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To think my friend is a tight arse???

575 replies

FataliePorkman · 15/04/2017 18:20

Just been out for lunch with three friends and our DCs- the children all had the same (lunchboxes with a carton drink and then a small crispy cake) but us adults ate/drank varying amounts. Two of the friends are a couple and the other is single like me. Let's call her Joan.

3/4 of us shared a bottle and extra glass of wine and 2 soft drinks. Joan didn't drink as she lives further away from the pub than us so was driving.
We all had a starter and a main course and then we got a chessboard to share between us- but only me and the couple had some. Joan had 3 DC with her, I have 3 DC and the couple have 1 DC.

Anyway the bill came and friend from the couple suggested we split the bill 3 ways equally. I was fine with this, as were the couple. Joan refused and said she would only pay for what her and her DC had.

Awkward tension followed- Joan paid for her meal and her DC while me and my other two friends split the bill.

AIBU to think she is a bit tight??

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dustarr73 · 16/04/2017 07:37

The OP doesn't like Joan standing up for herself.They all thought they would have a good lunch partly funded by Joan.

But I can't understand people on this thread not having the backbone to pay separately. They split the bill and come on here to moan about it.

MamaHanji · 16/04/2017 07:50

It was awkward and she's a tight fucker for not paying for your wine and Camembert.

You shitting me?

You're the awkward one here. You drank and had cheeseboard and 3 children and happily let the others pay more than their share for you...

Screwinthetuna · 16/04/2017 07:59

You want your friend to pay for you to get drunk and your cheese? You also want it split when you have 3 kids, drank lots of wine and had cheese when she didn't...um, YABU and don't sound like a very nice friend

Tinkerbec · 16/04/2017 08:02

Love that spreadsheet.

I wonder..
Did Joan drink tap water? Did the kids drink tap water too?

FrancisCrawford · 16/04/2017 08:15

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Tinkerbec · 16/04/2017 08:18

Ah yes if course

Surely Joan had a drink though or maybe she didn't.

Greenkit · 16/04/2017 08:30

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madcapcat · 16/04/2017 08:34

Love Team joan

I never have the balls as a tapwater drinking vegetarian to object to the pisstakers, though it is usually only work meals that are a problem cos my friends don't take the piss. Have never forgotten the Xmas meal where the only veggie option s were melon and stir-fry tofu and 29 others had crispy duck, steak gallons of wine and started on the Irish coffee with the worst offenders having 5 of those each. Splitting the bill meant I paid an extra £35. And this was in 1990 when that bought a Lot - my real share should have been £4.70. Not that I'm bitter.....

maddening · 16/04/2017 08:36

So what did Joan's come to and what did your split come to?

I personally prefer to pay for what I had so I can order without worrying about costing someone else extra or vica versa

SailAwayWithMeHoney · 16/04/2017 08:46

@kiwigeekmum

Brilliant spreadsheet!!

GoodDayToYou · 16/04/2017 08:53

Team Joan!

LittleMermaidRose · 16/04/2017 09:05

It sounds to me like she couldn't afford it, that's probably why she didn't eat any of the cheese board.
I think it's always best to pay for your own when out, it makes it much fairer and saves embarrassment for those who possibly can't afford as much.

Would you have been happy to split the bill with someone who bought champagne and you didn't have any?

Edballsisoneniftydancer · 16/04/2017 09:12

Yep, in the words of Moica Geller Bing that spreadsheet gave me a teeny tiny orgasm!

JustSpeakSense · 16/04/2017 09:20

Amazing spreadsheet!

But I disagree that £4 glass of wine would've been split between adults (surely each adult would've had their own - except Joan)

Also I'm guessing Joan had a soft drink.

TalkingofMichaelAngel0 · 16/04/2017 09:22

op is 'Joan' the recently separated friend with an alcohol problem and money issues aka 'Fiona'?

limon · 16/04/2017 09:35

Yabvu.

lottieandmia · 16/04/2017 09:39

Where is the OP? If I open my threads I'm on later to see

'This has been deleted because it was started by a PBP' I'm going to get the rage! Angry

Berthatydfil · 16/04/2017 09:41

I can't believe anyone thinks Joan should have split the bill. Who does that?
Greedy tight fuckers that's who.

Maybe Joan doesn't like cheese - I would never have a cheese board when eating out. Also she was driving and had 3 children in the car so wouldn't have had wine.

topcat2014 · 16/04/2017 09:43

@kiwi - scrolling through all the new pages was worth it just for the spreadsheet!

Itshello · 16/04/2017 09:46

I used to go out with a group of friends two of whom used to put triple bacardis on the bill. It was also sneaky, not who wants a drink? but a quiet word with the waiter.

I hate this scenario! Let her pay separately.

RufusTheRenegadeReindeer · 16/04/2017 09:49

I think the OP is one of the couple Grin

FiveShelties · 16/04/2017 09:54

Kiwi - spreadsheet was brilliant.

I would much rather pay for my own, so I don't have to worry about ordering another glass of wine, or three.

RiversrunWoodville · 16/04/2017 09:58

Definitely team Joan although starting to wonder if she has driven back and taken her revenge on the op with a cheese knife

Itshello · 16/04/2017 10:05

kiwi I would love a generic spreadsheet I can fill in at the end of a night out to divvy up the bill.

Last time I went out there were 18 of us and I wasn't drinking but I did have dessert. Still felt miffed I paid for everybody's wine.

Berthatydfil · 16/04/2017 10:08

I did think op might have been Joan but in the absence of any further posting me I'm now thinking the following
Op in righteous indignation "Joan is tight"
MN virtually unanimously "Joan was not tight in fact you were tight and greedy" and gives Op a right roasting.
Op slinks off never to be seen again