To think its a bit weird being close to 40 and your parents taking you on holiday and paying for everything

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Just that really. Someone I know was just talking about it, she's childfree, and has a good disposable income and does it every year.

I just found it a bit weird, I get that her parents have more money but she can afford it herself. She kind of looked down on me that I didn't do it and said a clanger about my parents "must not want to go on holiday with me." She's an only child.

A bit different if you are broke and your parents do it as a one off to treat you.

OP I suspect there's more to the relationship between the daughter and the parents than you've told us here. Anyone speaking to me about my relationship with my parents and them paying for a holiday for us all wouldn't raise an eyebrow as they can see I'm an independent and balanced 50 yo. For you to think her relationship is weird there must be more to it?

My SIL is entirely tied to her mother's apron strings and part of that includes going on holiday with them, if you look at that in isolation then it doesn't seem weird, it's the rest in addition to that that does.

No @user, right thread, I was just being flippant & silly about a post way upthread.

I agree with your points above businesslike as it happens, I initially thought it a bit weird that this woman had explicitly mentioned that her parents paid for everything, as while pp have mentioned that it's none of op's business, I couldn't help but think that's also the woman in question's business to keep to herself.

Now though I can't help but think the convo was a bit more like this

Woman: mentions holiday away with mum & dad

Op: oh yeah, who's paying for that then?

Woman: well, they're treating me

Op: goady comment

Woman: well your parents obvs don't want to go on holiday with you

i think the bottom line is whether you are 4 or 40 you are still there child .if everyone happy then why not .you are being a bit judgemental .i am late 40,s and would love my mother to be here to go on holiday with .

I go away with my Mum often & she pays!
Is there some sort of rule whereby when your child is 18 you stop doing stuff with them and treating them?
I'll never stop treating my DC to things! Why not share the money you have with the people you love?

My parents and later my mum took us on holiday. Although of the baby boomer generation we had both been financially wiped out by divorce and struggled to get by. I have wonderful memories which I treasure now that they are both gone and just wish we could do the same for our family.

I'm only 27 and husband 33, I'd jump at the chance for a free holiday with parents 😁

I'm taking mine away for a week this summer. The younger ones - teenagers - really love the adult children being there who are much more fun than I am. I don't mind paying. I don't do it for company - I never get enough time on my own actually and had a week somewhere hot on my own in January and can do that whenever I like but I do like to get all the 5 children together (and the next generation) when I can once or twice a year. When I can't afford it any more I will just stop it -it's not an issue.

If they don't want to come that's fine too - we didn't go with our parents once adult and in fact my parents were not that keen on holidays and rarely went on them actually.