reach for the door handle. Repeatedly. Then drive off.

PMSL! That would have been hilarious!

PyongyangKipperbang · 16/04/2017 00:59

She is doing the female version of willy waving (Tit Jiggling?!) and probably doesnt even want to have an affair with him, but wants him to want to have an affair with her so she can feel superior to you. Met her kind before, will flirt and get a man after and be very smug that she could have him if she wanted to but she doesnt want to. The one that sticks in my memory seemed to genuinely believe that she knew every man better than his wife/GF Hmm

Basically trying to Alpha female you. You slapped her right down tonight and she will fucking hate your guts for it, so be warned that the snippy comments to your DH about you will start soon. Things about how you look that are said in a faux concerned way but that are actually insults....

ChasedByBees · 16/04/2017 01:07

I don't think she deserves that last chance at all.

JorahsMissus · 16/04/2017 01:08

Did she say thanks this time?

I wouldn't even make up an excuse when she asks next time. No, sorry, is just fine.

NameSame · 16/04/2017 01:12

No is a complete sentence all by itself, and sure as hell mumsnet is teaching me that. I hope one day six months from now, doing a search of my threads will let you see a journey from wet flannel to queen bee! 💕

Unmumsnetty hugs to all of you! Flowers

And happy Easter! Easter Smile

OP posts:
NameSame · 16/04/2017 01:15

jorah
There have never been thanks not even today.

pyong I think you're right, and I find it odd that she even thinks that's ok.

OP posts:
giraffesCantReachTheirToes · 16/04/2017 01:16

Well done

catswithbowties · 16/04/2017 01:23

Totally worth waiting for, mad applause for you, OP. Aaaand now I can sleep. Grin

PyongyangKipperbang · 16/04/2017 01:48

Dont aspire to be Queen Bee, no one genuinely likes them!

Be the one off to the side with proper friends, watching Queen Bee making a tit of herself while you smugly wander off with narry a care!

HappenedForAReisling · 16/04/2017 01:56

Sorry if I missed it OP, but what is her age compared to yours?

emmyrose2000 · 16/04/2017 01:58

Well done, OP. How did you get her to sit in the backseat this time? Did she try and get into the front seat at all?

PyongyangKipperbang · 16/04/2017 02:02

I am betting that she didnt try to get into the front once she realised the OP was driving. She isnt trying to bitch slap the DH, just the OP so she wouldnt try to assert any authority over him.

I really wish she was on MN so we could giver her a talking to about how pathetic she is.

Madwoman5 · 16/04/2017 02:47

Wait in the passenger seat for them to come to you. Let dh drive. When she starts to explain that she gets car sick in the back/ needs the space, just talk over her, put your hand on his knee and ask him how his day was. Then turn the radio on and sing loudly reminding dh of that great holiday when this was number one, that funny thing that happened or remember that really weird stalker woman who just wouldn't get the hint, ha ha! When she gets out, say bye really loud, wait five seconds then just as loud and with a smile say No, you're quite welcome! Never get out of the passenger seat, even if she asks, just say no. You need to get control of this one, she is being rude and possessive over YOUR husband. Bugger that!

Madwoman5 · 16/04/2017 02:51

Just read update, well done you!

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 16/04/2017 03:20

Yes very well done OP!

AnathemaPulsifer · 16/04/2017 04:04

Well done OP, that was awesome!

gingeristhenewblack43 · 16/04/2017 07:16

Well done name. I was itching for the Easter egg hunt to be over this morn so I could grab my phone and catch up Grin

Anniegetyourgun · 16/04/2017 08:02

You did it just right IMO. Some of the more robust suggestions above are hilarious but it's probably just as well you didn't do them. Sniggering to yourself about the idea does help though. Like imagining you had a James Bond-style ejector seat in the front and just as you've built up a bit of speed between some empty fields press the button and !!!SPOOOING!!! Away she goes, her despairing wail fading away behind you in the darkness. But of course one would never do such a thing Halo

Whisky2014 · 16/04/2017 08:18

What did your DH say?

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