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AIBU?

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Or is this woman in my car!

532 replies

NameSame · 15/04/2017 19:51

Hello everyone.
Just curious as to wether I'm a hormonal grumpy little shit or if this cowbag is BU?
I pick OH up from work daily. (Not too far, would take about thirty to forty mins to walk, but unsociable hours, and grotty weather up north plus me liking to make sure he's home earlier rather than later so he doesn't wake us all up, I mean that it seems the easiest option!) anyway, he has a colleague who lives about half way home, but requires us to drive just shy of a mile round the back of our village iyswm. She has asked DP for lifts home a number of times, to which he replies "I've got to ask DP as I don't have a car at the moment and she's picking me up!" He then pootles out and asks if it is o.k to which I always reply yes as we are going almost past. (2-3 minute detour) absolutely fine.
But her attitude legitimately stinks this is where I think she's being U:

I have to park about five minutes away and I then walk up to dps work, where I wait. We then all walk down to the car. where this woman just barges past me doesn't say hello or even acknowledge me. Sits in the front seat of my car, (DP always drives as he actually enjoys it, and I do it out of necessity) leaving me in the 3rd row (VW transporter with car seats for DNs and goddaughter in middle!) AND DOESN'T SAY THANKS WHEN SHE LEAVES
She blatantly ignores me when I say Hi/bye personX, spends the whole time nattering to dp, who regularly tries to include me but he can barely get a word in tbh. And she knows it's my car, and my petrol etc.*

So I guess my AIBUs are:
Am I BU to feel grumpy?
Is she BU to ignore me?
Would I be U to give her one more chance and then tell DP to tell her to walk?

Cheers

OP posts:
AwaywiththePixies27 · 16/04/2017 00:31

Sorry. Sidled in late to the thread was too lazy to read the last couple of pages. As you were Mumsnet. Wine Easter Smile

redshoeblueshoe · 16/04/2017 00:31

I agree with Reisling - if I was having an affair I'd be extra nice and sit in the back not that I've any experience

MadMags · 16/04/2017 00:32

No update?! I'm heavily invested here!

IhatchedaSnorlax · 16/04/2017 00:33

Hope it went ok Op.

charliesfavouritebook · 16/04/2017 00:33

Rooting for you NameSame!

OwlOfBrown · 16/04/2017 00:34

Sod it. I'm going to have to go to bed without an update or the Easter Bunny won't be up before the kids are. Hit and miss already I'd say.

HappenedForAReisling · 16/04/2017 00:34

Me neither, redshoeblueshoe just kind of guessing really....

chastenedButStillSmiling · 16/04/2017 00:36

Blimey... this is a LATE lift. She really, really should be more grateful. How else would she get home????

I'd be paying for petrol, kissing your arse and buying you wine for a lift to my door at this time!

Chippednailvarnishing · 16/04/2017 00:38

I give up.

I'm off to Bedfordshire.

HappenedForAReisling · 16/04/2017 00:39
NameSame · 16/04/2017 00:41

She's gone. Sat in the back seat. And in my car for the last time. I chatted merrily to DP about nice holidays and the new kitchenaide I'm after. I stopped at the bottom of her street, (she probs has another .6 miles to go) I cut her off every time she spoke by turning up a song and reminding DP of that time in Amsterdam/Brazil/Australia, then proceeded to say "you're welcome have a lovely evening" as she left.

One small step for name
one giant leap for wet flannel kind

I haven't specifically vocalised the never again part, but if she asks again it's defo a no from me.

OP posts:
redshoeblueshoe · 16/04/2017 00:42

Reisling - I didn't mean to suggest you had, but totally agree that if someone is having a secret fling surely they would act as though they didn't care about the other person Grin
here whilst we wait Wine

TalkingofMichaelAngel0 · 16/04/2017 00:42

How has your oh reacted?

iknowimcoming · 16/04/2017 00:42

Yay - go name go name! GrinGrinGrinGrin

redshoeblueshoe · 16/04/2017 00:43

Yay - brilliant update

DonaldTrumpsTrump · 16/04/2017 00:43

Good outcome 😄 did you or DH husband drive?

NameSame · 16/04/2017 00:44

She did also find a half eaten sausage roll down the side of the seat. And aome treatment for thinning hair.

Not as exciting as I'd have liked but I feel better at least.

Sorry to keep you up.

OP posts:
IhatchedaSnorlax · 16/04/2017 00:44

Well done - make sure to stick to your guns in future too!!

TalkingofMichaelAngel0 · 16/04/2017 00:44

Out of total curiosity, who looks after your children when youre running these late night lifts?

JonSnowsWhore · 16/04/2017 00:44

God OP how rude of you Grin so she didn't say thank you this time either then? Was it just your OH she tried to talk to before getting cut off?

honeylulu · 16/04/2017 00:45

She sat in the back!
Do the dance! Do the dance!

NameSame · 16/04/2017 00:45

DP seeming somewhat hurt at incinuation he would have an affair...

I can see what he means.

Hmmm.

OP posts:
tabbymog · 16/04/2017 00:45

Great stuff, Name! Good on you. I was here mentally cheering you on. Grin

redshoeblueshoe · 16/04/2017 00:46

name - we have enjoyed it Grin
especially with a good ending Wine

HappenedForAReisling · 16/04/2017 00:46

Well done! Grin